AIBU to think there is a problem on MN discussing anything at all to do with income

[amillionyears]

There are a lot of threads started nowadays, that are causing offence to people who are on low incomes.

It is getting increasingly difficult for those on higher incomes to discuss quite a lot of things.

I dont know if the answer is for those with more income, to not talk much about anything, or those with less income to let them talk about what they want to talk about.

I dont know the answer to all of this.
I would like both sets, or indeed anyone in the middle, to be in harmony on MN!

I had some very helpful financial advice from Mumsnetters recently and we are loaded .

I hope someone had a word with the numpty who peed all over the piano tuning thread.

The woman who felt poor on £250,000 and paying 4 sets of school fees was a very silly person indeed so I left her to it.

There are some mumsnetters who are unable to post a single thing without hinting at or even detailing their colossal incomes and for the most part I think they are just laughable.

Help - thank you . Yes, a nanny would be cheaper (although not lots cheaprer when you take into account nanny's petrol, daily expenses, tax, NI, fees for accountancy firm like nannytax to administer the above) but we don't want to move the older 2 out of a setting they like so much, plus oldest will go to school in September.

In essence, Mintyy, they are vulgar.

Hully - was 'Satan' an autocorrect error for Frozen?

Vulgar - that's it exactly.

Calling someone Satan, just cause you do not agree with them is a bit harsh IMO ...

eh? Satan?

typo

Should I delete the post then for vulgarity? Will request. I never seem to do this kind of thing right.

pag did you get them resoled? Did they resole them in red?

Back to thread, I love reading what people's incomings and outgoings are, it's not something you generally can discuss in real life.

Don't be daft!

that was to frozen.

seriously frozen, do you see now how and why you can mention your dilemmas without invoking Money Wrath?

I see now! < takes note >

Hurrah!

well done.

But OP, it is like that in real life!

If you are skint, you can talk about money. But if you have it, you keep schtum and count your lucky stars.

I once made the mistake of telling two friends what I earned, as I was so proud of my career progress. I thought they would be pleased for me. They were openly dismayed, envious and a bit angry. I guess I was young and naive. I learned my lesson, and I never tell people how much or how little money I have now!!! Not even online.

Also, can people really not understand that moaning about private school fees is a bit of a slap in the face for anyone struggling to make the end of the month and pay the gass bill?!

Still, maybe we should have a separate corner on MN for Private School Parents, and another one called " rich people have feelings too!"

I haven't had thm resoled yet whatevertrevor.

Turns out I don't wear them that often and when I do people don't often try to look at my soles. Who knew?

Frozen I thnk it is helpful to detail salary and when you are paying out £800 more on childcare than your salary can not see how that is seen as a stealth boast?
Also like I said earlier I am v nosey and like to know incomes and outgoings.

I think the nosy part is perhaps uppermost in your thoughts trevor

Maybe they should start new version "Mumsnet Platinum" ?!

Rich people can ask rich people questions and they will get the responses they want from other rich people. No harm in getting responses from the less well off as well. You don't often come across a rich person who thinks that they're rich - they tend to moan about how badly off they are, how they really need and deserve their money, etc. Presumably this is in part because their social circle is just rich people. Mumsnet is a great opportunity to find out how the other 99% live - get some perspective. I wish Cameron would make better use of it.

To be honest, I don't actually believe a lot of people who post on the threads like the one AliBa menstions claiming to have a household income of thruppence p/m.

Which is not to say that I think that nobody earns a tiny salary, but sometimes they neglect to include any TCs coming in, or ignore the fact that they're talking net and the OP is talking gross.

Froze YANBU wrt to working at "a loss". I did (albeit a tiny loss really) and had I not, I'd be earning far less now and be offering far less ecurity to ds as he gets older.

Nastiest, bitterest income-related thread I've seen for a while was where the OP dared to contemplate accepting a 4 bed house for her, her husband and their three children. That was horrible - there were some very ugly posts there and I changed my opinion about a number of MNers after that.

Drome: that is an unfair generalisation. I know a lot of rich people. Ok they aren't in the same league as Richard Branson but they are doing ok. They don't 'tend' to moan about how badly off they are.

Whether you are rich, comfortable or just plain MC there will be those that complain vocally. And because they are vocal, they get noticed.

So it's kind of ridiculous to base a generalisation on the vocal representatives of a group or class and ignore the silent majority

there is a strong emotional response to some of these income threads which is totally understandable.

a thread musing that the family has a large double income and yet they cannot afford everything they want is likely to draw some flaming because money worries have very serious effects on peoples lives; marriages break up, mental health suffers, so does physical health.

you could look read these threads, and think of your recently-redundant, depressed husband and your stressful job and the fact you have been told there is NO overtime, and feel a flaming is well deserved.

an example was 'teachers are effectively on minimum wage' one

I just wish people could be less aggressive when they tell people to get a grip, and hold back on the biscuits.