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to be furious with the holiday club and the selfish mother

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Domjolly · 20/02/2013 18:58

so ds (13) was at his holiday club today when in the car i asked him how his day had been

he told me that some mum had booked 8 children in and also given birthday invites to 8 of the children that are regulars and are already regsitered

and paid for then all and then at luch time came back with a cake and mc donalds just for the said children Shock whilest the other children at the hoilday club just had to watch them having there birthday party

so basically instead of paying for cenetre to put on a party the mother used the hoilday club as a cheap way of having a do

i am pissed of with the hoilday club for letting it happen and also what kind of mother would do that so 9 other children could stand and watch.

it was ds last day today thank god or i would be having words just out of order

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CheddarGorgeous · 20/02/2013 19:01
Shock
slimshady · 20/02/2013 19:03

Wow.
That's shite.

meddie · 20/02/2013 19:07

Maybe that was the only way she could have her childs birthday at the centre and afford it. Or maybe knowing that 8 of her childs friends were already booked in, it was the only way all her friends would be together to celebrate her birthday.
She's 13. Old enough to understand, not like she was 4 and couldnt understand why she got no cake.

ENormaSnob · 20/02/2013 19:08

What kind of holiday club is this?

Very very odd.

squeakytoy · 20/02/2013 19:08

I am more surprised that 13 years old need to go to holiday clubs..

Sugarice · 20/02/2013 19:09

Incredibly cheeky I agree Shock

What were the holiday club supposed to do? They want the money and went along with it.

Complain then don't use that club again is your answer.

germyrabbit · 20/02/2013 19:10

most definitely odd! i would ask the leader why that happened if it were me.

Goldmandra · 20/02/2013 19:10

That is dreadful.

I can't imagine why the manager of the club agreed to this. There is no excuse for treating children in this way.

Even if this was the only way she could think of to give her child a birthday celebration she should have been told that she had to buy for all or none. If this wasn't possible the manager should have said no.

I know your DS won't be going back but i still think you should let them know how he feels for the sake of other children in the future.

BoneyBackJefferson · 20/02/2013 19:11

YANBU

But

How do you know that the club knew about it?

overmydeadbody · 20/02/2013 19:11

Well when DS used to go to soft play centres there was usually a group of children there for a party, they got cake and food while the other kids didn't.

It's not really much different is it?

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Domjolly · 20/02/2013 19:14

squeakytoy not sure why he dosent need to go he likes to he enjoys the swimming, football and mini golf they have they have the trampolines out ect finds it much more fun than sitting at home or wondering round the park in the cold with mates from school also the amount we pay for the club which is cheap i would not be able to afgord all the activtives if i had to take hime and some friends sepratletly

The club is usually very good and i am very surprised this happend

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Goldmandra · 20/02/2013 19:15

It's not really much different is it?

It is different when the children are all in the care of the same people. I would never in million years allow some childminded children to look on while others celebrated a birthday together.

At soft play centres your child is in your care and can go away if they don't want to watch, be given alternative treats and won't know the children celebrating and therefore feel excluded.

ThreeBeeOneGee · 20/02/2013 19:16

That's just rude. If I'd been one of the invited children then I would have felt uncomfortable and if I'd been one of the others then I would have felt excluded.

It would have been far better just to bring a cake for everyone to share after lunch on her child's birthday and do a party or treat for a few friends on a different day.

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Domjolly · 20/02/2013 19:17

BoneyBackJefferson well the club must of been when she walked in at lunch time with a cake and mc donalds Confused

overmydeadbody i dont think so because you can actually book the soft play for partys amd usually they have a little seprate bit for the food and cake

I

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Domjolly · 20/02/2013 19:18

To have some kids with party hats and all sorts its just mean in my view

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Domjolly · 20/02/2013 19:20

I would have first ask the staff of i could book a fe children and asked if i could bring a cake in and it would have been for every one to have a slice

And the worse thing is the kids who were haveing the mini party were goading the other kids saything things like mmmmm so nice want some cake oh no your not invited WTF

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Sugarice · 20/02/2013 19:20

Life is a bitch at times I agree.

Move on, get your dc a Maccie, he'll soon forget the stress of being left out of a party he wasn't part of.

cory · 20/02/2013 19:20

What overmydeadbody said. Soft play centres, bowling alleys, McDonald's etc have birthday parties and other customers all mixed in together, some get cake, some don't.

What I can't quite get over is the image of a 13yo gazing sadly over at the birthday group and getting all upset because she can't join somebody else's party.

I was in a restaurant the other day. There was a hen party in the opposite corner. They didn't invite me to share the champagne. I didn't get upset because I'm not a baby. Neither is a 13yo.

germyrabbit · 20/02/2013 19:23

that's a bit sneery cory especially the itallicising of the age

i have worked in holiday clubs and we just wouldn't do it. not would any parent even think it was a good thing. the most we've had it cake or sweets to share.

Cuddlyrunner · 20/02/2013 19:23

How old was the child whose birthday it was?

cory · 20/02/2013 19:25

Sorry about the sneeriness. I just don't know any children of that age who would still have parties with party hats etc- or would envy younger children who still have them; I find that hard to get my head round.

squeakytoy · 20/02/2013 19:28

Well for those activities I can see the point, so fair enough. But as others have said, most 13 year olds would not be seen dead in a party hat blowing out candles...

Goldmandra · 20/02/2013 19:28

After school clubs usually have children from four years upwards. I imagine there were younger children than 13 left out. I doubt very much whether this mother checked that no little ones would be watching from the sidelines or worried about others being upset.

If I booked my child into holiday club I would expect them to be treated fairly and with consideration and would not be happy to hear that the management allowed this to happen.

Sugarice · 20/02/2013 19:28

My 13 yo would think thank God I hadn't embarrassed him by showing up with a maccie party.

Is this real?

Cuddlyrunner · 20/02/2013 19:30

Actually, I don't see anything wrong with it, Child is asked what he wanted to do for birthday, he picks the centre, Mum books kids in and provides party food for their lunch.
How old was the child though? I don't think a 13 year old would have wanted the whole party bags and caboodle type affair.
If I go out to Frankie and Bennies for example and someone has a birthday cake, I don't get a stressie on.