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To hide a little warning note to MIL when she comes to babysit tomorrow?

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Wheresmygalaxy · 08/02/2013 21:49

Tomorrow will be the 3rd time MIL has come to babysit for us since our son was born, hes 7 months.

The 1st time dp and I went to ikea and when we returned she was prattling on and on about applying for child tax credits, all about how wonderful sil is eligible for them but doesnt claim - good for her, thought it was an odd topic but she is odd Smile

so the next time she babysit upon our return she was now gabbering on about which local hospital is the best to go to, she didnt like the one i gave birth in and made it well known that it wasnt as good as the 1 her friends daughter went to, so again im thinking what on earth is she on about. Then after she had gone i opened a drawer in my bedside table only to find my next hospital appt check up letter was in there and it was clearly obvious that she had gone through it while i was out. I find this just really odd i know shes really nosey but to go through of all the things in the house my bedside drawer i just found weird. She has mentioned other things that have made me think how does she even know that but having put 2 and 2 together its clear shes snooping around while were out. I love her for coming to babysit, shes giving up her time but that doesnt mean come in and go through my things does it!

I mentioned it to DP nad he said yep she always used to do it to him and his sister growing up and in fact continued to clean their rooms up until the ages of 21 and 24 when they finally left home (believe me ive shared my views on that alone since i found out Hmm ).

so aibu to write a note something along the lines of "get out you nosey old cow" on a piece of paper. or something a bit more dramatic like some retirement home brochures with her name at the top Grin

OP posts:
Chiggers · 09/02/2013 14:18

Get a basque, whip, handcuffs and lay them on the bed ready for use. If/when she goes into your room she'll wonder exactly what you get up to.

OR

You could stick a pot-it note in every drawer saying "I know you're snooping MIL" and see how she takes that Wink.

LemonBreeland · 09/02/2013 14:26

bran that is appalling that the persons DH was annoyed at her. I'd be furious if my DH didn't back me up by saying that she shoouldn't have been snooping in the first place.

ohforfoxsake · 09/02/2013 14:32

Lurking

ConfusedPixie · 09/02/2013 14:37

I love the glitter/hoover combo idea Grin

I am also unashamedly marking my place ;) I'd also throw leaflets for various extreme lifestyle choices into various draws, like a leaflet about membership to an 'extreme' religion or cult that requires big changes and lack of family contact, information on becoming a fruitarian, greenpeace volunteer leaflets for those wishing to go on one of their virtually life-long projects in the jungle, etc.

manicbmc · 09/02/2013 14:41

Get a copy of this book and leave it in a drawer. Grin

motherinlawsmanual.com/

MooseBeTimeForCoffee · 09/02/2013 14:41

Shameless place marking :)

IneedAsockamnesty · 09/02/2013 14:57

If you do the travel brochure thing you eed the emigration info in your drawer the travel brochures in dh's drawer and dot the housing/school other essential Australia info in other drawers ones she as apsolutly no legit reason to go in

And also make sure everything she could feasibly need is on show and near to hand and point it out to her so she can't say "I was looking for xyz in this drawer"

Op I think you are a better person than me,I get so cross at people snooping and not respecting either my home or my privacy by doing so that if she were my family member she would never set foot in my home again. I don't expect to have to hide personal stuff in my own home,if I leave a letter on the kitchen side I expect nobody other than the person its addressed to to read it,I've once thrown a boyfriend out of my house for reading my mail and never spoke to him again. But I'm harsh.

delilahlilah · 09/02/2013 15:20

Crying laughing at this thread. Brilliant ideas. the marbles and the glitter are too funny! Can't wait for the update OP.

Whydobabiescry · 09/02/2013 15:21

What time is the babysitting? I'll b back to see the update Smile

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 09/02/2013 15:28

What about a jack in the box style booby trap? Plastic spider on a spring? Glitter bomb? food colouring? this was exactly what I was thinking then someone had the fuseless hoover idea... genius

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 09/02/2013 15:30

loving the marbles idea Grin and loosening the drawer front so it falls off when pulled open... imagine the panic.

flamingtoaster · 09/02/2013 15:32

I'd leave a half written note to a friend in a drawer along the lines of ...

"Yes it was a shock to find out I'm having quads so soon after DS but DH says not to worry as MIL is an absolute saint and will want to come over to do a couple of night shifts every week."

Love to see her bring that into the conversation!

WannabeWilloughby · 09/02/2013 15:40

A letter to perfect sil (the one who doesn't claim the tax credits) saying you disapprove massively of the affair but you will help organise the DNA test if it helps her to know who her DC's father is.

I would just address it by first name so u can easily pass it off as a letter to a friend!! x

Lotkinsgonecurly · 09/02/2013 15:42

Loving flaming toadts suggestion! !!!

squalorvictoria · 09/02/2013 15:50

I am shaking with laughter (baby asleep!) at the glitter bomb idea Grin

waltermittymissus · 09/02/2013 15:50

Grin @ Wannabe

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 09/02/2013 15:53

Can't wait to hear what happens!

FlouncingMintyy · 09/02/2013 15:55

also place marking

PipkinsPal · 09/02/2013 16:05

My sister has a nosey MIL. When she went on holiday she hid her rampant rabbit just in case it was found. My sister forgot all about it until a few months later when she had a problem with her heating and my BF was in the attic carrying out a repair. With that, a pinkish implement bounced down the stairs. He had found the rampant rabbit! My sister went even pinker. So if you do hide stuff, remember where you have put it. I think the message in the drawer or the porn is a good idea though.

HeadfirstForHalos · 09/02/2013 16:34
RibenaFiend · 09/02/2013 16:39

Spring snakes! Like the ones inside a can when we were very young!

Load a drawer with squished spring snakes and when she comes a-snooping... BOOM!!!

NotADragonOfSoup · 09/02/2013 16:45

unashamed place marking

DrRanj · 09/02/2013 16:47

Marking place!Blush Still think the pics of dh shagging a horse is the best idea though! Grin

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 09/02/2013 16:53
Arithmeticulous · 09/02/2013 16:56

I have it

balance a full bucket of water on your bedroom door

Or a packet of flour - I'm still pondering which would be best Grin

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