To ask why do people 'loud parent'

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This woman from my NCT group does it all the time with her DS when we all meet for coffee and it's just ridiculous. She literally verbalises every thing they do with a question at the end and some sort of lesson. Eg mummy can't find her phone in her handbag can she James? Phone, James, PHONE. We ring daddy on the phone don't we? / Mummy is going to get you a rice cake, isn't she James? But we only have three left don't we, till we get to the shops. One, two, three. Shops. SHOPS.

I do engage with DD, naturally, but nowhere near on this level!

Sorry, I know this isn't a new topic, but it is so ridiculous. A couple of times I've echoed it with "what is mummy going to do tonight DD, drink gin, that's right, GIN. What does mummy like with her gin? Tonic, that's
right isn't it DD? But she might need to have it neat tonight, isn't that right?" however she is usually too absorbed in explaining to him why coffee is hot, HOT, and why it is sometimes in a mug MUG, sometimes in a cup CUP and why only mummies MUM-MIES drink coffee and not babies BABIES and why and why and why and why and why

do keep up eliza,see the thread is fast movig and youre not the moderator to clarify what threads are about
you dont know the mum was over keen as opposed to loud commentary.
most of us are actually describing the loud,precocious mc mummies

when i say " over keen" i mean only that she contiuned to do it at the coffee morning.

no scottish - they are not, but its a big bug bear of yours - your over hearing MC mummies and you have spoken about it at great length before.

Why dont you start to wear ear phones when you are out and about to drown these horrid MC mummies out.

I agree with Tondelayo about the food.

I agree with Bobby about competitive parenting.

All that reverse snobbery is a bit tiresome.

Tond

"Hummus hasn't been considered exotic since the 90s surely? "

Unfortunalty I think some people on here think anything more than a 60's chicken in a basket is posh.

Unless of course they have a speech delay like my DD in which case the best thing to do is to talk directly at her, repeating words loudly and showing her objects and naming them...

My mother used to do it, we called it her "Jackanory" voice, it made us cringe when we were older but, of course, I do it myself all the time.

Indeed Lequeen.

And where does this need/desire to speed up a small child language acquisition come from?

bows as the inventor of the term "Loud parenting"

Children just need to be exposed to the normal conversation between adults, other older children talking, stuff playing on the radio/TV, etc. That's all.

Unless they have speech and language difficulties.

sorry crossposted with everyone else!

Laqueen you are spot on.
Re speech delay btw, my young un didn't say a word until he was 3. I just went with it, never did anything any different and certainly didn't do the talking at him thing all the time. He is now four, speaks as well as his peers.
The whole talking at them thing - seriously, there is no conclusive evidence either way that this works. I actually think it can hinder them as I certainly wouldn't like some baffoon yapping away at me like a clown all the time - it might make me tongue-tied.

SALTs recommend certain techniques. I believe them, not people on MN who claim to know better.

Actually Bobbybird I think ou have misunderstood LaQueens point.

I believe she is rightly saying that usually dc will just naturally pick up speech if people around them are behaving normally and interacting in a articulate, healthy way. I wholeheartedly agree with her.

But using her point to say she is dismissing any link between clear speech directed at children with speech delay as a valid form of therapy is nonsense.

Anyone who has completed SALT training is advised to do it.

It's actually ironic that whilst lecturing others about language you don't seem to have understood what she wrote.

I have a VERY irritating acquaintance who does the loud teachy talking all the time at her 1 year old. Not just chatting to her, which I really don't think you can find fault with, but "yes darling it's a H! H for house" (street signs - kid is 1!!) etc is just ridiculous. She also genuinely believes her DD saying "aeroplane" babystyle ("abbiyan") is actually DD saying it in French (avion) because they went there in the summer. No joke.

Annoyingly, however, said one year old is extremely articulate and well ahead of her peers with language development.

They'll level out by school age, unless there are specific language issues - but in the mean time I suspect my acquaintance will run out of friends with the patience to spend time with her.

i have no bug bear, i do post about whatever.in my habitat everyone is a loud mc mummy
they travel in packs in a fug of jo malone and ugg boots.easy to discuss them
lets not make out anyone else is hear to advance observational social science or speech therapy.everyone is chewin the fat. dont pretend it any other way

they travel in packs in a fug of jo malone and ugg boots

You're coming across as if you have a massive chip on your shoulder.

not at all,its a straight factual observation of where i live
its not a fug of impulse and jj sports trainers.that would be somewhere else
so you see you assumeim saying something else to suit or support your pov

so you see you assumeim saying something else to suit or support your pov

My POV was that 'loud parenting' is not class specific. I just don't know why people make everything into a class war on here.