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AIBU?

It's up to mums to teach their boys that pubic hair on women is normal!?

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Uppatreecuppatea · 04/02/2013 21:55

I've read countless surveys and reports over the last few months that state that young men would be 'grossed out' if they went to bed with a woman and found that she had pubic hair.

They seem to think that all women either come hair free or should wax it all off.

I think a lot of this attitude comes down to them viewing porn where it's normal for a woman to have zero pubic hair and a neat little pudenda.

It's a worry. I quizzed the local boys who work in our pub and they all wax their chest and think pubic hair is disgusting on both men and women.

So glad I am married to a man who appreciates the 70's!

But what is in store for our young girls?

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SolidSnake · 04/02/2013 22:57

Btw, I don't think that the OP is saying that all girls shouldn't shave their pubes, but they shouldn't feel that they have to if they don't want to, to please men.

WorriedMummy73 · 04/02/2013 22:57

Is there anything we AREN'T supposed to discuss with our kids now? Cos stuff won't get done at this rate - I'm going to spend the rest of my life explaining EVERYTHING to my dc...

TheSmallerPenguin · 04/02/2013 22:58

Bushyness, not business!

EnjoyResponsibly · 04/02/2013 22:58

Ah go on LBE, then come back and tell us how that went

It's your job as a mother

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 04/02/2013 22:58

however, i teach, and have taught sex ed many times. i think this is definitely the place for such a discussion. boys and girls need to know that if they aren't hairless for religious reasons (Muslim women remove pubic hair) then she should be as nature made them.

So, if I am not Muslim, I am not allowed to decide how I want my minge? Fwiw, I shave, and have done for nearly 20 years, and that's the way I like it. As far as I am concerned, my minge is no-one else's business, and other women's minges are none of mine.

If the subject came up, I would make sure the boys knew that pubic hair is perfectly normal, and that they should choose the women they become intimate with based on who they are, not how they look. I can't say I have had the first part of that discussion with them, but they certainly know my feeling on the importance of the person, not the packaging.

BeerTricksPotter · 04/02/2013 22:58

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Boomerwang · 04/02/2013 22:59

I think the same, SolidSnake

Boomerwang · 04/02/2013 23:00

Sorry, I just reread the OP and realised that 'young men' and 'young women' must probably mean older men and women than the ones I had in my head. 'Young' to me implies someone teenage or younger.

Uppatreecuppatea · 04/02/2013 23:01

So I suppose you think i"m being unreasonable.

You think it's ok for young girls to feel ashamed of their pubic hair. And boys too. Because we all make our own life decisions without any outside influence.

That's what I'm reading.

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Boomerwang · 04/02/2013 23:02

Then you're reading a different thread.

ChestyLeRoux · 04/02/2013 23:02

No I think youve read surveys and magazines and have overreacted the issue.

BeerTricksPotter · 04/02/2013 23:03

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 04/02/2013 23:03

I haven't seen anyone say it is OK for young men or young women to be made to feel ashamed of their body hair, Uppatree.

Uppatreecuppatea · 04/02/2013 23:04

A comment or a thread does not equate to over-reaction. I thought this was a discussion board? My word is not the last (well, to me.....)

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TheSmallerPenguin · 04/02/2013 23:04

I'm quite ashamed of the state of my legs at the moment gorilla

Uppatreecuppatea · 04/02/2013 23:05

Good night! x

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TomDudgeon · 04/02/2013 23:05

I've learned one thing from this thread
I now think Tom Hollander is a cock

WorraLiberty · 04/02/2013 23:06

Well finally OP you've recognised that it's not just young girls who feel ashamed/under pressure about their bodily hair but young boys too.

That's all I was trying to get you to understand.

It really is something that both boys and girls feel disgusted by and are sometimes made to fee disgusting for having.

This whole "It's down to the boyz" thing is starting to grate on me.

It's really not down to one sex only.

WorriedMummy73 · 04/02/2013 23:06

Tom Hollander is a hairless cock...

EnjoyResponsibly · 04/02/2013 23:07

No OP, we are saying quite the opposite. We agree that no one should be ashamed of their bodies.

We are questioning whether girls only shave their pubes because of porn obsessed "boys".

And we are questioning the role that you would have mothers play in teaching boys that they mustn't make girls shave their pubes to look like film stars.

And we are questioning your assumption that women don't just shave because they want to.

CloudsAndTrees · 04/02/2013 23:07

Why do you assume that just because someone uses some method of hair removal that they are ashamed of their hair. Maybe they just don't like it? That's not the same as being ashamed.

SigmundFraude · 04/02/2013 23:07

I think I'll try and rest easy over this one, hopefully when my boys are hitting puberty big fluffy bushes will be all the rage regardless of the owner of the bushes sex.

Who wants to stare at ingrown hair zits? Horrible. I'm sure bald crotches aren't as common as people make out.

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BeerTricksPotter · 04/02/2013 23:08

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WorriedMummy73 · 04/02/2013 23:10

Y'know, I put the laptop on to watch some Heroes (yes, I'm that out of date) in peace with the kids in bed. That was 2 frigging hours ago. I physically cannot tear myself away from the AIBU board. Heaven help me...

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 04/02/2013 23:10

I shave not because I am ashamed of my pubic hair, but simply because I prefer it that way.

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