to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

[alfrex]

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

Did you cook dinner in the broken fan oven Op?
And Where are the Birds ?

... and hide. Bored now, you've milked it enough, OP.

I do not dictate what my husband eats, even if I do cook dinner.

I ask him to let me know what he'd like to eat and he tells me. We meal plan together.

And I would never tell him he couldn't eat something just because it was burnt.

What a chuffing waste. If he wants to eat burnt cake, let him. It's not a bloody insult! Mad.

Actually dh cooks more often than me. But if I cook he eats it or doesn't. I don't instruct him to avoid the mange tout because its a tad over done for my standards...

actually I don't I ask him what he would like then cook accordingly, we do the shop together and cook together quite often.... I wouldn't dream of telling him he couldn't eat something , he is an adult, same as he wouldn't dream of dictating to me.

OK well fine, I have higher standard than most

good luck to you and your dh chewing on your slimey mangetout!

God no Alfrex, OH eats some very odd things.
Failed culinary experiments, stuff I've left out to throw to the birds/foxes/crow family, condemned stuff that's still in the fridge but that would stink the house out if put in the bin.

What an adult puts in their stomach is their own choice don't you think?

I'm still trying to get over the waste that must go on in your house. In ours the burnt bits get trimmed off and iced over, and the uncooked middles get sliced out and filled with fruit.

Please just tell us where the birds are. please

Got to love the Manics, murderofgoths!

This is the funniest thread on MN in, well, ever.

OP, YABVVU but please don't change. You are beautiful, just as you are

'Assuming you cook their dinner'

Hahahahahaha you really are from 1960

No birds either, do you live on the moon?

Yes, slimey mange tout.
There is a moment, an infinitesimal second when mange tout is perfectly cooked after which it is slimey and I owe it to DH to creat a mange tout bucket and instruct him not to let it foul his lips for fear of stirring my ire.

High standards does not equal totally anal and bossy.

This is absolutely hilarious

Definitely should go in classics!

OP. please explain to me in words of one syllable why you would rather throw away slightly imperfect cakes than have someone eat them. Please.

Stop going on and on about birds! We just don't have any, I live on the thrid floor, no garden and there just arent' any. That has nothing to do with this. I am postig about my dh blatantly ignoring me and eating food I had already decided was going in the bin.

I should say, he sent me a text saying he was sorry for shouting at me but he still thinks he should have been allowed to have them. So we will be having words again when he gets home.

I quite like burned cake. Crispy.

Is the cake eating situation adn how much it annoys you just symptomatic of the overall communication difficulties that you and your DH have, OP? In which case, I understand where you are coming from. Relate?

If this is truly just about cakes and him Not Doing As He Is Told... . GP? Clinical Psychologist for assessment and treatment of your control issues?
My SiL has terrible OCD and this is the kind of thing she could fixate on. V distressing to her, my DBrother and the whole family tbh.

Not sure whether all the reporting is funny or sad. A few years ago everyone would settle down and enjoy a good wind-up like this one. Remember the thread about a DH with a fetish for shiny metal kitchen implements? Is that still around or was it in chat?

Maybe the missing birds are in the cakes. Like the ones in the pie.

Good re 'having words', provided you mean you and DH will take turns to politely make your points and actually listen to each other.

Allowed him to have them?! do people really treat their husbands like children?

Oh don't have more words about it when he gets home op :(

It's so unimportant in the scheme of things.

NO we don't need to go to Realate thank you. We are a very close and happy family. I do a great deal for my husband, I have supported him and we really don't have any problems.

You know you're allowed to take the condemned cakes out of the flat and down to ground level for dispersal in crumb form for avian consumption, right?