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AIBU?

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To ask him to wait 15 minutes before I get out of the bath

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HappilyChatterly · 25/02/2013 21:11

I'm pretty certain I was but the PMT demon on my shoulder keeps trying to convince me I wasn't....
I am going for a bath, I ask DH if he needs the toilet, he says he does not. He knows I like to bathe for a reasonable amount of time so "Do you need the toilet?" means, now or will you it he next 30 mins. He says he doesn't.

I run my bath and set up the latest Bkack Mirror on the iPod to watch. 10 minutes in he comes in, "how much longer have you got in there?" he needs the toilet and would like me to get out. He says you can just pop back in once I'm finished.

I'm pissed off because I asked and his digestive system is such that he knew when I asked he would need to go. He just thought he might be able to hold it. (just go! I asked if you needed to go, that is the time to go!) He takes ages and it would take at least 10 minutes for the air quality to return to breathable standards.

I'm really pissed off so I tell him I I'll get out when the show is over. I asked if he needed it, he said no, knowing he probably would actually- live with the consequences.

I sat through the rest of the show feeling v.guilty.

So WIBU? (I think I was, his puppy dog eyes make me think I was, or at least a bit mean.)

OP posts:

expatinscotland · 25/02/2013 23:53

that would piss me off.

spiritedaway · 25/02/2013 23:57

so funny! And my pun was intended btw

RaspberryRuffle · 26/02/2013 00:02

Loved the pun Spirited, maybe you could grab a stool and watch the show too? Sorry that's too much. But at least the DH is getting a reward having had us giggling at his expense.

Doubletroublemummy2 · 26/02/2013 00:07

No yanbu, but yes a teeeny tiiny bit mean,

TheDetective · 26/02/2013 00:31

My bowels are a tad dodgy. Sometimes I think I might need to go, but not quite ready. You can't push a poo out that ain't fully cooked IMO! Sometimes it just sneaks up on you, and boom, it's ready!

Feel sorry for DH! I sympathise! But if he was just holding it in, then YANBU!

I wish my arse would behave itself. Post DS it is 10x worse. I can't even control my farts FGS!!

monsterchild · 26/02/2013 00:37

Raspberry I don't think you'd be wanting to grab a stool in that particular situation....

OkayHazel · 26/02/2013 01:04

Ohh youre one of those couples who doesn't poo in front of each other. Okay.

GreenEggsAndNichts · 26/02/2013 01:13

lol at your DP sussing that you're talking about his shit habits :)

This is why I'm more than happy to keep the separate toilet room arrangement in our new house. I could probably have the wall taken out to make it one big room, but it really is useful to keep it on its own.

Angelina7 · 26/02/2013 01:21

I would defo have made him wait till I had had my bath, you were kind enough to ask & spell it out to him before you had ur bath and a grown man can wait!!! I wouldn't be able to relax as much knowing he is waiting, but I'd still make him wait & if he moaned after, i'd tell him off like a child so that he won't ever make the silly error again!

fortifiedwithtea · 26/02/2013 02:25

I don't know what to think to be honest. You like a half hour soak but Black Mirror goes on for a hour and was shit tonight IMHO. So were you going to sit there until you turned into a prune or get out mid way and miss abit while drying off?

Overall Yanbu probably. Maybe DH was putting off a crap so he didn't delay your baath by stinking out the bathroom. Then couldn't wait any longer.

fortifiedwithtea · 26/02/2013 02:27

I meant YABU. I'm up far too late to be MNetting

SquinkiesRule · 26/02/2013 02:38

Next time send him to the loo like a small child and tell him to squeeze it out cause you will be locking the door.

Kytti · 26/02/2013 03:32

Oh not this again.

YABVVU so is he. Aren't you in a relationship together? Haven't you had kids together? But you can't sit in a bath while he goes to the loo, and he can't go while you're there?

Bloody hell. Don't you have a shower curtain?

This is so so so so so silly.

nooka · 26/02/2013 03:45

I would be very unhappy if my dh had a poo whilst I was in the bath because his poos smell really bad and he both scrunches and stands up, which even after 20 odd years is too much for me. Peeing I have no problem with. I'd not poo when he was having a bath either. Luckily we have two bathrooms :)

NatashaBee · 26/02/2013 03:49

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SquinkiesRule · 26/02/2013 03:51

I don't want to even be in the same area of the house when Dh goes, he's toxic. Held hostage while the bath cools is asking to be gassed to death.

Iteotwawki · 26/02/2013 06:04

We don't have a shower curtain, the showers are the other end of the room to the bath. So not everyone could draw the curtain and allow someone else to use the bathroom while they were enjoying a soak.

Luckily the loo is in a different room altogether :)

If you'd asked and he said no then on his own head be it. Next time he'll grab the chance to go beforehand and you'll either have to sit in the atmosphere afterwards or delay the bath until the air has cleared.

Toadinthehole · 26/02/2013 06:09

You both clearly don't like using the toilet in front of each other. YABU for that.

Alternatively, YABU for not getting out of the bath for five minutes to let him use the toilet.

If your privacy is so important, I suggest you head to the nearest antiques shop and buy a chamber pot.

Finally YABU for sitting in the bath for 30 minutes. Come on. If you've only got one bathroom, it can't be used as a place for privacy.

ErikNorseman · 26/02/2013 06:36

Ohh youre one of those couples who doesn't poo in front of each other. Okay.

What sort of couple does poo in front of each other? What is wrong with some people? I'd rather be single forever than have the sort of relationship where it's ok to poo in front of each other. Oh my god.

DragonMamma · 26/02/2013 06:43

YANBU

This is something my dh would do if it wasn't for our downstairs loo.

I would never ever be in the room whilst he pooed, I don't like seeing him weeing either but I'd live with that if he was busting to go.

I don't understand people that can't hold their poo in - I go when it's convenient and never have to go right then and there. Obviously if you have ibs then that's a different matter altogether.

Oh and I would never poo in front of dh. Absolutely no need to.

Otherworld · 26/02/2013 06:48

OP YANBU.

And for the record - I'm in total agreement with Erik.

NumericalMum · 26/02/2013 06:56

YANBU, mainly because when we only had one bathroom my Dh would instantly need a poo when I got in the shower. Drove me insane. He is in his 30s, not 3 FFS!

I don't know anyone who would poo in front of their DH. That is just vile. I will do everything else without a door closed but I can't relax enough if anyone else is in the room, even my DC.

nooka · 26/02/2013 06:59

I wouldn't care about pooing if dh was in the shower or vice versa unless it was very stinky. I just don't want to take that chance if I'm in the bath as having a long soak is important to me, and the smell might well drive me out.

LadyRainicorn · 26/02/2013 08:02

Ha ha ha. I'm so not classy. We poo in front of each other. We even report on particularly impressive specimens.

Farting is more of a contentious issue. It smells like something died and rotted in a sewer about half the time I guff. If we're in the car he won't open his window to get rid had to be the other side or he claims he's being gassed.

We have one loo brush for two toilets too. We're going to some dirty minger hell aren't we?

Kytti · 26/02/2013 08:04

Bahahahahahhahahaaaaaaa! You're all on about poo now! I love it!

NumericalMum of COURSE you know people who poo in front of their dh. They just don't tell you because you'll squeal in horror.

Each to their own! :)

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