to ask what's wrong with 'hunning'?

[chickencurryfor7]

I?ve used mn for years for advice and information, but only registered properly this Christmas after getting my very own iphone and feeling like I?d be able to contribute regularly without having to sharpen my elbows politely ask to share the family computer. (Sorry - I feel I have to justify my first ever post with this disclaimer, as it seems all de-lurking newbies get accused of being trolls).

Anyway ? really, what?s wrong with hun? It seems to me that it?s only used when someone is trying to be genuinely sympathetic, friendly, reassuring or kind, and what with all the other abbreviations that go on, seems harmless? At least it?s an actual word that?s used in everyday language, unlike most of the other shorthand on here?

I am new, so anxious not to offend or get the shorthand wrong, but does it REALLY matter if someone calls you hun if they?re only trying to be nice?

I wondered about this too. I don't particularly like the word Hun and I would never use it in real life but to me the use of 'D' in front of everything (DH, DD, DSetc) is far more sickly and twee than Hun, yet it is common place. Surely people would know who you were talking about if you just typed H, D or S?

Absolutely nothing wrong with it.

If people don't like it , fair enough , but at least recognise that it's not harmless and is usually well intentioned.

I don't know why people get so worked up by something so harmless.

'It seems to me that it?s only used when someone is trying to be genuinely sympathetic, friendly, reassuring or kind'

THIS is the bit where you're mistaken, OP - imo! It's because it's often used as a filler/in circumstances where kindness is the last thing on anyone's mind/ when someone is trying to con you/etc etc. that it's become so notorious.

If it were always intended generously it wouldn't be an issue. You should have seen the pram threads on here a few years ago

If you want to use it, use it.

People will find it irritating or not. Its just up to you if that bothers you or not.

Personally I hate false endearments. It's all a bit Jeremy Kyle.

as in,

person 1 'have you still got the britax hun'

person 2 'yes its still here lol'

'what did you want for it hun xxx'

'about 100 hun but has got cosytoes with it xx'

'wd you take 75 xx'

'sorry hun really need 100'

person 3 'Oy thats my pram your selling hun and its broken lol'

And honestly MNters are no better or worse than everybody else.

Some of them just like to think they are .

Its like a bloody playground - " you can say cunt but you cant say hun ".

Pathetic .

Disclaimer: I am a self confessed pram hun. Currently have about 15 of them...

Chickencurry I would try and care less what people think of you tbh ... What does it matter - just go for it.
The decent supportive element of MN won't care what abbreviations you use , just ignore the cliquey judgey pants brigade .

I dont like it but it doesnt make my teeth itch or anything. My sister has always called me hun so I guess Im used to it - on the page from strangers I find it a little wierd but then rarely I use 'sweetie' when I'm addressing someone online that I want to somehow comfort so I guess I'm just as bad as the hunners!

rooneymara that's why I can't stand it. It's insincere.

It's not that you can't hun. It's that you will be judged for it

YANBU I don't see the problem, hun. Although I would spell it hon.

Also, I thought for ages that MNers called the other site nethuns because the people on there were like attilla the hun or something. I sometimes take a while to catch on (understatement).

(Am I allowed to say nethuns)

and why was someone selling another person's pram?

I've only been on MN for a few weeks but it's really changed the way I look at things like hun / lol / kisses.

I still go on another forum (not netmums!) but it is of the sparkly ticker ilk and the more I come on here, the more stuff is annoying me over there. I'm now consciously limiting the amount of hugs I give and the amount of lolling I do.

It's just so bloody illiterate. I would still find 'hon' - short for 'honey', which is what I assume people mean, not Hun as in Huns and Visigoths/British WWI anti-German propaganda - twee and a bit maddening, but it wouldn't make me wonder whether the person using it was as thick as two short planks, and didn't realise they were mis-spelling a short, easy, straightforward word...

Don't personally use it but nothing particularly wrong with it, what's worse is people who decide that because someone uses certain words, they're not really worth taking seriously - especially hypocritical when these same people get on their high horses about others being 'judgemental'...

Paella, yes it becomes very hard work when you have to write hun at the end of every sentence for fear of offending someone. Welcome to the dark side anyway

Fudgeling, it's a true story - the thread is probably no longer searchable but there was a proper scrap, all about a broken pram that was for sale on here in the old days when it was free to buy and sell.

It became completely farcical - people kept appearing and saying 'that's my hallway in the picture' and 'that's my dog as well' it was brilliant.

Oh meant to say, she had nicked the photos from person 3 for selling purposes.

Can we turn "hun" into a Mumsnet insult, by capitalising it as "Hun". Interchangeable with "cunt". So we can give "cunt" a rest and only use it when we need real shock factor?

My iPad keeps wanting to capitalise the H anyway, would make life easier for all us Apple-users.

And would also stop the mock-affectionate hunning.

Not really, I do realise this would be hugely offensive/possibly racist.

I hate Hun, and have never knowingly Lolled.
I think it's because the only people I know who Hun and Lol and text in txt spk are a bit thick.
I do call people love though, even on here, but in most of Yorkshire it can feel like a bit of a slight if people in shops and places don't call you love.
I would never "Luv" though, because, for some reason , that seems aggressive and condescending..
So maybe it is the dodgy abbreviation then?

Couldn't care less, quite happy to be hunned, honned, henned, sweetied, etc

"Chick" is worse.

It's dreadful. I'm afraid I make instant judgements about those using 'hun' 'hunny' and so on.

hunni
Favourite FB endearment of almost all the school mums here.
Plus the irritating habit of adding xxx at the end of every status update/comment

[scratches teeth frantically]

My word, I've done it. I've actually killed a thread

Eew, an ex work colleague used to call everyone "honey". Our department nicknamed her "winne the pooh".