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To not need to hear about other people's parenrs evenings

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Molehillmountain · 20/02/2013 13:27

I know, I know, Facebook is the work of the devil etc, but I really don't get why people need to share a blow by blow account of exactly how marvellous their child is. We tell grandparents and a one line account to anyone who actually asks. I now know exactly how many reading levels this persons dc has jumped, how marvellous they are at maths etc etc. It doesn't fit at all with how they are usually and I don't get why it doesn't sound like bragging to them as they type. And breathe. And trying not to be ungracious but probably not succeeding after a rubbish few days.

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FellatioNels0n · 20/02/2013 17:18

My facebook page is strictly for posting silly photos on, and sharing internet memes and cartoons with witty comments. I may indulge myself with the odd sarcastic comment once every couple of weeks, but that's it.

The day I start believing that people actually want to hear the details of my boring real life you have my permission to shoot me.

pictish · 20/02/2013 17:20

I'm the same Fellatio - it's mostly funny stuff, piss takery and total trivia I post about. Fb is the very definition of light hearted for me.

However, that does not stop me being pleased for anyone who posts about their kids doing well. I don't see it as boasting.

pictish · 20/02/2013 17:24

Particularly when it's only now and then. Like after a good parent's evening.

Spoonful · 20/02/2013 18:44

My DD doesn't get good reports. I still like to read about my friends DC getting good reports.
If my friend was promoted I wouldn't resent her telling me about it, even on Facebook, because I hadn't been promoted too.

Molehillmountain · 20/02/2013 19:06

On balance, I think I didn't need to hear quite the level of detail my friend gave today. And I think Facebook is a bit problematic because you can do the equivalent of putting up a poster with your good news, reaching a very wide range of friends and acquaintances. I do feel proud of my dc, in fact something very nice happened today. I told dh, the GPS and a very close friend who I happened to be with just after it happened. Why share any further? Dd wouldn't know and is already told her inwas proud. I really do try, without patronising over sensitivity, to remember that on my good days, someone might not be enjoying theirs. Sometimes it helps to hear others good news, sometimes it makes desperately trying to find the positive and count your blessings that bit harder when someone else's pile of blessings is shouted out to all and sundry. I will be adding this lady to my small list of non news feed friends. I get all the points made, but I will stick to sharing with nearest and dearest.

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slimshady · 20/02/2013 19:09

It makes me fucking cringe.

' so proud of my clever little darlings, ahead in everything '
Yeah whatever.

Sparklingbrook · 20/02/2013 19:12

I am more likely to see the huge expensive gift that the parents have purchased the child due to the brilliant report. When the child posts in on FB for my DS to see. Usually with a 'I love my mummy' caption.

Ooh and if lucky the parent will have also put 'Love you son' underneath. Confused

herladyship · 20/02/2013 19:13

'great parents eve, very proud of dc' = lovely to read

'been to parents eve & teacher says dc is cleverest child they've ever met, way ahead of peer group, beautiful, well mannered, kind, reading age of 75, top set for all subjects & that we must be amazing parents' = hahaha

pictish · 20/02/2013 19:15

Absolutely herladyship - that's it in a nutshell.

Molehillmountain · 20/02/2013 19:18

Couldn't have (and didn't) put it better myself, her lady ship. Exactly the style I'm talking about. Any update on parents evening that I have to tap "read more" on to get the whole thing is too much detail .

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NationalLottie · 20/02/2013 20:09

Some people just don't get what twats they come across as on FB. I have hidden a few people for being consistently smug or boring even though they're nice enough in the real world.

slimshady · 20/02/2013 20:20

Yeah ditto lottie

InNeedOfBrandy · 20/02/2013 20:23

See I actually like reading about my friends dc achievements, makes me feel proud of them to, but then my fb isn't filled with random people or old school friends everyone on my account I'm close friends/family with.

thesnootyfox · 20/02/2013 21:29

I only ever shared the naughty things and definitely don't boast.

I have a friend who will give a blow by blow account of her parents evening (not on fb). She lives her life through her children's achievements. Although It's better than being uninterested so I try not to let it annoy me too much.

yaimee · 20/02/2013 21:33

Ah, ignore them, you've got the very heavily edited highlights.
It's very annoying, and I completely agree, grandparents and askers only!
Just keep in mind that they've probably sifted through a load of shit to get the good bits that they've posted, every child gets positive and negative comments!

PeppermintCreams · 20/02/2013 22:08

What HerLadyShip said.

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