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To hide a little warning note to MIL when she comes to babysit tomorrow?

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Wheresmygalaxy · 08/02/2013 21:49

Tomorrow will be the 3rd time MIL has come to babysit for us since our son was born, hes 7 months.

The 1st time dp and I went to ikea and when we returned she was prattling on and on about applying for child tax credits, all about how wonderful sil is eligible for them but doesnt claim - good for her, thought it was an odd topic but she is odd Smile

so the next time she babysit upon our return she was now gabbering on about which local hospital is the best to go to, she didnt like the one i gave birth in and made it well known that it wasnt as good as the 1 her friends daughter went to, so again im thinking what on earth is she on about. Then after she had gone i opened a drawer in my bedside table only to find my next hospital appt check up letter was in there and it was clearly obvious that she had gone through it while i was out. I find this just really odd i know shes really nosey but to go through of all the things in the house my bedside drawer i just found weird. She has mentioned other things that have made me think how does she even know that but having put 2 and 2 together its clear shes snooping around while were out. I love her for coming to babysit, shes giving up her time but that doesnt mean come in and go through my things does it!

I mentioned it to DP nad he said yep she always used to do it to him and his sister growing up and in fact continued to clean their rooms up until the ages of 21 and 24 when they finally left home (believe me ive shared my views on that alone since i found out Hmm ).

so aibu to write a note something along the lines of "get out you nosey old cow" on a piece of paper. or something a bit more dramatic like some retirement home brochures with her name at the top Grin

OP posts:
delilahlilah · 10/02/2013 15:31

How do you nominate the thread for Classics?

comedycentral · 10/02/2013 15:31

I agree that it should go in classics as a sort of 'Snoopers beware'

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 10/02/2013 15:32

Report the OP to MNHQ and ask very nicely if they'll move it over to Classics.

LittleChimneyDroppings · 10/02/2013 15:37

Not marking place at all. Absolutely not, oh no.....

delilahlilah · 10/02/2013 15:41

Thank you Frankelly Thanks

Buzzardbird · 10/02/2013 15:49

Hellesbelles you wave your cursor around underneath 'Message poster' and 'Bookmark' appears by magic.
Next time you click on 'I'm on' it starts the thread from where you have 'bookmarked'

Lollybrolly · 10/02/2013 15:50

Good Grief your MIL has some neck.

I cant help wondering if she would have been so quick to call the Uncle and get him involved if you had gone down the sex toys/invite/photo shopped pic route. That would have been an eye opening conversation for a Sunday Morning. Uncle saying to unaware DH "MIL has told me a friend saw you shagging a horse......." Grin

Seriously though - what a lying cow. She has stood in the shit now. Let her squirm her way to admission the nosey cow. She deserves all she is getting today. Her behaviour is totally unacceptable.

Go for an oscar with your acting OP
"but who told you such stuff?"

"we have not had any coversations about moving with anyone so why would someone make somthing like that up"

"What was it exactly they said to you to make you think such a thing?"

"I am so confused. Who is this person? Please tell me. I dont like the thought of someone I know spreading rumours about us"

"Please MIL, do tell us who it was"

Please report back later.

Buzzardbird · 10/02/2013 15:51

Ok, who can tell me where to find 'Classics'?

DragonQueen · 10/02/2013 15:54

If you click on a post, on the far right hand side of the post a little 'bookmark' button comes up. Click on that and it changes to a 'saved' button.

Then whenever you click on that thread (even if it's not a thread you're watching, just one you read and 'saved') it will take you straight to your last 'saved' post. Just do that each time you get to the latest post in a thread and no need to mark place by writing anything.

This works for ages, even a couple of months after you 'saved' a post.

Simples!

And back to the point, looking forward to the OP's latest update!

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 10/02/2013 15:54

Here's a link to Classics

To find it normally, go to Talk, then Mumsnet Stuff. It's in there.

HellesBelles396 · 10/02/2013 15:56

That doesn't work for me, I'm afraid Buzzard, just the option to send a private message.

HellesBelles396 · 10/02/2013 15:57

I'm afraid that didn't work for me either dragon

Buzzardbird · 10/02/2013 15:58

Think it might only work on laptop? Don't get it on my phone.

Oooo ta frankelly

magimedi · 10/02/2013 16:01

Doesn't work for me either - but I think it is something to do with the format you have your MN in ???

I must admit that I find MN a v difficult site to set up & use & wish there was a page of rules & regs re bookmarking etc.

FriedSprout · 10/02/2013 16:02

Bookmarking - if you are watching a thread on ipad, just find last post and tape above message poster button to get bookmark option. Tap this. Then on watching thread list press bump and reset

FruOla · 10/02/2013 16:08

I said way, way back upthread that the only way the OP was going to catch out her snooping MIL was by doing something that would strike at the MIL's soul - i.e. she reads something about her darling 36 yo DS thinking about emigrating to Australia with her DGS - oh, and the OP!.

But anything that would strike at the MIL's dignity (or lack thereof) - i.e. sex toys or exploding glitter bombs would not have any effect on her at all.

This is why it's worked so well for the OP Grin

Buzzardbird · 10/02/2013 16:09

My 'bookmark' comes up in the bottom right hand side of each post, but only if you hover over it.

Sickofthesnow · 10/02/2013 16:25

This is absolutely priceless :D

And yep! I'm shamelessly marking my place too

OrangeLily · 10/02/2013 16:26

You are going to see her now? Grin I'd pay to watch that conversation!

I'm still enraged for you! How is it ever acceptable to go through someone's drawers?! My MIL doesn't even go to the floor our bedroom is on without being invited (funny lay out of house).

Are you a private person in general? I bet she keeps doing this in your house! Sex toys/glitter bombs now too! Ohhhhh the fun you could have with your bathroom cabinet!

NotADragonOfSoup · 10/02/2013 16:27

Bookmarking only works if you are viewing on "MN New"! It doesn't work on "Classic"

toastedteacake · 10/02/2013 16:28

The suspense is killing me. Come back OP.

delilahlilah · 10/02/2013 16:33

Just had a look and you have to turn 'bookmarking' on. Scroll right to bottom of customisation page. HTH

TheCunnyFuntIsAGrittersWife · 10/02/2013 16:35

Has the OP not come back from MILs yet?

OrangeLily · 10/02/2013 16:36

Delilahlilah where is the customisation page?

tinkerbelle31 · 10/02/2013 16:38

Not that we know of

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