to want to go outside and slash down the SOLD sign outside our rented home?

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I am so so upset. Our happily rented home for us with 2 small children has been sold and we will have to move out. We wanted to stay here indefinately. Been here 3.5 years but never realised when we moved in our rent was paying for the owners care home fees and that when she died it would be sold. Thought they meant it when they said long term rental.
So gutted. Some couple came round with their kid and dad who was obviously putting up the deposit for them. Alright for some!!
ABSOLUTELY bereft - we have tried looking for somewhere new - but we need an extra £400 month to get somewhere even vaguely similar as rents have gone crazy in this area - Brighton and Hove.

I just want to scream and slash the sign because if I don't I will end up slashing something else - which won't help issues.
Our little boy loves this house - he has autism - and the garden is big enough for him to run and do his laps - as is the living dining room.
I just want to be able to provide him with a home to suit his needs but I don't see how. I'm just crying all the time and feel totally hopeless.

Will I be done for criminal damage if I do smash down that fucking sign?

I know how upsetting this is. I had to move out of a rented home we loved. It had a lot of things that weren't so good but we loved it all the same. Was first home after I left exdh. The landlord didn't pay the mortgage though. Next house was great too then I met dp and we now have our own home. I'd never have been given a council house in the old town. They're knocking them down and not rebuilding. It's all private landlords and housing associations.

Good luck finding somewhere suitable.

Yanbu to be upset and angry. But please dont take it out on the sign, and please dont do anything that is going to backfire on you, result in any court action or affect your credit rating (like not paying rent, etc)

I suggest you work with the new owners and tell them that you will need time to find somewhere to move to. You will do your best, but cant move until you have found somewhere new you can afford.

If they chose to evict you then, well, the ball is in their court. But you need to communicate with them.

The sale could have happened fast-ish, without many viewings, etc, if the relatives have inherited the house, and one of them is buying the others out. It would then just be a question of having it valued, having a look, and sorting the finances out.

Have you been given a proper, legal section 21 notice? What does your contract say about termination? I think it would be worth speaking to CAB too, and Shelter, about your rights in this situation.

She lost her argument and couldn't cope with the reasonable responses so became offensive. End of....and I have reported that post.

LRD - yes, I know...but she's suggesting that. I'm just trying to show a possible other side. There are literally thousands of possible other sides, though, aren't there?

I can see why you are upset. But three and a half years is quite a time in the private rental market. But not exactly long term. I hope you find somewhere else just as nice or that you like even better.

Sure, I see what you are saying mum. When my granny died I remember how horribly emotional we felt about selling her house and, although it's not the same, I can certainly imagine the family might well feel awful.

chunder - sorry, I did feel it was a heavy term. I do understand what you are saying and you obviously know a lot more than me about the law and about parenting, so I may well be wrong. I just think it is upsetting enough without people over-empathizing and trying to think what they would do, maybe?

Some of you need to stop the "elderly lady dying" bullshit. This is like competitive sadding! Berating and flaming the OP is not helping.

Frankly, what is worse, being a young family facing homelessness, or being an elderly lady finding her eternal home?

Does any of you know what quality of life you have in a care home?
Does any of you know what it is like having a parent in a care home?

When you are a grown up, with one parent in a nursing home, and presumably the other parent dead, you may find that their death is not so much grief, and relief coupled with a whole host of problems you need to sort.

Harsh, but true.

This thread has gone very weird. It started out normal. Anger and distress at a difficult situation followed by some sensible advice and sympathy. Now it's all park benches and homelessness and drama. She hasn't broken a sold sign, just felt cross about it.

a) There is nothing to indicate the OP hasn't been given full and proper notice
b) There is nothing to indicate that the buyers haven't been given full and proper legal advice
c) It is fault of neither the vendors nor the buyers that the OP will have to find a new rental

I think some of you, like LDR, is thinking in terms of the incomprehensible grief a child feels when a grandparent dies. This has little to do with the OP and her problems.

Some of you need to stop the "elderly lady dying" bullshit

It's not bullshit. The lady died and the house has to be sold. It could well have been a "happy release" scenario but it's still horrible.

Yes, I am sure that's true quint. I am empathizing with the family. But you will notice I also think the only thing the OP is actually wrong about, is the lenght of tenancy that can be considered 'long term'. For the rest, I think she is just letting of steam and it is very unfair to judge her for not being richer.

But it really does not matter, the op has been given notice, and needs advice on what to do. So lets stick to that eh?

Going on and on about "how dare you talk like this when a woman has died" is frankly absurd.

What exactly are the terms of your lease rocket. But it does seem unfair that private tenants are subject to this insecurity and yet council tenants can sit as long as they like in their four bedroomed houses with their posh cars outside the door. Or one person in a four bedroomed house. Not right.

I can't believe some of these posts!

The OP has known for months that she has to move out. She is not going to be homeless or on the streets FFS. She has to actually look for a new home yunno, they don;t magically appear. And waiting to be evicted is shit behaviour and if you do it, you will ultimately suffer far more than the owner. Try looking for a private rental EVER again after that.

Well, not if she gets a grip and accepts she has to move out of Brighton just like hundreds of other people who can't afford to live there.

It sounds like a lovely house and you were obviously very lucky to live in a house for so long you haven't got a hope in hell of ever affording to buy.

aunt - sorry, I've obviously missed something, how do we know she's know for months?

The OP has not even said that she can't afford to rent in the area. We know nothing of her true financial situation. The melodramatics about us happy to see her turned out on the streets with her children are uncalled for.

"we have tried looking for somewhere new - but we need an extra £400 month to get somewhere even vaguely similar"

She has to lower her expectations. They have clearly had notice otherwise they would not have tried looking for somewhere new. She should not be looking for a large house with a lovely garden at this stage ( ie something vaguely similar to what they have). She should be looking for any property which can house them for an interim period until they find something more to their taste and which they can afford. Even if it's a 1 bedroom flat above a pub being leased on six month terms.

I'm assuming. If a sold sign is up it's not an unreasonable leap that there would have been a For Sale sign, no?

And we already know OP has had viewings as she has judged commented on them.

She doesn't want to leave a cushy number that she is getting for peanuts compared to the going rate, is all.
If you want a forever home, buy one or go on the council list.

It's possible, aunt, but equally possible not. She's described one viewing, hasn't she.

And if she is to get onto the council list, she would have to be evicted to stand a chance, wouldn't she? Or are you proposing to donate money for her to buy?

I'm with mrsdevere - it's natural for her to be upset.

Most council lists have strict criteria before you can go in them now and buying is out if reach of many people. Personally I think the OP meets the criteria for the council housing list but they WILL tell her to stay put until eviction....not right but that's just how it is.

Lets not lose sight of the fact that autistic children struggle with change and having somewhere permanent to live will be beneficial for them.

Natural to be upset.
Bloody unreasonable to damage or wait for eviction.