To be annoyed with this couple

[Ponderingonaquandry]

Hope I don't out myself here, going to have to be vague!

I know (I won't say friends as that's over egging it a bit) a couple who have a young, school age, family. Neither parent works, fine, job market is utterly shit at the moment so totally understandable. Both are complaining they are broke and will be more so when the benefit reforms come in and how unfair it is on them. So my dp comes up with a good solution to solve their problems and his workload, he offers the dad a job, reasonable pay, not great, but a foot on the ladder, and helps both parties out. So we were a bit shocked when the dad turns it down saying he's needed at home 'in case of an emergency'. My jaw hit the floor.

Neither parent has a disability nor do the children.

Thankfully my brother had a friend in a similar situation who snapped the job up so dp's stress levels are alleviated a bit, but still. Not the point.

AIBU to be annoyed with them over this?

I saw what Booyhoo saw, murder, but then she's my groupie so she would say that wouldn't she

Ah but my groupies get badges

"murder you should feel flattered. she professed her love for you and said that you were the most beautiful MNer and how she wished you could be hers, but MNHQ got jealous and deleted it."

But of course, how could she not adore me.

Honestly country, I'm flattered, but I'm a married woman!

"and had an unpleasant online manner"

Can't have that can we now? After all, MNHQ tend to delete posts by people with an unpleasant online manne... oh wait..

sorry earlier, but i know a good badge when i see it.

Stop with the bribery Murder. my groupies get a mug

Now that is a good mug!

You still haven't said what the job is. Might have some bearing on it?

Are you all murdering groupies? That's not kind. Not kind at all.
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Bloody hell I have read it all now - unforeseen disabilities?? I ask you. . .

I know a couple who are exactly the same - he is a plumber who for some reason never has any work. She is a stay at home mum to a ten year old who has not worked for 11 years despite doing the same job as me 13 years ago.

In one of my roles offered him simple plumbing jobs - unblocking toilets that we were paying £85.00 plus vat to dynarod or similar - he had to travel 5 miles to get there it took 10 mins and he was guaranteed £80 a time but he said he wAs too good for clearing toilets. They were So so desperate for money and she is often tearing her hair out it makes me so so cross:(

I then offered for him to quote for a new boiler in my house I got three quotes 1. £1200 2. 1900 and him " somewhere between £2,500 and £3,00" after three days of waiting for his verdict with no definitive cost we went with 1. And have had a perfectly working boiler for 4 years. He wAs shaking his head and wondering how on earth people could do it so cheap when all the bloke did was take out old one, fit the new one that we bought off the Internet and register it - simple!

Makes me so cross :(

I want that mug.

"unforeseen disabilities"

You really have seen it all, mostly in your imagination. It's unseen disabilities, as in not visible. HTH

You offered them a job good deed of the week :)

But there is no need to be annoyed for them turning it down you offered they said no so no need to worry.

Now now Murder, they could be unforseen. In that they didn't see them coming.

Unlike the OP of this thread who saw us all coming.

Something very very similar happened with us this week. My
DP is currently unemployed and I work but I am currently on mat leave and due to give birth early March. I feel very vulnerable at the moment and my DP is my rock, and with him being off work it is a bit of a godsend to be honest as he's always going to be free at the drop of a hat. He's also there to sort out childcare provisions should I need to go to hospital.

Now, this week my uncle told me that his place of work are taking on and he had told his boss that my partner is looking for work, so his boss offered for my DP to come and have a look and see what he thinks of the job. My uncle was also aware of our situation, that it may not be that easy at the moment, but the offer was there anyway.

We did turn down the offer as I'm due in 3 weeks time and don't want to mess the employer around as well as complicating things even more for us. My partner will resume job hunting after baby is born but right now it would just cause more stress than alleviate it to be honest.

Woah woah woah don't blame me for this fall out! You managed that on your own!

The job isn't a skilled trained job but requires a certain level of training iyswim. Like I said I'm vague because I don't want to out myself.

"She is a stay at home mum to a ten year old who has not worked for 11 years"

well tbf i think the 10 year old has a valid reason for not working for 11 years.

pondering why didn't your DP offer it to both of them?

@ Booyhoo

Because he had the skill set required for the job, she didn't.

So I say a poster is 'up themselves' but another poster says that other posters are'cunts' and mine is the post that is deleted!

Seriously there is no sinister ulterior motive behind this. It was a genuine offer to people who have made it VERY clear they're struggling and it was turned down out of hand. It annoyed me. I won't be opting to spend much time in their company any more because the tone of the conversation will land up to their financial situation (by their making, they always turn the conversation to a whinge). It's no big deal it just annoyed me at the time. Nothing more.

Murder's cunt was a "cunts in general" it wasn't aimed at any cunt specifically.

Your post was.

Hence you were deleted and she wasn't. For her cunts.