To ask what SAHM,s with kids at school do with their days?

[totallyfrazzled]

I am mainly a SAHM but both my children are now school age. I do work PT, but as I work freelance my work days are erratics so I often find myself being a SAHM for a full week. Despite the fact that I do work, albeit slightly randomly, I find that I cannot give myself credit for the multiple tasks that I perform in anyone day at home....getting the DC's dressed and ready for school, driving them to school, clearing up the breakfast chaos, making the beds, doing the shopping, blah blah blah, preparing the evening meal, collecting the DC's, getting thru the homework, etc etc etc. i seem to be able to fill a whole day with domestic drudgery and still I am treading water, i.e. I am keeping everything at a status quo rather than actually achieving anything. I feel duty bound to keep on with domestic duties whilst not actually in renumerative employ. I feel guilty doing otherwise.Wondering if any one anyone else is in the same boat?

well read the thread There is fair few describing,gym,coffee, shops,social
I'm sure it's not true for all,but certainly it's an account that always pop up pn mn

Scotmummy always creeps onto these threads to spew her bile.
And sounds rather demented in the process.
It's quite funny but tiresome at the same time.

Scottish, would you be happier if sahm's were sat at home with PND, bemoaning their lack of glittering career whilst waiting for a bit of housekeeping from the alpha male spouse?(who is an arrogant prick,naturally)

creeps on?
I think not
a consistently held opinion will be expressed consistently.nowt creeps about it

Yes. Tiresome is the word!
I am confused - been a loooong day...
Is SM saying that sahms shouldn't go out for coffee, go out with friends, the gym or salon beacuse they are sahms??
How odd.
Perhaps pensioners shouldn't either then?
We are such a drain on society aren't we?
Ffs.

Yes, the box comment was made with regards to scottishmummy appearing on a thread with sahm in the title.
Doesn't touch any nerves, doesn't apply, just annoyingly predictable and boring.

Today

Got back home from school run, sorted out sons bed etc
Phoned the special needs education department locally to discuss various issues.
Picked up my Mum and took her shopping and then collected prescription for my unwell 87 year old Uncle. Explained the medications to him and listened while he moaned about all the tablets
Saw my counsellor who has been fabulous about various issues in my life.
Went to pick up DS's medication from pharmacy.
Picked up DS from school.

I'm all for bit riposte on a thread,but you know what on let yourself get so het up
however pnd is draining illness,I'd certainly not hope any mum suffer
dispute my posts,dispute my pov,by all means but don't make stuff up

You are the most het up person on this thread, I think.

it's just you seem so sneery and judgmental of sahm's enjoying their time to do whatever they want whenever they want. I'm sure you'd feel happier (with the choices you made) if you could imagine shams as a nice beige collective of bored, depressed little wifeys.

you think incorrectly
I'd say het up are the spew,bile, loon crew
its all v pantomime baddy.boo hiss

I'm not het up, Scotty, I think it's sad that you always denigrate women who choose to stay at home. You once said that your work validates you. Fair enough, but other women might not need to get their validation from paid employment. why does that upset you so much?

O why do you always choose to be snide about anything to do with sahms? What is it that infuriates you so much, really?

Being consistent is not a goal n itself, or praiseworthy, if it is being consistent about something silly ( popping up on sahm threads and being unpleasant for no reason. You do not seem interested in any debate, just sneering)

Why on earth would I need an employer to validate me and my life?
Imo expecting any other person/people to validate ones own life is a pretty dangerous way to live - That goes for employers, strangers on the Internet or family members.
I think it's deeply deeply sad that some people only seem to value other people based on some arbitrary amount of money that they earn.

From the early days it helped me not to focus on the domestic side of life. It all needs doing but your life doesn't have to revolve around it. If I thought that was all there was I couldn't cope and feel it was drudgery.
Whatever you don't do today will still be there tomorrow.
Hobbies, interests and a social life are more important than housework that can wait.
Can't take the credit for this but read a management book once that asked for important, urgent, not important, not urgent lists. Each day you did urgent, some important and left the rest and went off to play.

aye thanks or putting me straight you not het up
woman hatin loon,demented must be a fond felicitation,a jokey how's it goin
good job yo put me straight about that and spewing bile

In my coffee and gym days I achieved a relaxed and happy life and made some lifelong friends.

My cat is my role model.

She has a permanent staff on hand and spends her days doing whatever the fuck she feels like.

Yeh, that's in Covey isn't it potatoprints ... 7 Habits of Effective people ...

Number one being to be proactive, number two being begin with the end in mind, and number three being to put first things first
(From memory, order of 2 & 3 could be wrong)

An excellent, inspiring, and liberating sort of book.

The important/ urgent/ not important/ not urgent grid square is fab too !

My pleasure, Scotty!

I'm not a stay at home mum, but i only work part time. I'm one of those weirdo's with burning ambition & constantly looking at different careers/training/study etc... I get restless fairly quickly.

I think SAHM's are wonderful. Running a home, looking after your family on a full time basis, it must be hard work, draining & tiring at times, but it must also have some great benefits. Good on you, if you can afford it why the hell not? I think it's quite sad that most women don't have the choice anymore.

Working mums, well i think they are super women.

I work 15-20 evenings a week, but am home during the day. DS is in school 12 hours a week. Usually I nap, read books in bed with a cuppa, or go visit my friend at her bookshop. And mumsnet a lot:)

I am a lot more chilled out than I used to be tbh.
I let things slide a lot more...as you say, sort out what is important/urgent etc.

Hello scottishmummy, I am from Scotland too.

For some folk it isn't quite swanning, I do admire those people. I've had a couple of fairly good days and for me I kind of stagger between the gym and clubs, or scoot on my scooter. I do these activities because they help with my mental health and also build up my physical health, so I don't think it's such a bad thing to do.

I've got bedrooms like bombsites today, but I think I got to the bottom of the washing pile. I feel like I really achieved something. But I don't have the partner, so I am not really accountable to anyone else. When I did he used to get a bit mad at me and ask me why I wasn't better at things, I always had his dinner on the table so it made me feel quite upset, especially when he compared me to his mother or... worse... his ex-wife. He never did understand the drain of chronic pain and illness.

If it works for other people, is it such a bad thing? Perhaps their partners want them to be fit, healthy, pampered and well, and available I guess should they need the support, and that's enough for them?

let's be clear Im not expecting anyone to act on my pov and renounce housewifery
do what you want,but do expect it to be opined upon,disputed or naw not for me
always bemused by the youse bad un posts,followed by some psychobabble why I'm bad un