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to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

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alfrex · 21/01/2013 14:57

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

OP posts:
Moominsarescary · 21/01/2013 18:40

Fucking hell your poor dh

HalleLouja · 21/01/2013 18:40

Oh my god. Am quite shocked. Phone up a local repair company and get someone to fix the oven.

Lovely telling people to f off.

You are a control freak. I am one too but don't get so wound about cake that's because mine don't get burnt.

I do draw the lines at doing bins though.

You do realise your DH is probably eating lots of naughty food behind your back. Manage his diet pmsl!

HalleLouja · 21/01/2013 18:41

She can't be for real.

BinkyWinky · 21/01/2013 18:43
Grin

I feel sorry for the DH, poor bloke.

What happens if you burn your toast in morning?

CotherMuckingFunt · 21/01/2013 18:43

Or, if he fails to read that, you could pinch some tape from a crime scene and seal off an area of the kitchen for the condemned. Of course remembering to leave the bin next to but not quite in the area. What a quandary that would cause - 'must empty bin hut its condemned... Fuck fuck fuck'. Your local florist would be happy though...

HerRoyalNotness · 21/01/2013 18:43

".... and he stripped off all the spare foliage and arranged them in a vase so I know he is definitely sorry!" oh yes, a truly sorry specimen if ever there was one.

MunchkinsMumof2 · 21/01/2013 18:43

For her dh and dc's sake I really hope she's not real.

PacificDogwood · 21/01/2013 18:45

Maybe DH is a manchild who likes his life being managed??

Lid for every pot an' all that.

I am a bit terrified of you though.

LynetteScavo · 21/01/2013 18:46

That lemon drizzle cake is virtually fool poof - even with dodgy oven.

OP, I think your DH has a point in calling you a control freek. You become furious when he eats a cake that you consider overdone, but he considers edible. You admit to managing his diet.

This happened this morning, but it upset you enough for you to still be thinking about it and start a post at 3pm.

I really do think he need to have a think about your control issues.

And I say this as somewhat of a control freak myself.

Lafaminute · 21/01/2013 18:46

I second the first world problem too.
Sounds like he's a tad hen-pecked.

PessaryPam · 21/01/2013 18:46

and he stripped off all the spare foliage and arranged them in a vase so I know he is definitely sorry!

I wonder what was going through your DHs mind when he did this.

Seriously, AlfRex? Really?

DameFanny · 21/01/2013 18:47

It's taken me 45 minutes to read this with interruptions so I'm sure the thread's moved on, but is anyone else reading the threads like this and wondering if the board's being hacked by a sociology department for shits and giggles research purposes?

OcotoAlert · 21/01/2013 18:47

oo, I got deleted Confused
I think my message was misconstrued.
What I meant was, given that apparently OP has been around MN a while (according to HQ) then it seemed to me that the OP was clearly enjoying poking the hornets' nest with the comments "assuming you cook their dinner". I can't think of a single regular poster who would post that and think that the rest of MN would concur. ("why yes, the poor lamb has his dinner and bib waiting at the table 6pm sharp Hmm ")

Rather tame on my part, comment-wise, I think!
I wish I'd slung some proper insults or troll huntery now!
Grin
I don't think OP is a troll - just a bit cake-centric. And verging on baking-type-doormat for The Family. s'all.

OP - relax. Eat a cake or two.

HalleLouja · 21/01/2013 18:47

Some men do like not being allowed having to think for themselves. May be real.

bookbird · 21/01/2013 18:47

This has just made my day Grin

OcotoAlert · 21/01/2013 18:48

Careful Dame, you'll get zapped deleted :)

jojane · 21/01/2013 18:49

Thought earlier in the thread it was buns he was shoving in his gob? (Havnt the time to scroll back through)
I've thrown plants o cakes away in my time - distracted by kids and forgot the time, etc but I couldn't care less if DH or the kids had a bit.

OwlCatMouse · 21/01/2013 18:49

The Mars lemon drizzle is easy, you must be a crap baker :)

You manage your DHs diet?? Dear lord

alfrex · 21/01/2013 18:50

No my dh is most definately not "hen-pecked" or a "manchild". He is a geography teacher.

By the way it may interest you to learn that eating burnt food can actually make you very ill.

OP posts:
alfrex · 21/01/2013 18:51

they were lemon drizzle fairy cakes for heavens sake, and the recipe was no good. That is why they were going in the bin. Not sure how much simpler I can be.

OP posts:
Badvoc · 21/01/2013 18:52

It would have to be carbonised to make you very ill op.
Let it go.

OwlCatMouse · 21/01/2013 18:52

Haha @ the recipe being no good. Its the easiest cake recipe in the world.

Its YOU.

HazeltheMcWitch · 21/01/2013 18:52

Lafaminute Mon 21-Jan-13 18:46:19
I second the first world problem too. Sounds like he's a tad hen-pecked.

Have you read the thread? There Are No Birds!!

RubyGates · 21/01/2013 18:53

Dear Afrex,

Everyone without exception thought that this was either a joke, or that you have control issues.

Please do try to listen to what we (and your poor husband) are trying to tell you.

After all, you did ask.

bea · 21/01/2013 18:54

Dear oh dear! YABVVVU

Words just fail me!

madness!

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