To ask if anyone has regretted their choice of bridesmaids?

[AnnaLou82]

Are you still close friends now?

I had my large group of best friends from school and university plus DH's sister.

They were wonderful. It was challenging having quite a lot of people involved with different views/personalities but I wanted them all to have fun and I don't think I was a bridezilla. They wanted me to have fun too so it all worked out.

My only regret was that they created quite an expensive hen weekend for me (that priced out some other friends from attending) because they wanted to do something so special for me. It was all done with good heart though.

We got dressed together drinking fizzy wine on the day and had such a laugh. We are all still friends now and SIL got to know my closest friends and in turn we became much closer.

So no regrets at all.

I had my cousin's daughter & DH's niece, then aged 11 & 3.

They were perfectly behaved & very cute but 10 years later I have little to do with either of them.

My oldest friend, who lives about 100 miles away and wouldn't have gone for my choice of colour scheme was my best woman, did a reading & sat at the top table.

I wish now that I'd just had her as an 'official bridesmaid' instead tbh. Not sure how we'd have worked out the frock issue but after 25 years of friendship I'm sure we'd have managed something.

I had my sisters and 2 friends.

Friends turned out to be rubbish and we stopped speaking soon after. I do regret it as they are in all the main photos and it reminds me of how rubbish they were.

I've never had bridesmaids and never regretted it. I do have friends who have wondered why they chose certain bridesmaids and who have regretted giving in to pressure to have family members who they'd not have chosen.

But to be honest, some of the problems seem to occur because of mismatched expectations. Some brides just want their bridesmaids to share the day with them and enjoy every moment of the wedding. Others expect all sorts of tasks to be done and while that's OK if the instructions are absolutely clear, very often they aren't!

I had my sis, my best friend, husbands best friend, my teenage cousin and a close friend.
Close friend through the run up to the wedding became more and more stand offish and general pain in arse. Should have put my foot down and told her not to bother but as she introduced me and hubby I felt obligated.

She ruined my wedding day. she was almost 4 hours late for hair and makeup, she complained about hair styles, complained I'd given her the wrong dress as it was tight, every time I spoke to another maid I got evil looks and told to sit with her as she felt left out, she spat dummy out about her parents not been invited (I don't know them!) and chose my wedding day to tell everyone. We got married at 3.30 by 7.30 her and her partner left, I cried on my wedding day over. her I had no apology no explanation.

My biggest regret is picking her.

Sorry for the large post first time I've wrote it down but god I feel better for it!

My sister was my bridesmaid. She ordered me to stop messing with my hair before we left, and plied me with champagne. She shocked my ILs by revealing a tattoo, and danced the night away with my (gay but not that that time out to his parents) BIL, sending MIL.into a panic that her favourite son would be led astray by her unsuitable new DIL's even more unsuitable sister.

She was fab .