to hate the posts on facebook about not cleaning because you are a mum!

[2anddone]

I logged on Facebook yesterday and some of my friends had posted a picture with a caption saying basically. My house is a mess but I would prefer that and be able to be a good mum . I honestly think that there is no reason for your house to become a tip just because you have children! I don't mean your house should be immaculate but how hard is it to put toys away or wipe the kitchen surfaces? Today is the first day of the holidays I always make my dc stay at home for the first day of the holidays to be able to have some rest time. They are 7 and 4 and happy to play together or apart. They have been happy playing together today therefore I have cleaned my house, does this make me a bad mum? We have plans the rest of the week so will do loads of mum things then! So aibu to have cleaned my house!

Yabu to not understand that people aren't all like you.

Yabu to not understand that other's people's circumstances can be different to yours.

Yabvu to be so smug.

Surely the cleanliness of your house depends on the size of your house and the ages/number of dc you have.
My house is cleaner now than when dc were younger as they will sit still and play their games while I clean round them so it only takes a few hours.
When they were little it was a losing battle as they would run along behind me undoing all my good work!
I always think as long as the kitchen and bathroom is clean then the rest of the house can sort itself out.

I can't work out whether you are being unreasonable or not.

First day of the hols here too, my kids are still in their night clothes, their rooms are still messy and I still haven't loaded the dishwasher.

I work from home though some I'm trying to get my quota done first being for I can go and be of clean house and wonderful mumming.

I think YABU because you are stealth-boasting.

Chill.
Yabu.

YABVVVVVU. Your poor kids! I live in a state of pure and utter filth of biblical proportions. Safe in the knowledge that my kids are having the time of their lives! We just have to sweep the maggots away before we do our fun finger painting!

and YABU to get your knickers in a twist about those stupid Facebook pictures!!!

wrigglyworm

You can stuck down the maggots & cover them in glitter. Use dust if you don't have glitter.

There does seem to be a common assumption that untidy house means happy children. Whilst this may be the case , I was often mortified by the state of my home when growing up and was constantly trying to straighten up so I could have friends round .

For me a happy home is one in which you are not stressed by losing things and you can relax.

As long as their house isn't like something off How Clean Is Your House? I wouldn't really take notice of the status thingy.

YANBU. A lot of mums seem to smugly imply that they're far too busy making cup cakes, reading Winnie the Pooh stories and jumping through puddles in wellies with their kids to be bothered doing a bit of tidying up. I think some people almost see it as a kind of bohemian, upper middle class, 'oh between the dogs and the rabbits and all our books and my lively children and my wonderfully scatty creative nature there's simply no time to fit in anything as boring as hoovering' thing. A lot of feature writers in magazines do this.

YABU to hate posts on FB. Hide them, get off FB, or post your own but get over it.

As for the rest, good for you being able to do what you do, and for wanting to. Other people do it differently and that's their choice and prerogative.

By the way I don't get any impression that the OP is trying to 'boast' that she has cleaned her house. I think she's annoyed at the inference that 'good mums have fun' 'boring mums do housework' type thing.

Some people are obsessed with a clean and tidy house, others couldn't care less. Both types can be good parents.

Exactly what aris said.

I was similar growing up.

I can't abide clutter and mess so cleaning is a priority to me. I also work outside the home.

Don't think my kids miss out tbh.

I just think you're reading too much into it.

I have a cleaner, that way I get to be a lazy arsed git and have a clean house. Doesn't make much difference to my mothering abilities though

What atthewellies said. The only poster who read the OP and understood the bloody point.

YANBU or smug, I agree with you, my house was never dirty or untidy and my friends that complained they could never keep the house clean were lazy.
Everyone has different standards, and from experience having children is an excuse for some people to live in a mess.

YANBU to hate the tidy=poor quality parenting implication.

Personally I'm a lazy arse mother who doesn't clean the house and just lob DVDs on for the kids to watch. I even had 2 ELCS because I couldn't be arsed to push a baby out. So I applaud anyone whether they tidy and do everything with their kids or just concentrate on the kids. Just don't know where people get the energy from. I can just about stir me stumps to put the box set on every night.

people have different experiences OP, they want to share something that they found funny, and feel other people on their friends lists may find funny too. It is no reflection on people with tidy houses. They are not even thinking about that. They are just thinking about other people like them.

Yanbu i have 3dds youngests 1 and i keep a spotless house but i hate mess. our hv said that unless you saw our dds in the house or the pictures of them you couldnt tell kids lived here... but each to there own we all have a different view on what we want our homes to be like but no ones a better parent either way unless its pure squaller (sp!) that lazy

I find that friends with untidy houses do more work than I do. Some people are just disorganised.

I walk in the door shoes in shoe cupboard coats in coat cupboard, they walk in the door throw everything on the floor or the dining table.

I think organised people probably have more tome for their kids.