to think that having 8 DC by 3 different fathers may well have a detrimental impact on the DCs?

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Especially as the first two fathers are not in the picture anymore so the 3rd husband is bringing up someone else's 6 DC and then a further 2 have been added to the household .

The mother is effectively a single parent anyway as the latest DH is away a lot in the military. The oldest 3 are in boarding school though so there is only 5 DC full time at home. This is a middle class family btw not a family of 'benefit scroungers'. The mother states that 'her kids have a decent dad and will all be fine'. AIBU in thinking that it's terrible?

I am Scottish and I have irn bru.

Just thought I'd chip in, realise its not exactly a weighty contribution.

It's sugar free irn bru though.

Not sure boot that but a couple of my mates from uni were on Mr Tumble the other day sortin his banjo ooot.

what a lovely contribution Rhonda, do you also have shortbread and Edinburgh rock?

HillaryClitoris:
LittleMiss,

Could that be due to carefull life choices?

Yes of course it is. I said it in response to another poster. I too have made careful life choices.

ooo and fudge, theres always lots of fudge in Edinburgh

I didn't,

I just didn't

I organised a burns night years ago when I worked in a nursing home. Someone came in to read poetry and play bag pipes and we had a haggis.

twas good!

Little Miss Stupid, I'm afraid to say we're not talking about life choices here, careful or otherwise. We're talking about Scottish songs and Scottish confectionary, its Burns night I'll have you know. I'm concerned that you're living up to your name.

Thats a lovely story Moomin, its so nice to hear you saying nice things and not swearing

Callme I've already told you I swore in response to being sworn at!

I met a girl that asked me to marry her very quickly, we married, step son, had a baby, I got cancer she ran off days after... 4 years of family court, no support manipulation like you wouldn't believe, cancer surgery on my own, I'm 30, seperated from my daughter for 20 months, 2 miles away, no fault of my own, gone through the whole court process and further year rebuilding our relationship. Cost about 50 Grand, pain, unbelievable.

I lurked on here, projected, I'm sorry.

The cook in the nursing home made lovely fudge

GOOD EVENING ALL and a Very Happy Rabbie Burns Nacht to youse all.
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I am a man, I've been abused, I'm sorry. I just don't understand how a woman can do what she did.

No Scottish songs.

I don't understand how anyone can do that tbh. Man or woman it makes no difference.

Rhonda?

What pretend to be a bloke on mumsnet?

I'm going to leave this thread now as is all got quite serious and sometimes swearing hurts my eyes. I suspose lots of emotions just come spilling out on here its a bit like the allotment but on a bigger scale. Anyway I enjoyed our brief sing-along and confectionery chat and I hope those who participated did too. Who knows maybe we will meet again on another thread,

Farewell

Doris

Oh and we have finished the shortbread, no sweeties I'm afraid, but DH did make haggis neeps and tatties earlier.

Tatties auto corrected as fatties first try!

I think everyone is guilty of projecting some times,

It sounds like you've been through an awful time, I hope things get better for you

Agree man or woman its a horrible thing to do. However it probably has little to do with her also having other children.

No Hilary, make it so hard for someone to have a relationship with their child, unless of course there are safety concerns. Not implying there are in your case, just adding a caveat for others.

Bye Doris nice to meet you.

I'm lonely,

I've been through hell to just get my little girl back, It's taken so much to give her the stablilty of having a dad, I'm so worried about her mother trying to introduce another partner as she has done with her son.

I'm sorry, my thoughts were genuine.