to think this is rude?

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this weekend i'm throwing a bit of a party/dinner, for a family members birthday. one of the people who is invited called me today to ask what i'm cooking.
i told them, chilli, jacket potatoes, veggie and chicken wraps, salad, nachos, i said i wasnt making it hot, as there are alot of children, and that i would cook some chicken without seasoning incase anyone isnt keen.
all this is being made and paid for by me, and is being made as the person whose birthday it is asked for it.
the one who called me asked what the children were having. i said this they were having the same as us.
she said that her and her kids wont eat it and she would bring sausages and buns for me too cook for them.
i think its pretty rude, im already making 2 difffernt meats, and veggie option. i have a tiny kitchen and am cooking for 25 people. i dont have room to do more, or time.
am i being unreasonable to say no?

That is RUDE!!! YANBU to tell the ungrateful bint to piss off.

Some people are SOOOOOO awkward! OMG!

Tell her to bring something cold. You don't have to cook for her children as well and everything else you are doing. Will they really not eat a potato?

It was rude of her to announce that you would be the one cooking it. If she really wants to bring her own food for her DCs she should bring it ready to eat.

I would say you won't have time or the equipment to cook them but let her bring food and baking trays etc to cook them on herself after you're finished with the oven.

Yanbu. I think it's rude. She should bloody well eat out of the lovely selection of food you are offering. I cannot abide fussy or entitled eaters and their precious offspring.

Tricky one. If she's providing it and not expecting you to get something different in, then if it was me I'd just do it. Doesn't take much to whack a few sausages under the grill. Or get her to do it?

i thought that out of what i was making, if they dont like spice they can have spud with cheese and salad, or plain chicken and salad wrap.

MrsP my DD won't go near a potato in any form. Flipping annoying.

No, YNBU... I'd repeat your last paragraph to her and suggest she brought them some sandwiches to eat! If they had allergies that would be different...

kelly my kitchen is tiny, so having here inthere doing it herslef while im doing the rest will be hard. and i will be using the oven, cant grill and use oven at the same time.

Ask her to bring them cooked and she can warm them up in the microwave and put them in buns herself. Just say it would be great if she did that and what a good helper she is:)

Tell her to stick her food where the sun doesn't shine. If her kids don't like what you're cooking tell her not to come. The flippin cheek of some people.

Well I dont blame her for asking what you are cooking...my DS is a fussy sod and wouldn't eat what you are doing.

However, I would either feed him before I came over or bring something already prepared. YANBU to be pissed off that she is expecting you to cook yet something else but at least she asked and didn't tell you when you were serving up that her DC won't eat it....that would have been even worse.

It's expecting you to do some cooking that's off. I'd ring back and say you won't be doing any cooking, but she's welcome to bring something ready cooked for her children.

Very rude. My DD was a very fussy eater, she wouldn't eat any sort of potato when she was little, but I wouldn't have dreamed of taking something for a host to cook -either she'd have just eaten bits and bobs or I'd have taken something pre-prepared.

Even she would probably have eaten a wrap with plain chicken and all the nachos

If this mother always caters to her kid's faddiness it'll take longer for them to grow out of it.

My eldest is a fussy eater. When we go round to a friends house he gets told to eat what is provided, go hungry or wait 'til the next meal at home. I would NEVER expect someone to change their catering plans for him, and I certainly wouldn't call up in advance or organise food he was happier with. The sooner he learns that different people eat different foods and he's missing out by being fussy, hopefully the sooner he'll widen his food repertoire.

That would drive me bonkers BigGiantCow. If I didn't have potatoes to fall back on (because DD will make a MASSIVE mess with pasta, rice, quinoa) I would have to bathe her every two minutes.

I cannot abide fussy or entitled eaters and their precious offspring

That's a bit harsh to be honest...my DS is fussy and it's a nightmare sometimes. Doesn't make him someone not to be liked, just makes him a royal pain in the arse sometimes!

How rude - surely there is something that is on offer that her children will eat?
If she insists on bringing food, tell her she can cook it, but she'll have to wait until after you've finished all your cooking as your kitchen is too small for extra bodies - then the she might just find her kids are peckish enough to try some of your food

SO rude - if her children won't eat what's on offer l;et her feed them before they come or bring sandwiches for them and STAY OUT OF YOUR KITCHEN!!! Tell her your oven/cooker will be too busy to cook sausages.

so rude. Tell her you don't have space for her to bring any food to be cooked, so if there's nothing her DCs will eat from that list, she can bring sandwiches or other cold food for them to eat, or feed them beforehand.

i can imagine her turning up and either, having exaclty enough for them, and none for the other kids who will see the sausages and think..'ohh, i want one of those'' OR she will make a MASSIVE issue of the effort she has gone to.

I've just re-read your post OP, she said 'her and her kids' not just the kids. Definitely tell her not to come, that is just SO rude.

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