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To hide a little warning note to MIL when she comes to babysit tomorrow?

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Wheresmygalaxy · 08/02/2013 21:49

Tomorrow will be the 3rd time MIL has come to babysit for us since our son was born, hes 7 months.

The 1st time dp and I went to ikea and when we returned she was prattling on and on about applying for child tax credits, all about how wonderful sil is eligible for them but doesnt claim - good for her, thought it was an odd topic but she is odd Smile

so the next time she babysit upon our return she was now gabbering on about which local hospital is the best to go to, she didnt like the one i gave birth in and made it well known that it wasnt as good as the 1 her friends daughter went to, so again im thinking what on earth is she on about. Then after she had gone i opened a drawer in my bedside table only to find my next hospital appt check up letter was in there and it was clearly obvious that she had gone through it while i was out. I find this just really odd i know shes really nosey but to go through of all the things in the house my bedside drawer i just found weird. She has mentioned other things that have made me think how does she even know that but having put 2 and 2 together its clear shes snooping around while were out. I love her for coming to babysit, shes giving up her time but that doesnt mean come in and go through my things does it!

I mentioned it to DP nad he said yep she always used to do it to him and his sister growing up and in fact continued to clean their rooms up until the ages of 21 and 24 when they finally left home (believe me ive shared my views on that alone since i found out Hmm ).

so aibu to write a note something along the lines of "get out you nosey old cow" on a piece of paper. or something a bit more dramatic like some retirement home brochures with her name at the top Grin

OP posts:
Lotkinsgonecurly · 10/02/2013 18:50

Dh has no read the thread and is asking for updates too!

pumpkinsweetie · 10/02/2013 18:54

This is like a soap, we are all waiting in suspense to hear what happenedSmile

Uppermid · 10/02/2013 18:56

Hope all ok op

HellesBelles396 · 10/02/2013 18:58

The wait is horrendous! I have done very little today to allow maximum time for refreshing the page!

comedycentral · 10/02/2013 19:13

I hope all is well OP, you have been very good at updating us so I am a little worried about how your day played out. Hope you are OK :-)

morethanacondiment · 10/02/2013 19:14

Jeez, I've resisted marking my place all day but I just can't keep up this nonchalant facade. Whathappenedwhathappenedwhathappened??!!!

BatmanLovesVodkaAndCherryade · 10/02/2013 19:18

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh Peeeeeeeeeeeeeeee - come back and update us with tales of your MIL's woebegone face pleeeeeeeeeease Grin

Bearbehind · 10/02/2013 19:20

I've been lurking on this thread but can't help thinking it has all gone horribly sour today because the OP hasn't come back. Her MIL doesn't sound like the kind if person to take this lying down. Hope you are ok?

CommanderShepard · 10/02/2013 19:20

Best. Thread. EVER.

auntpetunia · 10/02/2013 19:22

Oh my goodness I've followed from beginning but now getting worried about you Galaxy, what's happened!

DevonCiderPunk · 10/02/2013 19:22

I have to say I agree with posters advising caution. If someone feels humiliated when they find a rumour they've spread is unfounded, they are likely to up the stakes to save face and cover their own back. You have the satisfaction of knowing that she does not respect your privacy, and would sooner stir it up with other people than talk to you. I think better to just appear mystified by any conversations about moving away at this point, and drop the "how could you go through my things?" line. You and she both know how she found this out. If you stay quiet her choices now are to either have an honest conversation with you about it (during which you can still keep her in the dark!) or get into a tangle trying to figure it out. That's quite enough rope for her to hang herself with.

travailtotravel · 10/02/2013 19:24

Yes, am waiting to find out before I do this myself

ratbagcatbag · 10/02/2013 19:29

Brilliant op. marks place for update :)

TweedSlacks · 10/02/2013 19:29

"I magines MIL cats bum face after being outed over her very rude and intrusive actions....."

Bows to all in appreciation of the fuseless hoover idea.

I would be inserting long theatrical pauses saying nothing and letting MIL fill the dead air space with even more info convicting herself of top drawer snoopery

I wish 'A place in the sun , home or away' had been on tv. Switch channels and watch MIL implode

Other ideas for snooperyfuckers .

Little zip lock bags of talc perhaps. . imagine the spanish inqusition after that
best removed before little people find them

Handcuffs ( pink + fluffy natch )

Rigby and Peller catalogue

MadamGazelleIsMyMum · 10/02/2013 19:36

Come on OP, the suspense is agonising!

SoldAtAuction · 10/02/2013 19:38

Twiddling my thumbs, watching the snow fall, and waiting patiently for updates.

Patiently waiting.

Cuddlyrunner · 10/02/2013 19:40

Is it sad that I am 48 and do not know what a Rigby and Peller catalogue is?

OhTheConfusion · 10/02/2013 19:42

Rigby and Peller is too reserved... Agent Provocoteur would be better Wink

Cuddlyrunner · 10/02/2013 19:43

DH is at the other end of the sofa, if I go check out anything too risque he may get excited and I may have to disappear and miss the update!

ChocolatesSnowAngel · 10/02/2013 19:45

I don't know that catalogue either at 39 Cuddly, must go and Google it now.

HecateWhoopass · 10/02/2013 19:46

I hope it didn't go very badly. I feel a bit guilty now hanging on the update like it's my entertainment when it's her life and she might be having a really bad row right now. Blush

Bogeyface · 10/02/2013 19:46

R&P is a posh bra shop, they make the Queens boulder holders!

TotallyEggFlipped · 10/02/2013 19:47

I can't cope. So impatient.

tasmaniandevilchaser · 10/02/2013 19:47

hoover without a fuse, blue ink glitter bombs, marbles in cupboards, photoshopping DH with horse - this really is a great thread, hope that the powers that be see fit to move this to Classics. marking my place

tasmaniandevilchaser · 10/02/2013 19:48

oh and I've learnt how to bookmark

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