I've probably posted about this wedding before!
I'm expecting DD2 at the end of June / early July and BIL is getting married abroad in August.
My older DD (2) is a bridesmaid / flower girl and my DH is best man. I'll definitely be having a C Section with this baby as its a high risk pregnancy and I had one with DD.
We were planning on arriving on the Thursday afternoon, wedding on the Friday and then leaving on the Saturday with a lot of other family members for two nights in a capital city about three hours away.
I've just heard from SIL to be that my DH will have to be there the Friday before for a suit fitting, and that they are planning a first birthday party for her baby on the Monday afternoon. I said that we wouldn't be able to do that and she has gone mad.
DH is self employed and contracting for a company in London. He doesn't get paid paternity leave or paid holiday, so any time off is money we lose. He has been saving so as he can take 2 weeks off when I have the baby and then the few days around the wedding. To ask for an extra week unpaid, 7 more nights in a hotel, 7 more nights worth of newborn baby stuff.... Surely she is being unreasonable?
And she said that if we can go to another hotel for two nights after the wedding then we should have no problem just staying in her hometown so we can be at the birthday party instead. Due to the baby, my DH's leave and the wedding, those two days are the only holiday we're going to get and I'd rather not spend it in a wedding hotel in the middle of nowhere.
AIBU or is she? They both came abroad to our wedding six years ago and stayed two weeks (everyone did and we paid a portion of everyone's cost) but no one had children then and no worries about holiday pay!