to have thrown water over DS (10) as he would not get dressed this morning?

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We are late almost every day due to DSs having no interest in getting ready for school and it is an ongoing problem where I am severely stressed out every morning.

It got to 8.25 this morning (we need to leave by 8.30) and DS1 was still in underpants jumping on his brother and fighting him. He had been repeatedly told to get dressed and I warned him I would do it.

I picked up a small jug of cold water I had been using for the iron and chucked it at him. He was soaked and had to change pants. He had some splashes of water on his clean and laid out ready school uniform but I told him to put it on.

I now feel very guilty and hate that I did it but the only other option was a hard slap on the arse IMO. So am I a child abuser?

That is so It sounds like you were conditioned to believe that to was acceptable to be treated like that.

Or knows what abuse actually is.

sochar I actually laughed out loud with that!

I know what abuse was, my mother was terribly abused with her sisters in care home when she was a child.

At that age though i didnt know about DM past and NEVER seen it as abuse. My DF never raised a hand to any off us and rarley had to tell us off - that was left to my DM, who I pushed on a daily basis. My DF was a lovely man, my hero and treated me like his little queenie. He also loved his wife and felt i was taking the piss. I was not not conditioned in any way!

My Df sadley passed away 6 years ago and i miss him terribly --i have know one to tell me the answer to the cross word puzzles now!

P.s dont worry about the carpet burn - I also had maggots threw in my mouth of DB...which was worse! .we were very big on pranks in our house...ah i miss those days lol

Oxfordbags So you're a Yorkshire Lass! There was me thinking you could be the Oxford lady who is currently popular for starting her leather schoolbags business that took the internet by storm

OP I think you need to start looking at yourself. You say you feel very stressed and given some of the things you have said in this thread, it may be worth to first focus on getting help for yourself.

You have been given some good advice to get your sons involved in making the mornings more manageable. Shouting shouldn't be part of any morning routine ...

Dryjuice, I wish! Perhaps others have been thinking that, ha! Oxford Bags were a daft sort of trousers students used to wear at Oxford decades ago. I went to Oxford and used to wear flares, so it became a sort of NN then

Allways, there are different shades and types of abuse. Just because something isn't as bad as the terrible things that happened in care homes, doesn't make it abuse or doesn't make it any less worse. I was shocked to read what your father did. I think that was abusive. Maggots in the mouth?

There is a lot of black and white thinking about nuanced things on here and in most threads on serious topics. Very frustrating, very worrying.

As a former teenage boy, it was nothing short of a cup of water that would get me out of my wanking chariot at that age. That or having the quilt flung off.

What the hell has me Bfing got to do with this thread? Since when has Bfing been part of this discussion?! V bad form bringing info given on a totally seperate thread onto another.

Saying you think me Bfing a child under 2 is abuse and creepy makes you look ridiculous. I think most people would struggle to see that as abusive versus dragging a child by their feet out of bed and throwing them in a shower.

I actually said what I did because it really did shock and sadden me, not because I was trying to patronise you or make some sort of point. I was genuinely upset to read it. I have obviously made a mistake or struck some nerve and I apologise.

'wanking chariot'? I think I have a crush on ComposHat...

Fuck it, spelt separate wrongly in temper. Shitbadgers.

ALLWAYS I have reported your disgusting post swearing at Oxford.
Dragging a teenage girl by the ankles inflicting carpet burns, throwing her in a shower are clearly abusive actions
This thread has been a real eye-opener to me.The things that go on behind closed doors in some homes!
I never experienced anything like this when I was growing up, neither did my DH and it certainly doesn't happen in this house.I think it is terribly sad that so many people think it's OK

allwaysthebaddie certainly lives up to the nickname eh :)

I'm breastfeeding a 3 year old. Does someone need to inform Social Services?

higgs never said that at any point, 3 is still a baby. Children of school age, that different, I work with them every day, but hey thats a different thread as ox reminds me, i used that as an example.

Allways If someone says something you don't agree with, there is always the option to just ignore them you know? You don't need to insult them.I wonder why you need to be so angry and aggressive?

Thank you, Socharlottet (lip wobbles)

Sorry, I thought your deleted post suggested that Oxford is abusing her 22 month old by bf?

It was certainly one of the nastiest posts I've read on here and I've seen some corkers!

Allwaysthebaddie - are you saying that someone is advocating ebf for 5, 6, 7 or 8+ years old? Ebf, meaning exclusively breastfeeding? That would be pretty unusual.

I imagine a child of that age would be independent enough to decide for themselves whether they want to continue to have the occasional breastfeed.

Having not seen your deleted post, I would say that your most recent post is not painting you in a very good light at all - is it really necessary to be so u pleasant?

Again, I reiterate: anyone reading this thread can see that at no stage have I said that allways' father was an abuser. She described an incidident which I and others found shocking and I said that IMHO that single incident sounded abusive.

22 MONTH old child, haha! Yeah, 22 year old would be creepy abuse

Allways it was abusive behaviour, totally not normal.

I love my dad, adore him, but I can look back and see now that some of his behaviour towards me (violence) was physical abuse.