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to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

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alfrex · 21/01/2013 14:57

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

OP posts:
thebody · 21/01/2013 17:40

Stop baking all you will all be obese pigs at this rate.

For the rest well op you are clearly as nutty as squirrel poo and if I were your dh and you were this controlling I would push the cake in your gob..

ChandlerBingsNubbin · 21/01/2013 17:41

"and yuou all dictate what your husbands eat, assuming you cook their dinner!"

Well, we generally chat about it and decide what to have.

You do seem to have massively over reacted about the cakes, He was munching on them. Not sure how that was disrespectful, unless he was eating them to be able to say they were shit.

On another note, I love burnt toast and crumpets, and once while at school, ate the cheesecake that turned out to have been made with salt instead of sugar, I thought it tasted quite nice!

He probably thought it tasted fine, but you are a bit obsessed over the perfect cake and take it as a imaginary slight!

All a bit weird.....am off to cremate some crumpets and have a brew though.

KatoPotato · 21/01/2013 17:41

Freezer bag, Freezer bag saved for the future
Sealed tin, you're in for a win.
Out on a plate, help yourself mate.
Bun tray by bin, must be a sin

DreamingOfTheMaldives · 21/01/2013 17:41

Perhaps I'm the only childish one here but I couldn't help but snigger at:

good luck to you and your dh chewing on your slimey mangetout! Grin

TheOriginalLadyFT · 21/01/2013 17:41

condemned cakkes ??

uh oh, I don't like them sound of those at all

SnapesOnAPlane · 21/01/2013 17:42

I agree with Hecate.
Blush
This is even more [headtilt] worthy than Tee could ever be :o.

ILoveTIFFANY · 21/01/2013 17:43

Op come back and see the funny side...

What cake was it again anyway?

NoelHeadbands · 21/01/2013 17:43

Did he look you right in the eye when he ate them?

Do you think that inside his mind he was saying "look alfrex. Look at me. That's right alfrex I'm eating your sub cake. I'm eating it and there's not a damn thing you can do about it. See. Me. Eat. The. Sub. Cake. Yeah"

I bet he did.

Virgil · 21/01/2013 17:44

Dreamingofthemaldives. Me too Grin

CheerMum · 21/01/2013 17:46

Wow OP, my apologies for thinking you were a bored teen hiding under a bridge, but to be honest, I think you'd be better off actually being a troll

Do you really get THIS het up about such insignificant things? Good lord.

Are you this anal about other things or I it just your baking? Seriously, I think you need help. And I mean that in all seriousness.

CheeseStrawWars · 21/01/2013 17:48

What Hecate said.

Kleinzeit · 21/01/2013 17:48

I admit I?ve only read a few pages not the whole thread but has anyone pointed out yet that the OP isn?t just a control freak, the way she over-reacted to her DH was as nutty as a fruitcake? (boom-tish!)

HazeltheMcWitch · 21/01/2013 17:50

^Rocknrollnerd Mon 21-Jan-13 17:29:42
What does a condemned cake get for its last meal? ^

Well, it's not bloody chicken, is it? Nor duck, goose, turkey, quail...

Passthesaltdear · 21/01/2013 17:51

This has got to be a joke thread. I don't believe this is true for a second Grin

craftynclothy · 21/01/2013 17:51

I don't get why it's a problem for your Dh to eat something that you were just going to chuck out?

I mean, if I cook something and it's a bit crap I'll maybe say "Oh I made this but it's a bit burnt/sunk in the middle/not quite right so don't feel like you have to eat it." I don't expect him to feel he has to eat it just cos I made it iykwim but I don't see why it's so bad if he chooses to eat it anyway.

CelticPromise · 21/01/2013 17:52

Best. Thread. Ever.

Has anyone said LTB yet? Grin

OP you need to relax. Have a Wine

CaptainVonTrapp · 21/01/2013 17:53

Are you the same poster who was embarrassed about having a baby soon after getting married?

Surely there can't be two people on the same day with bizarre 'embarrassing' complaints.

comingintomyown · 21/01/2013 17:54

Is your DH fat ?

CaptainVonTrapp · 21/01/2013 17:54

BTW I love slightly burnt cake. Crispy, browned edges, mmm can't believe you throw it out.

Bogeyface · 21/01/2013 17:54

Why did you post in AIBU if you are so sure that you are not?

If you didnt want honest replies, why did you post? Genuine question

nokidshere · 21/01/2013 17:55

Oh wow..

I bake all he time and it all gets eaten, good bad or bird worthy I cannot imagine throwing away any food that might not be up to my usual standard x

If they say "urgh mum this isn't the same as usual" I say "really, never mind hurry up and eat it"

Mia4 · 21/01/2013 17:55

Perhaps OP you should stop being so defensive and actually think about what other people have written here. You are being controlling, you are treating your husband like one of your children-first by telling him not to eat things, then (by your own words) having words with him about it and making it such a big deal.

You sound like a perfectionist as well and possibly your husband was making a 'i won't be controlled point' by eating those cakes, rather then being 'greedy' if others were on offer.

The fact that this is still an issue after he's called you, just shows how controlling it is OP and I really feel for you if you can't see it.

Calling you a control freak while not nice, is an apt description for someone who insists on a 'system', berates her partner if he deviates from him and steams over it ours later with mind to continue the arguing until her partner does as she says.

Or as wiki says a person who attempts to dictate how everything around them is done.

MurderOfGoths · 21/01/2013 17:56

Grin @ Hazel!!

PurityBrown · 21/01/2013 17:56

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CaptainVonTrapp · 21/01/2013 17:59

You're having words when he gets home? Do let us know exactly what you say and how it goes? (something to look forward to on a cold Monday night)