to ask what's wrong with 'hunning'?

[chickencurryfor7]

I?ve used mn for years for advice and information, but only registered properly this Christmas after getting my very own iphone and feeling like I?d be able to contribute regularly without having to sharpen my elbows politely ask to share the family computer. (Sorry - I feel I have to justify my first ever post with this disclaimer, as it seems all de-lurking newbies get accused of being trolls).

Anyway ? really, what?s wrong with hun? It seems to me that it?s only used when someone is trying to be genuinely sympathetic, friendly, reassuring or kind, and what with all the other abbreviations that go on, seems harmless? At least it?s an actual word that?s used in everyday language, unlike most of the other shorthand on here?

I am new, so anxious not to offend or get the shorthand wrong, but does it REALLY matter if someone calls you hun if they?re only trying to be nice?

I have also been name-called 'Doll'

I do say Bud a lot not on here in RL, such as 'cheers bud' but most of my friends are male so I am saying thanks buddy really..I think!

I don't like hun, babe or dear...

I also get freaked out if a man name-calls me 'darling' or 'sweetheart'

IT'S YAPPY

Scottish version is Hen I dont like that either I am fine with people older than me saying it like my parents but anybody my age or younger I WILL IGNORE YOU

what does it mean 'Hun' are you insulting Germans in a first ww fashion? Being an inflammatory Scottish football fan?

seriously 'HUN' is a meaningless word - that is my issue with it - it's silly

\IT means Hunnie or honey

I got called 'duck' a lot by a man who delivered stuff to us, as in ' alright duck'.

I didn't mind that at all.

I don't mind love I do sometimes 'lovey' on here I guess that makes me a bit of a hypocrite

Its a form of unwelcome over familiarity and it's not a good habit to get into.

I think I'm getting the gist. Some things/words are OK in real life, bad in virtual life.

got it. oh god am i ever going to get it?

Oh not hen ... OMG, sorry hen, oh heeeeeeeeeeeen hiyaaaaaaaa, fuck off stop it !!!

Hunnie is not a word!

Honey - then it should be HON - and I don't think calling random strangers honey is very grown up

Its insincere and patronising, although an even bigger class marker than sofa vs settee or dinner vs tea. Nancy mitford would have had it on her u, non-u list i reckon.

I hate terms of endearment when applied to anyone you don't hold dear. It's just sycophantic. It reminds me of the type of people who are really overly-matey, but absolutely nowhere if you have a crisis.

The only person I use terms of endearment with is my partner.

Don't mind duck tbh!

I don't mind it at all and find it quite funny how there are 'mumsnet rules' that everyone decides to follow. You are right about the context of how people tend to use it though.

I quite being called sweetheart, love, darling, etc mostly as I hear them being used in a positive fashion. A little bit of niceness goes a long way in my book.

Live and let live!

no ...if you called me 'Hun' in real life I would probably punch you in the chuff - hth

Sickly and stupid!

I remember a 14 year old calling me hun one day! I was all "I have a child a year younger than you and you are calling me hun"?

The only person who can get away it is my grandmother.

orry hen, oh heeeeeeeeeeeen hiyaaaaaaaa, fuck off stop it !!

do you live in my area HIYAAAAAAAAAAA HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEN makes me curl up into a ball

I use Hun in everyday life with friends and use another forum where it's not an issue, however, I hate dear, darling, duck, sweetie et al but funnily I don't mind Hun. No idea why?

Oh yeah hen drives me batty too.

when I used netmums I never hunned anybody

remember a 14 year old calling me hun one day! I was all "I have a child a year younger than you and you are calling me hun"?

I had a boy about 15 say to me scuse me pal PAL

MrsJay I hink I might dae if anybudy yoo ken talks like thus erm.. Hen?

If you were posting for support and feeling shit, and someone called you hun/hen/love or whatever because they were really genuinely trying to help and be nice, would you take it in the manner it was offered, or would you bite them.

It's racist towards Germans.

But seriously, the reason it is disliked here is that it is twee. Mumsnet is a serious site for serious mothers, don't you know.