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To hide a little warning note to MIL when she comes to babysit tomorrow?

945 replies

Wheresmygalaxy · 08/02/2013 21:49

Tomorrow will be the 3rd time MIL has come to babysit for us since our son was born, hes 7 months.

The 1st time dp and I went to ikea and when we returned she was prattling on and on about applying for child tax credits, all about how wonderful sil is eligible for them but doesnt claim - good for her, thought it was an odd topic but she is odd Smile

so the next time she babysit upon our return she was now gabbering on about which local hospital is the best to go to, she didnt like the one i gave birth in and made it well known that it wasnt as good as the 1 her friends daughter went to, so again im thinking what on earth is she on about. Then after she had gone i opened a drawer in my bedside table only to find my next hospital appt check up letter was in there and it was clearly obvious that she had gone through it while i was out. I find this just really odd i know shes really nosey but to go through of all the things in the house my bedside drawer i just found weird. She has mentioned other things that have made me think how does she even know that but having put 2 and 2 together its clear shes snooping around while were out. I love her for coming to babysit, shes giving up her time but that doesnt mean come in and go through my things does it!

I mentioned it to DP nad he said yep she always used to do it to him and his sister growing up and in fact continued to clean their rooms up until the ages of 21 and 24 when they finally left home (believe me ive shared my views on that alone since i found out Hmm ).

so aibu to write a note something along the lines of "get out you nosey old cow" on a piece of paper. or something a bit more dramatic like some retirement home brochures with her name at the top Grin

OP posts:
Wheresmygalaxy · 08/02/2013 22:40

bogeyface Grin Grin Grin

OP posts:
devonsmummy · 08/02/2013 22:47

Marking my place for tomorrow's update!

SquinkiesRule · 08/02/2013 23:19

Marking my spot to find out what happens Grin

shesariver · 08/02/2013 23:31

You could combine the two. Apply to JK "How do I tell my mother I am leaving the country?"

Inspired Grin

JingleMum · 08/02/2013 23:36

OP, I'm crying at your photoshop/horse shagging option!!! Hahahaha!!!

You have to update us tomorrow.

TiddlyOmPomPom · 08/02/2013 23:43

Ooh for extra belt-and-braces surety you could do the old spy trick of taping a hair to the door/drawer so it breaks when opened.

.....yeah, I'm marking my place. Grin

LemonBreeland · 08/02/2013 23:43

Love the added extra of a post it t your dh. I think it would be great if you didn't tell him so he looks completely incredulous when mil asks him about moving down under.

PoppyWearer · 08/02/2013 23:48

Marking my place too!

Might try the immigration forms for when DMIL comes to babysit next. I'm sure she does the same!

TweedSlacks · 08/02/2013 23:52

Confirmation letter from the Euromillions Lottery that you ID has been recieved and the winning monies will be deposited in your nominated bank account tis week?

carabos · 08/02/2013 23:55

You could try something a bit "woo". Clear out all the drawers and cupboards from places she shouldnt be looking (not kitchen or anywhere she might legitimately need to look) into boxes and put them in the garage or somewhere she won't go. If she's a snooper (and by definition nosy), she won't be able to resist mentioning it.

When she does mention it, say "what on earth makes you say that?" . Then she will have to show you, at which point you ask "but why were you looking in that drawer?" and persist with it until she squirms. She won't do it again.

manicbmc · 08/02/2013 23:58

Information about having a sex change?

ZenNudist · 08/02/2013 23:58

Hehe loving the idea that she'll be banging on about you not emigrating. Except assuming she snoops then immediately drops hints in response to her snooping what will you say!?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 09/02/2013 00:06

Marking my place to see what happens!

LittleChimneyDroppings · 09/02/2013 00:10

Hide your letters and leave a big turd in the drawer. only joking, don't really do that Grin

CheeseAndMushroomToastie · 09/02/2013 00:13

Marking place to see what happens! -remind me not to piss you lot of either!

MortifiedAdams · 09/02/2013 00:14

This is brilliant!! I love it!

Angelico · 09/02/2013 00:19

Brilliant thread lol :o And some inspired ideas, you fiendish vipers! :o

DeepRedBetty · 09/02/2013 00:25

very nosey about what she's going to say placemarking

Bogeyface · 09/02/2013 00:27

Seriously though, what do you plan to do if she goes on about emigrating and you both have absolute proof of her snooping?

You have to say something.

BitchyDragons · 09/02/2013 00:29

Waiting to see the response. Very inspired suggestions.

timidviper · 09/02/2013 00:46

Bogeyface Could just say "What an odd question? Whatever made you ask that?" and smile sweetly

Bogeyface · 09/02/2013 00:51

That would be good timid :o but I think that the OP and her DP need to be on the same page so that when it comes out (as it will) that she has been snooping, they both know what to do/say.

Its no good laying a trap and her falling into it if they just let her go!

manicbmc · 09/02/2013 00:52

They could just look at her like she is a mad woman for even suggesting the matter?

Deny all knowledge etc and then she really has to fess up to being an old snoop.

*I am adding this to all posts, Tipsy Disclaimer.

DameFanny · 09/02/2013 01:07

I am so watching this thread for developments. Loving your work people Grin

IneedAsockamnesty · 09/02/2013 01:07

I hate snoops and I'm marking my place as well.