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To refuse to pick dd's friend up from her dance class tomorrow?

504 replies

stormforce10 · 08/02/2013 12:16

Just had a call from DD friend's mum asking if I could pick up her DD and look after her after dance class for an hour or so as she has to take her DS to a birthday party.

Normally I wouldn't hesitate BUT last time I did that for this particular mum she turned up for her DD over 3 1/2 hours late and her explanation was that as both children were at friends she and her DH had decided to go out for lunch. No response to phone calls or text messages and I was desperately trying not to let on to her DD that I was getting worried something terrible had happened. That was 6 months ago but I was so angry with her I still haven't forgotten it let alone her DD's tears when she realised mummy wasn't coming when she said(6 years old)

I managed to say "sorry I can't we're busy tomorrow" and she's come back with a text message saying "please please please I've asked lots of people and they can't either really need someone or I won't be able to take DS to party and he'll be really upset".

What the hell do I text back now. I really like the little girl but I don't want to be taken advantage of again in this way let alone deal with the upset. I'm guessing if lots of other people can't (? won't) do it I'm not the only one she's done this to.

OP posts:
TweedSlacks · 09/02/2013 10:54

almost as entertaining as the great Clumsy party debacle of 2012

almost . That thread and subsequent deletion will be long remembered

Go team Clumsy.

Well done SF10.

secrectly hopes the other mum delurks for some unhinged ranting at 4am tomorrow

ChaoticisasChaoticdoes · 09/02/2013 10:56

snootyfox Shock at that mum and Grin at your reply.

SnakesheadFritillary · 09/02/2013 10:58

Grin at X volunteering to take your DD. That is a beautiful twist.

ophelia275 · 09/02/2013 11:02

Wow, how incredibly rude and entitled your "friend" is. And what kind of sentient human being texts another (not close) person at 4am when it is not an emergency? She sounds like she has never learnt manners.

GetOrf · 09/02/2013 11:04

This is a great thread - well done OP.

Kiriwawa · 09/02/2013 11:24

If you wanted to be really mean, you and X could discuss what a lovely time your DD had at her DD's house this week within earshot of partymum at next week's ballet class.

Massive well done to you stormforce and to snootyfox too. This thread delivers :o

sparkle12mar08 · 09/02/2013 11:28

Kiriwawa is good...

slatternlymother · 09/02/2013 11:30
LemonBreeland · 09/02/2013 11:42

What a fantastic conclusion! Good on X too.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 09/02/2013 12:03

Oh. My. Good. God. The woman has the hide of a rhino. Texting X at 4.30am to ask her to have the poor dd??

And Kiriwawa - you are awesome!

This truly is the thread that keeps on giving.

manicbmc · 09/02/2013 12:22

Brilliant! So glad that X didn't cave. Anyone who texts at 4am needs their head read.

MrsMangelfanciedPaulRobinson · 09/02/2013 12:34

What a using cow! Well done for being so assertive with her. People like her just use and use people until everyone has had enough of them and there is no one left to use!

SuffolkNWhat · 09/02/2013 12:51

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Thumbwitch · 09/02/2013 13:00

BLoody hell, thesnootyfox - that person is unhinged indeed! Great answer, btw. Grin

Storm - love the twist in the tail of your DD going to X's house to play with her DD!! Who in their right minds texts anyone in the wee sma' hours unless it's a matter of life and death? Shock
I should think she probably did oversleep; either that or she decided not to bother with either the dance class or the party and just took them both shopping or something.

Dubjackeen · 09/02/2013 14:03

Great thread,well done OP. Also loved the line about not saying no to Freddie, brilliant.

FelicityWasCold · 09/02/2013 14:25

Glad it worked out OP!

babiesinslingsgetcoveredinfood · 09/02/2013 14:43

This is the best thread I've ever seen. Perfect ending.

I bet you feel pleased that X strengthened your position.

One up for common decency.

Cantbelieveitsnotbutter · 09/02/2013 14:49

Shock Shock Shock
I know mums with those scarfs Shock Shock

AnnieLobeseder · 09/02/2013 14:51

Why on earth is "the Mumsnet scarf" leopard print? I like that it's big and floaty, but animal prints are well tacky. Urgh. I thought MN was classy, like.

Anniegetyourgun · 09/02/2013 14:58

I'm still Shock about the woman who thought her iron being broken was such an emergency that she practically broke into her neighbour's house to borrow theirs.

Agree with Other Annie about leopard print scarf; I'm far from a snappy dresser but - wtf? Isn't it a sort of East End gangster's moll look?

Rooneyisalwaysmoaning · 09/02/2013 15:04

I'm saddened that the scarf is so hideous.

I'd have liked a 'sign'

all I have is my lentil weaver tote bag

AnnieLobeseder · 09/02/2013 15:07

Oooh, Rooney, I have a lentil weaver tote bag too! And a t-shirt I use as a nightie.

DuchessFanny · 09/02/2013 15:10

I LOVE my leopard print scarf and I'm a gangsters moll lady !

Coconutty · 09/02/2013 15:11

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babiesinslingsgetcoveredinfood · 09/02/2013 15:16

Was excited about scarf, then saddened to see it is STILL that one. It's awful.

Can we find a new one? Or perhaps a nice hair accessory to hide my greasy fringe .

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