To be upset at being called a selfish cunt at a concert?

[TheDarkSideOfTheSpoon]

Just got back from a concert in town and although it was fantastic it was spoiled for us a bit. I'm sure IANBU, but perhaps need some perspective.

Friend and I had seats at the end of a row, in the back corner of the arena so looking diagonally towards the stage, next to us was a woman perhaps in her late 70s/early 80s which was a bit surprising, we'd expected more to be with our own age group but other than being mildly surprised we didn't give it a second thought.

Half way through the concert, friend and I are happily stood up dancing and cheering like the majority of people there and a woman leans over from a few seats above & behind us and yells "you do know you two are the only ones stood up in this section don't you, why don't you sit down so other people can see" in a very aggressive tone. We said we're sorry but this is a music concert, strange as it is that this particular section seems to be filled with boring old farts people not wanting to dance actually 95% of the arena are on their feet. She yelled again that this poor woman next to us couldn't see and we ended up having a row where we explained our reasons for standing and she called us various names and eventually left. We felt a bit uneasy then but not sure what to do, our enjoyment would be spoiled by having to stop dancing/waving/cheering but of course not wanting the lady next to us to have her night spoiled either. We offered her our aisle seat to sit in so she would be in front of us and our standing wouldn't get in her way but she turned it down so we tried to get over the row and enjoy ourselves.

Ten minutes later the other woman comes back, on her way to the toilet passed behind us and yelled "I hope you're having a good time you selfish pair of cunts!" before stomping off. We were and tbh a bit upset. Didn't retaliate, so hopefully retained the mythical moral high ground but still it took away from an otherwise good night.

What would you have done? We paid the same as everyone else, we went there looking forward to dancing and jumping about as is usual at concerts, almost everyone else was, if the older lady couldn't stand then there were disabled seats available but she had booked a standard seat. We did offer her ours but she turned it down and from what we could see everyone else could have stood up if they chose. We weren't allowed to move and stand anywhere else. AIBU?

And me, SwedishEdith (great nn BTW)

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And StuntGirl, thanks for the Rammstein link. Will have to educate myself tomorrow though as I'm guessing DH will not want to be woken up by a German metal band

Ds who is 2 to has a toy giraffe that how's EVEYWHERE. It is called dast miche because if DH educating him in the wonders of Rammstein.

Lol at mum dancing and the Grange Hill one step, two step.

Am I horrible to want to now go to a Ronan Keating concert to stand up (with platforms, and I am a 'tall twat' as well) with a high ponytail.

I used to work in the offices of a big arena and we had a policy of asking people to sit down if other customers complained that they couldn't see. Security stewards used to ask them to sit down if a complaint was made. I used to get letters of complaint after events from people who couldn't see and my response was always to say if you'd approached security, they'd have asked those in front to sit down. I know you want to enjoy yourself but it's common courtesy to allow those behind you to see.

We had Ronan there quite a few times .

I have never heard of Wannstein, thank god and all his seraphim and cherubim.

Ronan has got a very specific nasal singing voice hasn't he, bless him. OP did you take along some of those nose clips that synchronised swimmers wear for when you had a sing a long?

Rammstein rock

I saw them last feb and no way was was I sitting. (although I could be really crude about where I would sit )

Sorry, but as others have said, you have to follow the lead of the rows behind you. And take into account the position of your seat in relation to the view of the stage for those not immediately behind you who might have your arse in their line of vision rather than the performer they've come to see . I go to a fair number of gigs, need to book seats and love to get up to dance now and again but it's not always possible. A back row/lower tier seat near the stage is your best bet for being able to get up when you feel like it without disturbing anyone.

Worst thing about gigs is the other fans, I tell you. The bastards. If they're not standing up or singing too loudly they're waving their bloody mobiles around the entire time. Or slapping their ponytail rhymically into your face for two hours.

I might be getting too old and grumpy for that kind of caper altogether.

Fucksake, where is the edit button?

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HA HA HA!!! Pickled is bringing the Lola on this thread!

My hips are ducked thanks to chronic SPd when I was pregnant. Standing fir long periods is an issue for me fir thus reason. Went to see Queens of the Stone Age and got a seated ticket and had two 12 year old girls who only knew one song standing in front of me. I asked them very nicely I they could sit and they called me a fucking Nan Excuse me,you little twats but I have more rock and roll in my fingernail than in your two bodies combined. Presumptuous little shits!

OP YABU.

Bringing the Lola?

Oh yes.

LOLZ

Shut up, nan.

GetOrf - I take back the tall twat comment, sorry it upset you (and I had no idea how tall any MNers were when I made it).
Looks like I'll just have to see what happens.

She IS a tall twat,make no apologies for it.

Standing behind GetOrf at a gig is akin to standing behind the BT Tower.

Only pulling your plod Getorf, you know aunty Bupz luvzz ya bubbahh xxxx

LOL at shut up nan, only just saw that you penis

Sorry, but i think if you pay to sit down, you should sit or book seats in the back row. I don't understand why you didn't do that in the first place if you wanted to dance- If there weren't standing places available, i would have booked somewhere else.
I would be annoyed if someone stood in front of me and i couldn't see what i'd paid to see. Some people might not be able to stand up or have booked seats purposely because they didn't want to, so i think you are being unfair.
I wouldn't call you a cunt, but i think you should be a bit more considerate next time.

Many big concerts you can't choose which seat you get. You find out later on.

empress no need to apologise. . I am a tall twat, I think your statement is probably quite apt.

bups what the bloody hell were you doing posting at that hour? did you have to get up to put your electric blanket back on?

If everyone else around you was sitting down it wasn't great form to stand up was it? That's not exactly rocket science. Don't most people just go with the majority? If you sit and most stand it's a bit shit but not much you can do about it so you look at arses. If you stand but no one else does - sit your arse down and get over it.

I'm a tall twat. I'm always hyper-conscious of standing because my friend is a short twat and has made me painfully aware of the detrimental impact tall twat-ness has on the day to day lives of the short twat.

Eg. The armpit to face issue when dancing arms aloft, the boobs to back of head collision if dancing in a confined space etc.

This will so out me.

DH and I once got a bollocking from a couple because we were dancing at a Grace Jones gig. WTF? We were in the standing area, everyone else was dancing, but the man asked us to stop dancing as we were "disturbing his wife's enjoyment". I laughed and said it wasn't a Coldplay concert. The woman folded her arms and said 'this is ridiculous'. I pointed out that she could have got seated tickets.

We kept on dancing. The woman screamed at us about 10 minutes later (over the loud disco music that everyone was dancing to) that we had 'ruined her night'. I told her that she'd ruined her own night and that Grace Jones would probably shit on her face if she ever met her. Not my finest comeback but it was awfully satisfying. They did kind of scuttle away.

Who wouldn't dance at a Grace Jones gig? Weirdos.

But, er, back to the OP - I think you were being a bit U if nobody in your section was standing.

This is why I never go to these big arena gigs.

DP and I had seated tickets for Nine Inch nails at Brixton and knew we'd have to sit for the gig.. This was a disappointment for us but there were no standing tickets left. Turns out our hangovers were v grateful for this!

The only two people who did stand up in the seating area were an off his head young bloke who kept getting told to sit down by security only to pop back up seconds later. He wasnt anywhere near us.

The other 'stander' was a VIP. I'm sure it was Grace Jones but DP says it wasn't (it was!) she was right at the front of the balcony (all 8 door of her) dancing and throwing her arms around in wild abandon. No security told her to sit down! And obviously neither did I

"8 foot of her" not "8 door" - bloody iPad!