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To not need to hear about other people's parenrs evenings

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Molehillmountain · 20/02/2013 13:27

I know, I know, Facebook is the work of the devil etc, but I really don't get why people need to share a blow by blow account of exactly how marvellous their child is. We tell grandparents and a one line account to anyone who actually asks. I now know exactly how many reading levels this persons dc has jumped, how marvellous they are at maths etc etc. It doesn't fit at all with how they are usually and I don't get why it doesn't sound like bragging to them as they type. And breathe. And trying not to be ungracious but probably not succeeding after a rubbish few days.

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willowsun · 20/02/2013 13:29

i agree it is so annoying and especially when it is put on a facebook status

MrsDoomsPatterson · 20/02/2013 13:31

It's just insecurity..as with most things that people over share on FB. Once you've made peace with that fact it's all a lot easier to stomach.

BackforGood · 20/02/2013 13:52

Perhaps review your FB 'Friends' ?

I don't understand why you would keep friends with people who use FB in a way which clearly offends you Confused

MrsDoomsPatterson · 20/02/2013 13:59

FB 'friends' aren't always friends in the true sense of the word, Backforgood, it's more 'Personyouknowvaguelythroughyourkids Book'

Half you love dearly, half you couldn't care less about, you keep 'em anyway.

BackforGood · 20/02/2013 14:06

Well that's the bit I don't understand.
If someone who is a FBFriend of mine, were posting a load of stuff that was clogging up my newsfeed with stuff I didn't want to read, then I'd defriend them. There's no compulsion to be friends with everyone because you happen to know them.

Doesn't mean that you can't still be chatty in the playground, just don't want to read all the stuff they post - be it childrens progress as in this case, or those who do 4x a day updates of what they are doing, or those who 'like' every shop or company that want free advertising, or those that spout political views you don't agree with ~ doesn't matter, if it's coming up on my newsfeed and I don't want to read it, I'd just stop it coming up on my newsfeed. Can't understand why you wouldn't.

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Molehillmountain · 20/02/2013 14:10

I don't really know why I am on Facebook at all. I delete it for a while and then a part of me just has to scratch the itch ;-)

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MrsDoomsPatterson · 20/02/2013 14:10

Or you could just hide them, they're none the wiser and you don't have to read their boastfests.

Job done!

SCOTCHandWRY · 20/02/2013 14:13

Well you are unlikely to hear about my dc parents evenings on fbGrin after 15 years of schooling (4 DS, teens to toddler age), we have never yet came out of a parents evening and not wanted to burst into tears! Hmm

My children however, are amazing - the school system, that's not so great!

pictish · 20/02/2013 14:15

Is there something wrong with sharing your pride in your child's achievements?

I see nothing wrong with it. If oneof my fb friends updates about a good school report and parent's evening, I'm chuffed for them.

KellyElly · 20/02/2013 14:17

I don't get these FB threads. Don't use it, mute the users who annoy you with their statuses, have two FB's one for family and loved one and one for randoms or just deal with the fact that people use FB in a different way than you!

KellyElly · 20/02/2013 14:17

I see nothing wrong with it. If oneof my fb friends updates about a good school report and parent's evening, I'm chuffed for them. Me too.

MrsDoomsPatterson · 20/02/2013 14:20

I think we're all divided into two FB teams: Those who post about stuff we all go through (but think they're the only ones to experience) others think it's OK to just be quietly confident and happy with our wonderful children without the need to tell everyone, both are OK, do what you like...doesn't mean we all have to like it, but I respect your absolute right to be able to do so. C'est la vie!

Bejeena · 20/02/2013 14:22

I don't understand why people share anything about their children on their facebook profile. My facebook profile is about MY life and not anybody elses. If my baby wants to have his/her own facebook page when s/he is old enough then s/he can post things about HIS/HER life. Until then there will be no mention of my child on Facebook. I am not even announcing on there that I am pregnant as it will just mean interfering people who I don't want pestering knowing my business.

SCOTCHandWRY · 20/02/2013 15:06

Fair enough bejeena! However I do find that my dc are a fairly big part of my life, and involved in most of what I do Wink I do share genuine achievements on fb but I don't think that's being braggy or awful. People can always use the delete or hide buttons if they don't like it!

KellyElly · 20/02/2013 15:25

I don't understand why people share anything about their children on their facebook profile. My facebook profile is about MY life and not anybody elses. Funnily enough my DD is a big part of my life and all my friends and family are interested to see pictures etc of both of us as we live all over the country. Being that she can't have a FB profile at 3, I don't get what you don't understand?

Sparklingbrook · 20/02/2013 15:29

Facebook just makes me Confused and Sad. I still don't understand what it's for. Apart from teenagers being horrible to each other.

pictish · 20/02/2013 15:30

Bejeena - my kids ARE a huge part of MY life. I don't define myself by them, as I was me before they came and will be me when they grow up and leave home...but for you to say you don't understand why anyone shares anything about their kids on fb, actually makes you sound quite cold and selfy.

musickeepsmesane · 20/02/2013 15:40

I started fb when I became a grandma. My eldest lives too far away for me to see them as often as I would like and I love the fact that they can instantly post pics of the kids doing naughty fun stuff and enjoying new things. I keep my friends list small, under 50 and only have close family and friends that live a distance away. For me it is a fun, social pastime and yes, it is nice following their achievements. I wouldn't have them as friends if I wasn't interested in their lives.

MaterFacit · 20/02/2013 15:41

I put stuff about my kids on facebook. If you are one of the 24 family members and friends I have on there then feel free to hide my posts.

My family is scattered and its the best way of sharing family news and small triumphs, photos etc. I'm an antisocial cow and hate chatting for hours on the telephone but I love seeing what my cousins etc are up too.

Sparklingbrook · 20/02/2013 15:44

I am quite happy emailing photos to my nearest and dearest I think.

complexnumber · 20/02/2013 15:45

We don't have FB.

Works fine

Sparklingbrook · 20/02/2013 15:47

There's no mystery any more is there?

gordyslovesheep · 20/02/2013 15:47

if people want to defriend me for being proud of my kids they should ...I wouldn't miss a friend like that.

blimey I LIKE hearing about my mates kids and their achievements and I don't think thats odd

CuriousMama · 20/02/2013 15:47

Hide them I do. I also restrict what some see. Only because they'd wonder why I deleted them. I can't say 'Well actually I think you're a total bore' Wink

I only see the peoples posts that I want to see now. That and artists who's work I like to keep up to date with. Certain pubs etc..

FB can be good if you have your settings right.

Spoonful · 20/02/2013 15:55

I quite like reading people proud of their children.