to be livid at someone parking in our off street parking and using it as a carwash?!

[Guntie]

For the last 3 weeks when I come and go there has been a white van parked in our off street parking spot. Normally my DH parks there but he has be driving to work recently so it has been free.

So, this opportunist has taken it upon themselves to park there everyday once my DH goes to work.

I typically see the van when I am coming and going from appointments and have never seen the person.

This morning when I was on the way to the doctor I could hear someone using our external tap. When I went outside there was the driver with buckets and soap using our water cleaning his van in our car parking spot?!

AIBU to think WTF is this person doing on my property, in my car park, bringing buckets and soap using my water to clean their f'ing van?!

As I came out he just looked at me and continued on washing the van covering our front garden with soap suds and mess. I was flabbergasted and didn't say anything to him. I was doing urine hold for the doctors appointment and didn't want to wet myself in front of him

I thought given he had been rumbled he might leave and not come back. Not so. When I came back from my doctors appointment his (Very clean) van was still there.

I emailed my DH to make sure he hadn't rented the car park to anyone and he hasn't but he equally couldn't seem to care less that someone is on our property, using it as their personal car park and washing facility

[sudaname]

I am really trying to think of some reason why he thinks this is ok. I just simply cant believe that anyone would have the nerve to blatantly do this and think it's ok.

is it possible someone else has told him he can use a parking space - maybe the owners of empty property next door and he has got his wires crossed which drive he is allowed to use. Or maybe he thinks the drive belongs to the empty house for sale next door - still cheeky and opportunist but not quite as blatant as doing this to an occupied house.

[maisiejoe123]

I dont know why this is still going on... I do understand that you might feel a bit nervous but you can do it in a cheery way. Nothing aggressive if you dont feel comfortable.

A few weeks ago someone from Young Offenders turned up at the door selling some tea cloths. As we had been burgled a few months ago I had no time for him and said so. TBH I was on my own, the road is quiet, but I was so flaming angry that I let rip. And to be fair he was OK considering the burlgalry was nothing to do with him! He said he had morals and would never burgle someone.

Afterwards I did wonder why I was so mouthy. Think it is because I have teenagers and I know that they can be like.

What you are asking me to do is not unreasonable AT ALL. Maybe he just hasnt recongised that the space is yours considering that you said nothing when he saw you.

[maddening]

Can you put anything out to prevent people getting vehicles on to your propert

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

OK, OP, pregnant or not, you need to get a little braver here!
YOU: "Excuse me, sir/my good man/old chap/mate, you are parked in my parking space and you are using my water supply to clean your van, both of which I am asking you to stop doing. Thanks."

He doesn't stop, you tell him you'll be phoning the non-emergency police number.

[sudaname]

Are you surrounded by any Housing Association properties or is yours an ex one. Sometimes builders /contractors who are working on these properties seem to have the attitude that they are allowed to park anywhere on the grounds 'it's all HA property.

I want to throttle him and your DH myself. I would at least call the non emergency police if l wasnt up to any polite questioning him myself or confrontation.

[WannabeWilloughby]

This has to be a case of crossed wires, he obviously thinks he's allowed to be there. Hopefully when u tell him, he will be apologetic....if not then follow him home and park on his drive! (yes I am massively immature)

[Guntie]

My DH said he would contact the property developer who is doing work on the street and ask him to make sure his builders are not parking on our spot anymore. (I have no idea if this guy is working for the developer but I think it is highly likely)

On a completely unrelated note I have just noticed blood spotting. I'm now worried. I have no idea if it is to do with the UTI or if its something to be worried about.

This day sucks.

[Guntie]

sudaname no its not HA property. There are fences etc between the properties, but I can completely see your point.

[Sugarice]

Phone your GP/Midwife about the spotting and get advice.

[OldBeanbagz]

You really ought to have a look at making sure you can turn off your outside tap from inside the house. We have this since i discovered the next door neighbour's window cleaner using our metered water because they don't have an outdoor tap (i wouldn't mind but these are the neighbours who never even speak to us).

Plus some previous neighbours of ours had their hallway filled with water by Halloween pranksters who ran a hosepipe from the outdoor tap through the letterbox

I would definately have a stern word with the van man when he parks there next.

[EuroShagmore]

Type up an invoice and leave it under his wiper.

"For use of parking space at [address] a daily charge of £20 per day : X days

For use of our water supply: £10.

Please pop the money through the letter box within 24 hours otherwise we will send the bailiffs round!"

Sorry to hear about the spotting.

[Guntie]

I have looked in the laundry and if there were a way to turn the tap off. There might be but it would be behind the washing machine which there is no way I would be able to move.

[YouTheCat]

Just put a note under his wipers that says if he parks there again, you'll have him towed.

[SPBInDisguise]

Or his van at least

[Lemonylemon]

OP: Time to turn off the outside tap and put your bins outside so the fecker can't park there again. If he tries to park there again, phone 101 and get the community police around - they do attend to stuff like this.

FWIW: My next door neighbour parked on my front garden to wash her car (without asking) or knocking on the door afterwards to explain. She was very shocked when she got a snippy note from me. Then apologised (which was OK) and tried to say "she was in a bad place" at the time.... Then got very shirty with me when I raised my eyebrows. (There is history about that last comment).

[sudaname]

Ah right l see. Only thought as my mum and dad used to live in an ex council street and they were one of first to buy their property and had a large open drive with hardstanding for two cars. Often used to look out the window to see contractors working on one of other houses parked in their drive (or turning in it as it is a tight cul de sac). They used to get outrageous comments such as 'well where else can we park?' or 'it's council work love,we can park here'.

Anyway so my only other idea is that it's a mix up - maybe he's got permission but just on wrong drive.


Never mind all that now, anyway. I agree you should call the midwife for advice. All the best, hope everything ok..

[FannyFifer]

So a man was cleaning his van on your drive, outside your door, using your water and you said nowt, walked past him & said nothing?? WTF?

Seriously, you need to get the pregnant woman rage, no one argues with a pissed of pregnant bird!

Phone your Dr re the spotting.

[BlatantLies]

Turn off the water supply and next time you see tell him to park elsewhere as it is private property. I would be cheery about it. I think it's a bit odd that your DH would go to the building company without even speaking to the guy.

You could leave something in the parking spot tomorrow with big sign saying private, do not park here.

You do sound a bit wussy but you are perfectly entitled to as you are pregnant and have a UTI. In fact rather than criticise your wussy'ness you can have a and a

Good luck.

[BalloonSlayer]

"I was in a bad place"

"yes you were, love, you were parked in my bloody front garden"

[PipkinsPal]

Smear a bit of vaseline under his windscreen wipers and when he uses them it will create a God Almighty mess. On second thoughts he could have an accident.

[sudaname]

Oldbeanbags my face is like this > @ your post. Will definitely be turning ours off next time we go away - never thought of that.

[Guntie]

What I don't understand was water washing asides, are private car parking sports just communal property? As in am I being petty to not want someone to park there even though it is mostly clear during the day? It probably seems very petty but I really feel like its on our property, I don't want someone parking there everyday, even if we are not using it.

[Guntie]

Just spoke to the midwife and she said "meh, just keep an eye on the bleeding" sometimes I wonder what situation you would have to be in to warrant seeing someone...

[sudaname]

I dont understand now. Do you have open plan gardens at front with various tarmaced parking bays leading straight off the road which could be mistaken for just parking bays for the street. Or is the parking spot on your front garden and marked on your deeds as your property. Also deeds should contain any limits or conditions on your ownership of the drive if any exist.
Bit like my m-i-l owns the path round her house but has to keep it maintained and free for rear access to other properties in row. But by same token they have to help towards it's upkeep as part of condition of keeping it as access.