to be livid at someone parking in our off street parking and using it as a carwash?!

[Guntie]

For the last 3 weeks when I come and go there has been a white van parked in our off street parking spot. Normally my DH parks there but he has be driving to work recently so it has been free.

So, this opportunist has taken it upon themselves to park there everyday once my DH goes to work.

I typically see the van when I am coming and going from appointments and have never seen the person.

This morning when I was on the way to the doctor I could hear someone using our external tap. When I went outside there was the driver with buckets and soap using our water cleaning his van in our car parking spot?!

AIBU to think WTF is this person doing on my property, in my car park, bringing buckets and soap using my water to clean their f'ing van?!

As I came out he just looked at me and continued on washing the van covering our front garden with soap suds and mess. I was flabbergasted and didn't say anything to him. I was doing urine hold for the doctors appointment and didn't want to wet myself in front of him

I thought given he had been rumbled he might leave and not come back. Not so. When I came back from my doctors appointment his (Very clean) van was still there.

I emailed my DH to make sure he hadn't rented the car park to anyone and he hasn't but he equally couldn't seem to care less that someone is on our property, using it as their personal car park and washing facility

[YellowDinosaur]

And I don't buy the urine hold nonsense. If you genuinely thought you might piss yourself nothing wrong with going for a wee then coming back out and saying 'nope, thought I must have imagined it but you're really and actually here on my land using my water to clean your van. Please move immediately'

You don't need to have a full bladder when going to the gp for a uti. Or a regular antenatal appointment. Only a scan (and actually some places don't suggest this anymore). Even then if you had a big drink immediately your bladder would probably have been full by the time you were seen.

YANBU to be pissed off with this but what do you honestly expect if you've been letting him get away with it for 3 Weeks and then walked past him and didn't say anything?

[holidaysarenice]

Chocolate spread his van tomoro?

[ripsishere]

Throw bread on the roof and watch his paint be pecked by pigeons.

[Bearandcub]

You know he probably won't come back now, but if he does definitely do what Ripishere says.

[wintersweet]

Have you, or can you manufacture a VERY dust rug to shake on the windward side of his van? Also next time he parks there I would place something like my car right behind him...

[Guntie]

Been periodically looking out the window... No van yet...

[Groovee]

Any sign now?

[Greenkit]

Three weeks, three weeks......THREE FECKING WEEKS!!!!

OMG I would have been out there day one, with um WTF are you doing....

[Guntie]

Still no sign!

zzzzz

[coraltoes]

You are a bloody fool and have nobody to blame but yourself.

[captainmummy]

Coral - a little harsh? OP is pregnant and in nostate ot pick an argument with some huge builder-type!

[maisiejoe123]

It is a bit of a strange post though.

He really really might be thinking that it is public land. If someone came onto my drive which has a outside tap it would be blooming obvious that it was private land but maybe, maybe he didnt realise especially as you didnt say anything to him AT ALL polite/agressive or not!

And then you post on a forum and ask complete strangers what to do. The only answer is to speak to him, nicely or not so nicely. Surely you cannot expect anyone to say, just leave it!

[BoneyBackJefferson]

My new neighbours decided today that they want my parking space,
I parked them in. 3 hours later they complained that their mother can't get her car out.

Their excuse is that she was only going to be 5 minutes.

My response is that it has been 3 hours and I pay for the space, so I expect it to be available for my use at all times.

[Fimbo]

I am confused by the parking "space". It's not a drive actually attached to your house but next to your house? I am assuming therefore he thinks its for all insundry, apart from the using tap issue. Unless you set him straight he's going to keep on doing it. Put your bins at the entrance to it and then he cant get on it. Thats what I did as my neighbour's teenage daughter was gaily reversing back across the road and then using my drive to reverse on, a few weeks of the bin being out and she finally got the message.

[HecateWhoopass]

good for you, boney. What did they have to say to that?

[Guntie]

captainmummy thank you. I know I am a wuss, but appreciate the support

fimbo sorry, I haven't really explained it well. This is probably the best example of what our off street parking looks likes. To me it seems obvious that its not communal?

maisie not really asking what I should do. I know I should confront him and that I am a pansy for not doing so at the time . Just guess I wanted to rant and rave a bit and my DH was completely nonplussed.

[maisiejoe123]

Still think there is a very good chance he thinks its a public area and the tap is just his good luck btw....

[elah11]

Looking at that pic there is NO WAY he could possibly think thats public or communal land!!

[Snazzynewyear]

So did the van show up today or not?

[ReluctantMother]

So it is clearly a driveway and not just the land outside your house.

[maisiejoe123]

Is that your house OP? I suspect you have just used something that looks like your house. And Elah. I agree, its like coming onto someone's drive...

[Guntie]

snazzy Officially NO van man today! My DH is home and parked in the drive so no risk of him today.

maisie No, its not my house but that was a close example of what ours is like, except the drive goes down a bit where their red gate is.

I hope he never comes back...

[Snazzynewyear]

See, I don't know now if it's better or worse that he never comes back. It's like The Tiger Who Came To Tea.