to ask what's wrong with 'hunning'?

[chickencurryfor7]

I?ve used mn for years for advice and information, but only registered properly this Christmas after getting my very own iphone and feeling like I?d be able to contribute regularly without having to sharpen my elbows politely ask to share the family computer. (Sorry - I feel I have to justify my first ever post with this disclaimer, as it seems all de-lurking newbies get accused of being trolls).

Anyway ? really, what?s wrong with hun? It seems to me that it?s only used when someone is trying to be genuinely sympathetic, friendly, reassuring or kind, and what with all the other abbreviations that go on, seems harmless? At least it?s an actual word that?s used in everyday language, unlike most of the other shorthand on here?

I am new, so anxious not to offend or get the shorthand wrong, but does it REALLY matter if someone calls you hun if they?re only trying to be nice?

*bite AT them

pmsl @ SirBoobAlot.

I'm a newbie too, so I can see myself digging a pretty deep trench for myself along the way, saying things/using vocab that it appears I shouldn't! I shall tread carefully.

At the end of the day, I just think 'it's nice to be nice'.......isn't it? If one person's way of being nice is to say 'hun', is that such a bad thing? There's enough cr*p around in the world today, so even if somebody were to call me 'hun' and I found it a bit condescending or overfamiliar, I'd like to think I wouldn't let it bother me....

Are there any other don't-do's that I ought to be aware of from the off?

If someone was offering support I would say nothing tbh!

Usually someone else comes along and says something anyway

I hink I might dae if anybudy yoo ken talks like thus erm.. Hen?

aye ah hink i dae sigh

I call my children/dh honey or darling or sweetheart. But i love them. I don't love some random stranger on the internet. I like talking to random strangers but I don't actually know any of you. Calling someone who doesn't actually mean anything to you by a pet name is just odd imo. It's far too familiar.

None of it drives me batty - i love it all I have to hold back on here!

Hun, hon, hen, duck, love, babe, darlin', sweetpea, petal, poppet, me old mucker!

Yes so cunt and fuck etc are fine but no hunning or hugging for me please!

There is a thread on AIBU and a poster was hunning the OP.

She was told by someone else to stop with the hunning!

I would think they where a bit thick - saying 'hun' isn't supportive it's cloying and twee but not supportive

giving good advice and being empathetic is supportive

so how do we stand on LOL

It's horrid and sentimental and childish. And really, we don't know each other well enough to use (sickly) terms of endearment.

Anyway, 'Hun' makes me think of 'Attilla the', whereas if it's short for 'Honey', surely it should be 'Hon'?

I do call my own ds's poppet and occasionally chooky egg which they hate but I love it.

I never say it in front of their friends though!

oh no misses jay, it's nae gid is it? Ah hink sum folk didnae go tae schul?

Wow it is tricky typing in scottish slang btw! We drop letters and everything, like the word everything it's every-hing, see I just dropped a T.

just see it as being Billingual overly

mrsjay I don't think I've ever lolled anyone.

aww chooky egg is sweet

It's dire. Nobody so far has ever called me Hun. I don't mind being called dear. Don't much like love or luvvie but nothing is much worse than Hun.

I absolutely loathe hun, it's lazy and plain awful, the modern equivalent of 'love' . There's a woman at the school who I know fairly well who does the 'hun' thing constantly, 'you ok Hun?' 'nice weekend Hun?' 'How's ds Hun? Aarrghh Just use my name I do have one and you've known me for 5 years so I'd hope you can remember it by now!

Some posters on MN like to think they're above text speak, hon, tickers etc. Words like etc

I don't know why, ps make sure you use paragraphs - thats a bit of a bugbear as well. And capital letters where/were? appropriate. It can all be a bit headgirly but most of the time its great.

1. MN is full of pedants, so we hate the fact that it's 'hun' rather than 'hon'

1. NM and MN seem to appeal to two different types of people. There is a kind of rivalry between MNers and NMers, with MNers seeming to look down on NMers. NMers are keen on 'Hun' so it has become a group identifier; NMers say 'Hun', whilst MNers do not. A way of signaling loyalty, kinship and shared values. No idea if this is reflected on NM.

1. There's a type of effervescent young hyper communicator (constantly on BBM and FB and SMS) for whom 'hun' is used as punctuation:

'Aw, Hun. That's terrible, hun. You ok, hun?'

MNers often don't want to be mistaken for this type of person, considering themselves a cut above because they use proper punctuation.

1. On MN, the term of endearment 'sweetheart' is acceptable is an OP is in dire distress.

That is all.

Personally, I loathe it because it reminds me of someone I know who uses perfectly good English in RL but when she texts, she warps into some demented teenager text speak lingo - and she's 50. Yes 50. And no one pays by the character for sending texts anymore. Grr. She is not 'dwn wid da kidz' she just sounds like a loon.

Thankfully, she's the only person I know who huns.

AAAnd breathe.

sugarice that's the thread that got me thinking in the first place!
I don't like lol, but then I never actually say it?
Hon/hun/sweets I say all the time in real life, and not even to people I like, let alone love! It's just what I say to people I see regularly (or the bus)

I find it patronising because it's over familiar and often used sarcastically. I see how it's used on other forums and it's used either on a sympathetic thread (where everybody calls everybody else 'Hun') or used in a sarcy sense much like you'd say "Dear" to your partner when they've said something stupid.

I wouldn't want to be called it IRL by DP or friends so I wouldn't want to be called it by people online either. I don't like other familiar terms either though

I asked someone to stop hunning. I said please and everything though.

Used in everyday language?

Where? So I can never go to that place