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Original poster

To ask him to wait 15 minutes before I get out of the bath

53 replies

HappilyChatterly · 25/02/2013 21:11

I'm pretty certain I was but the PMT demon on my shoulder keeps trying to convince me I wasn't....
I am going for a bath, I ask DH if he needs the toilet, he says he does not. He knows I like to bathe for a reasonable amount of time so "Do you need the toilet?" means, now or will you it he next 30 mins. He says he doesn't.

I run my bath and set up the latest Bkack Mirror on the iPod to watch. 10 minutes in he comes in, "how much longer have you got in there?" he needs the toilet and would like me to get out. He says you can just pop back in once I'm finished.

I'm pissed off because I asked and his digestive system is such that he knew when I asked he would need to go. He just thought he might be able to hold it. (just go! I asked if you needed to go, that is the time to go!) He takes ages and it would take at least 10 minutes for the air quality to return to breathable standards.

I'm really pissed off so I tell him I I'll get out when the show is over. I asked if he needed it, he said no, knowing he probably would actually- live with the consequences.

I sat through the rest of the show feeling v.guilty.

So WIBU? (I think I was, his puppy dog eyes make me think I was, or at least a bit mean.)

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blackeyedsusan · 25/02/2013 21:15

lock the bathroom door next time.

GloriaPritchett · 25/02/2013 21:16

Well if it takes 10 mins to clear and he was trying to hold it, he was trying to do a good thing? (I can't believe I'm talking about this Confused)

JackieTheFart · 25/02/2013 21:16

YANBU. You could set a watch with DH's arse, but mine is more...unreliable. Hence the reason DH doesn't have long baths Grin

storminabuttercup · 25/02/2013 21:18

This is why we have 2 toilets!

havingamadmoment · 25/02/2013 21:21

I would tell him to sod off surely an adult can wait 15 minutes.

bigfatguff · 25/02/2013 21:21

Could he not just go while you were in the bath? I would just have told my DH to get on with it or wait.

BigPigLittlePig · 25/02/2013 21:24

bigfatguff I for one would not like to be in the same room as my dh whilst he drops the kids off at the pool.

maras2 · 25/02/2013 21:25

That's disgusting.No blooming need for it.Pig.

MusicalEndorphins · 25/02/2013 21:29

I would have got out of the tub, but secretly felt a bit disgruntled, since you did ask his beforehand. Unless it was an unexpected emergency, that he had no control over.

bigfatguff · 25/02/2013 21:31

Bigpig - fair enough. I've two DC still in nappies and am probably immune to poo and pongs by now.

BambieO · 25/02/2013 21:34

Haha I have been upset this evening and this thread has made me laugh so much!

btw YANBU you asked so now he waits! I would let DH go and have a chat whilst he does but I am aware that is rank to most people Grin

BambieO · 25/02/2013 21:35

Although I'm never allowed to witness the 'wipe' haha not that I can say I would ever want to! Adds to the mystery haha

BigPigLittlePig · 25/02/2013 21:35

I too have a lo in nappies and a cat with minimal bum control (gross) whhich is why I value poo-free time! I also value being able to poo alone, an increasingly rare event Sad

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HappilyChatterly · 25/02/2013 21:36

It was an emergency but only because he didn't go when he had the chance.

I couldn't hang out in the bath, it would be the opposite of relaxing.

Two toilets...that's the dream. It would make my Happily Ever After....

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JeffFaFa · 25/02/2013 21:38

Maybe he didnt know he had to go, i can go from not needing to needing NOW in a minute flat, dh often has to jump out baths and showers for me, i have IBS though so maybe just me, i cant speak for others digestive systems tbh

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HappilyChatterly · 25/02/2013 21:39

This is making me laugh! DH just looked at me suspiciously, "your not on some forum talking about me shitting are you?" um.....

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BigPigLittlePig · 25/02/2013 21:41

I love poo chat, I really do have a mental age more fitting of an 8 year old boy than a grown woman.

CatsRule · 25/02/2013 23:15

bigfatguff I've never heard that expression before...just had to read this thread out to my dh as he wanted to know what I was laughing at!

I've been feeling crappy (no pun intended) all day inlaw induced crappy and this has really cheered me up Smile

McNewPants2013 · 25/02/2013 23:23

It very rare I get to bath on my own ( dd aged 3 always jumps in with me) so on the rare chance I get the bathroom to myself I would be in a foul mood if DH decides to pollute the air.

RaspberryRuffle · 25/02/2013 23:27

Oh dear OP, I misunderstood this line first time: "I'm really pissed off so I tell him I I'll get out when the show is over" and thought 'the show' was him.

spiritedaway · 25/02/2013 23:32

Raspberry. . You just made me laugh in much! That would have been such a class line :-)

spiritedaway · 25/02/2013 23:34

So much i meant. . still laughing btw

spiritedaway · 25/02/2013 23:35

Punishing him by letting him in and scrutinizing his every movement :-)

RaspberryRuffle · 25/02/2013 23:42

Yes Spirited, that's what I thought OP meant, thought it was rather extreme but up to her...wasn't sure if his discomfort at 'performing' would outweigh hers (in terms of inhaling noxious gases). If it were my DH I wouldn't stick around!

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HappilyChatterly · 25/02/2013 23:51

The Show! That's so funny Raspberry. I might buy DH a little chocolate bar tomorrow to say thank you for providing so much entertainment.

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