to be fed up with DSS2 staring at DD when she's sleeping on my exposed boob?

[Enfyshedd]

DSS2 is 6, DD is 8mo.

I'll admit that DSS2 has been irritating me a bit recently (like constantly losing his school shoes in his room by chucking his comics, toys & dirty laundry on top of them and when he nearly brained DD yesterday with a wooden shape sorter toy when he lost his grip when swinging it around ), but kneeling up on a chair to stare at a sleeping, BFing DD is really bugging me right now.

Anyone have any ideas on how to get him to stop looking?

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

HollyBerry

i've never heard of that card

[OlivetheotherReindeer]

Oh how sad, poor little boy.

[BloominMarvellous]

So now you have your PFB you don't like your DSS??

I have a DSS who is 8 and I would always include him and allow him to ask any questions when I have my own baby.

He is 6 ffs!!!!

[notnagging]

Poor boy.

[StraightTalkinSheila]

Radical idea- rather than sit there with a sleeping baby at your breast whilst DSS2 is obviously wanting to engage with you- why don't you put the baby in her cot and do something with him?

As for him losing his shoes and "nearly braining" DD: in the first instance, that's fairly normal six year old behaviour and in the second, it was an accident. H didn't intend it. (You said he "lost his grip" on the toy)

I'm not sure of the significance of you saying he is staring at your bare breast. He is SIX. Don't be sexualising it. (If that is what you are implying.)

I feel sorry for the poor bugger.

[pigletmania]

well than holly, the op should cover up her boobs, or feed in another room. She sounds like a bit of an exhibitionist. I have seen friends feeding, and never seen a boob exposed it can be done.

[JustFabulous]

I doubt very much that we will see the OP back.

My son was 2 when his sister was born and four when his brother was born and I am pretty sure he saw me feed them and caught sight of my breasts. Sometimes my kids see me topless now. Big deal.

Kids are curious and most 6 year olds don't have breasts so it is unsual for them to see them.

[StuntGirl]

Yep, put your sleeping daughter in her cot and interact with your step son. Easy peasy.

[girliefriend]

Its sounds like you dislike him tbh

I have a 6yo and all that you described as being 'annoying' is normal 6yo behaviour. Please get a grip and be nice to him.

[Speedos]

Poor little lad.

[SunbathingintheRain]

Er, what?

I clicked on this thinking he was going to be 18, not 6!

I think you need to get a grip and remember that a mere 6 years ago that little boy was a lovely snuggly baby just like yours.

I'm really saddened by this tbh :(

[toomuch2young]

YABVU

for all the reasons given and more.
Poor little boy. Where is his mum? Sounds like he needs a cuddle and some attention from adults that don't find his presence irritating. FGS he is an innocent little boy, who sounds like he's been through a lot in his little life. Please try and show him love and kindness and not treat him as an annoyance.

[JuliesSistersCousinsAuntsCat]

Oh give over, you're being too hard on the poor lad. He obviously shows an interest in his little sister.

YABU.

[DreamingOfTheMaldives]

Your post has made me feel really sad for your DSS

[Fabsmum]

The OP makes me feel sad. Poor little lad. Give him a break.

[ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee]

OP not back - what a surprise.

What a horrible horrible attitude to have about a 6 year old boy. My 6 year old nephew still pokes mine and giggles and talks about boobies and he's never even seen me breastfeed - god help us all if he had Boobs alone are interesting when you are a small person, they're soft and snuggly & kids don't have them... and breastfeeding is interesting, beautiful, incredible and fascinating. I'm a 43 year old woman and have to be careful not to stare, it's just so 'right' - I love their contented little faces :)

Grow up.

[StaceymReadyForNumber3]

I'm pretty crap at discrete latching and just have to pull my boob out and do it as quick as possible then cover up. But I then don't complain about anyone looking/staring let alone a child!

Fwiw my ds 1 is 6 dd is 8 and ds2 is 6 wks and breastfeeding. They have never seen anyone breastfeed before and are still completely amazed AR what my boobs can do. They stare when I feed, the ask questions, sometimes ds1 asks if he can try breastfeeding too.

YABU and I hope this is a joke! If not I feel very :( for your dss2!

[TroublesomeEx]

When I was BF my DD it was almost a spectator sport for DS's friends (all between 6 and 8) who were fascinated and curious.

They were full of questions and it didn't bother me in the slightest.

My DD is now 6 and is obsessed with boobs - they're soft and squishy and they can make milk!!! How cool is that?!

I'm not surprised your 6 year old stepSON is fascinated, give him a cuddle and talk about his new sister with him.

[Arthurfowlersallotment]

Oh give me strength

[GregBishopsBottomBitch]

Another bizarre thread, is Jan not a busy time for people then.

[MimsyBorogroves]

My DS is the same. He's a bit younger (4) I've been feeding over a year now, and he will still stop and stare. It's natural.

One of the best things I did was to explain what I was doing and why. Perhaps he's wondering why your boob is still out when she's not feeding? Explain about skin to skin and the benefits. Think about it in the long term - the information he's getting now could, in the future, help his own partner to do what you're doing now.

And they do retain it. Mine apparently gave a lecture at nursery to other children who were using a bottle to feed the doll about the mechanics and benefits of breastfeeding.

And he has asked some possibly awkward questions. He's asked me if he can watch the milk come out, and if he can have some. The first, I squeezed a tiny bit out to show him. The second, I offered to express some for him to taste. He giggled and went off to play with his Lego.

They're inquisitive. At worst, they're seeing where the boundaries lie. But they're learning about something important - focus upon that.

[cees]

YABU