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To hide a little warning note to MIL when she comes to babysit tomorrow?

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Wheresmygalaxy · 08/02/2013 21:49

Tomorrow will be the 3rd time MIL has come to babysit for us since our son was born, hes 7 months.

The 1st time dp and I went to ikea and when we returned she was prattling on and on about applying for child tax credits, all about how wonderful sil is eligible for them but doesnt claim - good for her, thought it was an odd topic but she is odd Smile

so the next time she babysit upon our return she was now gabbering on about which local hospital is the best to go to, she didnt like the one i gave birth in and made it well known that it wasnt as good as the 1 her friends daughter went to, so again im thinking what on earth is she on about. Then after she had gone i opened a drawer in my bedside table only to find my next hospital appt check up letter was in there and it was clearly obvious that she had gone through it while i was out. I find this just really odd i know shes really nosey but to go through of all the things in the house my bedside drawer i just found weird. She has mentioned other things that have made me think how does she even know that but having put 2 and 2 together its clear shes snooping around while were out. I love her for coming to babysit, shes giving up her time but that doesnt mean come in and go through my things does it!

I mentioned it to DP nad he said yep she always used to do it to him and his sister growing up and in fact continued to clean their rooms up until the ages of 21 and 24 when they finally left home (believe me ive shared my views on that alone since i found out Hmm ).

so aibu to write a note something along the lines of "get out you nosey old cow" on a piece of paper. or something a bit more dramatic like some retirement home brochures with her name at the top Grin

OP posts:
SoYo · 09/02/2013 21:24

Shameless place marking...suddenly my MIL doesn't look so bad but do quite wish I could use some of these!

BluelightsAndSirens · 09/02/2013 21:29

You should print this thread out and leave it in the draw.

CadleCrap · 09/02/2013 21:29

Coco Shock

ChocolateTeacup · 09/02/2013 21:30

Did you do it, did she react?

Convert · 09/02/2013 21:38
NeverBeenToMe · 09/02/2013 21:46

Come on OP! Smile

delilahlilah · 09/02/2013 21:59

DS1 thinks I have completely lost the plot.... crying laughing Blush

WeAreSix · 09/02/2013 22:08

What if MIL snoops online too? And reads this thread!

Oops, I seem to have marked my place.

SuffolkNWhat · 09/02/2013 22:08

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mummytowillow · 09/02/2013 22:09

Do it, my mum snoops when she sits, she'll drop something into a conversation the next day and she would only know it as she's been checking my mail!

She looks at my calendar to, she saw 'hospital' once and demanded to know what was wrong with me.

LilQueenie · 09/02/2013 22:15

mummytowillow love the id. I have a Willow too Smile

elfycat · 09/02/2013 22:16

DH and I think the fuseless vacuum is genius. My MIL is many things many, many things but she's not a snooper.

CadleCrap · 09/02/2013 22:30

Where is the OP?

Does she not know that after 10pm is FAR too late to be out on a Saturday night when we are all being nosey waiting to give her support!

WannabeWilloughby · 09/02/2013 22:31

Wish I was a fly on the wall!!!! Itching to know what's occurred xxx

minicreamegg · 09/02/2013 22:49

Come on OP, my bed is calling Grin

pluCaChange · 09/02/2013 23:13

MyHeadWasIintheSandNowNot, apologies for my late rrply (it's rather a.long thread).

I meant that it was uncomfortable enough, having someone doing things in one's house (sorry, but the washing up did feel like interfering): actusl snooping is beyond the pale, and a MIL difficult yo distance oneself from.

Smile
PoppyWearer · 09/02/2013 23:17

I'm reckoning on an update tomorrow morning.

LilQueenie · 09/02/2013 23:18

OP hope you are ok. You may be home now and either found evidence of snooping or not. What I hope has not happened is that your DH is arguing with you over this. Mummys boys bleurrgh!

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot · 09/02/2013 23:24

PlusCaChange - well, I often do things like the washing up or fold a pile of stuff out the dryer, or empty the dishwasher or whatever if I'm babysitting - most family/friends seem to appreciate it - I hope none of them are quietly seething about me interferring - I'm guessing not as it hasn't stopped them all asking! Grin

Hopefully they're still out having a good time, or are at home having a good time Wink a full report can wait until the morning :)

FrankWippery · 09/02/2013 23:26

Marking spot. Dying to know how it's gone!

pluCaChange · 09/02/2013 23:27

Oh, and Bogeyface and BeareithCub have also taken me to task over my ingratitude to washing-up neighbour/babysitter.

Maybe IABU on that, but I just don't like it.

fishcalledwonder · 09/02/2013 23:28

Marking place. Come on OP!

pluCaChange · 09/02/2013 23:31

BTW, aside from my squeamishness about the washing up, I really like the glitter hoover idea!

Wheresmygalaxy · 09/02/2013 23:34

Hi, sorry ive not got time to read through all the replies as im out at the mo, just wanted to let you all know the forms have been planted in my bedside drawer all ready for her.

I know she wont be able to help herself having a peek when she puts ds to bed as he's still in our room, so im almost certain to expect something when we get back, i have the bbc show ones in my side and i picked up 2 estate agents forms today to make it look as if we were selling up, ive put these in dp's side. He has no clue! will deffo update tomorrow and promise not to get too drunk now, is it sad its my 1st night out in months and all i want to do it get home and see whats happening!

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Sheepasaurus · 09/02/2013 23:35

Still no update? Tsk!

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