to think not everyone is controlling/has anxiety/angry?

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Of course in some situations they do.

But seriously, I read a thread where someone organised an event and invited her friends = controlling.

An OP gets flamed and has goading comments thrown at them = angry.

A flaky friend who generally just cannot be bothered = has anxiety.

I see the anxiety one especially time after time (even when the OP states that they don't), sometimes some people are just selfish and lazy.

I remember one thread, a woman said she was tired of inviting this woman (an ex-housemate) because she always cancelled, the OP said she had a huge house party when it was her birthday was always going for weekends away to party with friends - yet cue the anxiety comments.

You've given this some thought haven't you OP? Could you be feeling anxious about it?

YANBU.

I was called grumpy the other day for saying I didnt like the use of a word. :o

You seem quite angry op

I can sense your anger from my sofa. And below the anger there are clearly self-esteem issues. I can always tell.

what the hell is wrong with all of you!?! I am the most serene person you will ever meet!!

I dare any of you to come and say this to my face!!!!!

That would involve getting off my sofa. And that's never going to happen :o.

You're quite right, though - some OPs clearly just having a bit of a grump are accused of over-reacting hysteria. And you can usually tell if they are an over-reacting hysteric who loves to work themselves up into a tizz about anything, or if they're a completely normal person just having a shit day. Either way, they're not necessarily anxious or angry.

some peeps on this site are ,or esteem themself to be ,judge jury and hangman, and good luck to them>if it floats their boat?....(goes back to 300 piece jigsaw ,alternative interesting life)

Yeh, too much punctuation in that post. Definitely an anger problem.

That is why I enjoy AIBU-people who start it generally have one of the three-if not all of them!

YANBU, it's an odd, and not very helpful, kind of pathologising of perfectly normal psychological states.

YANBU. Some posters do not seem to believe that there are totally normal people who use MN, or that we are good parents/pet owners/drivers.

The last time I tried to be honest and 'clever' I was told I was 'projecting' and got a load of pyscho babble.

Some posters take themselves too seriously.

Reading between the lines OP (well done with paragraphs btw), I feel you are being passive aggressive in your 'observations'. Would you like to talk about it?

YANBU

but

YA also BU
HTH

Natural I am Normal. I am. Norma Normal. Really.

I have normal moments, serene (nazal gazing moments), angry moments. I have them all. You name them I have them. That's life and very human.

Agree with Peevish. It's an oddly female thing to do, ime - I wish it wasn't. Reminds me of girls at school accusing each other of being 'insecure'. It's done to assert the normality and overall sparkling emotional health of the poster doing the accusing. 'Ugh - YOU'VE got ANGER ishoos. I am LOVELY.' And so on. I also think women race to accuse each other of the most 'unfeminine' behaviour. Hence all the 'angry/controlling' accusations.

I am both angry and controlling. Or assertive and responsible if you prefer.

There's always one poster in every thread who decides to dick about.

'Don't say fuck. Why do you feel the need to add that to your posts? No one swears in real life.'

'Don't mention Buckfast, it's a stereotype and therefore offensive to Scottish people.'

'Your husband/wife/friend/in-law who got a bit angry in a situation where many would have done the same is definitely a monster who should be reported to tha authorities and/or shot.'

'Your friend didn't pay you back when you bought her a burger from Burger King? Get a new friend.'

'How dare anyone make any kind of parenting suggestion to anyone else?! That's just rude. People are entitled to let their kids run barefoot on glass/vomit in other people's food in Pizza Express/feed their kids sawdust and acid. You're just being judgey.'

'You let your 10-year-old go to the toilet alone? What are you? Some kind of NEGLECTFUL PARENT?'

*sadly there do seem to be a lot of threads on here where there is evidence of genuinely unacceptable and horrific behaviour - but there's also a lot of overreaction. It's like YouTube for right-on people.