to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

[alfrex]

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

OP. this thread saddens me a bit. Speaking as a slight control freak myself, I've tried to stop myself by thinking about whatever is annoying me and thinking 'does this really matter in the long scheme of things. Is anyone ill or in pain? Has anyone died? Had anything detrimental to others happened?' If something this relatively unimportant upsets you so much, there must be a lot of other things in life which upset or stress you too. from my point of view (and of course I'm not u and don't know how u feel) that's quite saddening.

Why do you treat your OH like a child?

But why can't he eat the cakes if he wants to?

Alfrex you sound like a real perfectionist. If you are I can see how DH eating sub standard cake might annoy you. If it's truly disgusting and there was better on offer id wonder why he chose those. Is it possible he is aware of your perfectionism and id trying to gently steer you away from it? Is it just food you have this with?

Who'll chip in for this with me? PM and I'll (not) send you my PayPal info.

By the way it may interest you to learn that eating burnt food can actually make you very ill.

I burn everything there is no hope :(

I think you are a wee bit mad op.

Oh Geography Teacher - definitely all man then!

Oh dear lord......for real?........

To be fair presumably the DH likes being treated like this - hence the flowers. It takes all sorts...

I love these threads. Much better than the angry parking/neighbours/formula milk threads which leave me boiling with rage and hiding the thread.

This makes me smile well actually lol but that acronym has become unacceptable recently and I'm looking forward to coming back later for some more. Thanks

That is hilarious hazel but I agree about the element of sadness about the OP. imagine how she reacts when something genuinely bad happens in her life?

I've had a miserable day but this has made me smile, big time!

The poor poor husband!

Op you seriously need to get a life......

I'm really not understanding why it's so upsetting to find your DH eating burnt, crappy, cakes destined for the bin (assuming you don't think they're actually poisonous). Or why it's somehow insulting for your DH to eat food you've cooked that hasn't turned out right. But nice to see that you've sorted things out with him anyway.

And re. claiming that there aren't any birds where you live - I've got a bit of sympathy with you on not wanting to feed birds (although am skeptical about the notion that there aren't any).

We've had birds everywhere we lived - but at one of the places we used to live, they were almost all giant seagulls. And seagulls are noisy, territorial, leave huge amounts of droppings everywhere, and are a bit of a pest. I never put out any food for them, because I didn't want to encourage more of them to stick around.

OP I have spent much of this thread laughing at the sheer ridiculousness of it all, but this:

"DH and I have had words over dinner, we were civil and it is now sorted. He won't be doing it again. He also brought me flowers which he Knows I love, and he stripped off all the spare foliage and arranged them in a vase so I know he is definitely sorry!"

has actually left me quite alarmed. I really do seriously feel for your DH

What happens when you make creme brûlée?

Does The System file them as burnt?

I think we should be told.

Yes Dame Fanny, I absolutely feel I'm being experimented on by MNHQ, but I don't know whyyyyyyyy

I adore "no he's not henpecked or a man child; he's a geography teacher". I think that was the point at which my vision of a sinister DH gaslighting the OP in unfathomably subtle ways by eating the wrong cake finally died.

Ooh can someone link to the lemon cake recipe in question? I fancy burning baking something later

Funniest. Thread. Ever. ClartyCarol's "unless your DH is Paul Hollywood" just about finished me off.

No my dh is most definately not "hen-pecked" or a "manchild". He is a geography teacher ROFL

I do lots of baking and my cakes rarely go wrong but the DC and DH would be vulture-like over anything only destined for the bin (as opposed to ear-marked for tea/freezer/party/fete, etc) And I would have no problem with that!

He is you right. You are bonkers.

I am amazed the OPs husband has not walked out on her if she is this controlling. She treats him as if her were around five years old.

Burnt food cannot make you ill, meat that is raw is the middle and burnt on the outside can make you ill, burnt cakes cannot. Trust me I know, I was brought up by my mum, we'd all be dead if burnt food made you ill

You know when OP's say "I'm going to show him the thread"?

I don't think that's going to happen here.

Just a thought.

Burnt cakes can give you stomach cancer, but it takes a while.

Thank you OP for making these slow days on maternity leave more interesting, and reassuring me that as irrational as my hormonal brain may be.. I'm not a total fruit loop yet.

I was going to bake a cake tomorrow. Will this be the start of it? Is this what happens when you have children? Is my life going to be so unfulfilled that I start controlling DH's food intake and setting up systems for cake eating?

Shit. No-one told mentioned this at my antenatal classes.

This thread is fantastic. DH wants to know when I am going to start managing his diet properly...