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to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

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alfrex · 21/01/2013 14:57

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

OP posts:
MurderOfGoths · 21/01/2013 16:53

"No birds, no birds
The sky is swollen black
No birds, no birds
Holy mass of dead insect"

Name that song

TantrumsAndBalloons · 21/01/2013 16:53

But where are the birds????
Where?
Where?

HecateWhoopass · 21/01/2013 16:54

Wow. Then I sincerely apologise for assuming this was a joke.

And I honestly, truly and in no snide way whatsoever, I promise - really really really urge you to go to your gp.

Waspie · 21/01/2013 16:54

I've stepped back into the sixties (perhaps that's why there are no birds? Because they're all being lobbed at Tippi Hedren? Hmm Grin)

From what I understand, the OP bakes all day (probably in full make up, heels and wearing one of those frilly pinnies I've seen on telly while her husband is responsible for "man" jobs like emptying the bin and fixing the oven. Meanwhile she regulates his baked goods intake.

Fucking bizarre.

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 21/01/2013 16:55

Laurie - I did the same and I was going to go and do some housework, but an awful thread is still better than good housework Grin and even though the OP is a troll/nucking futz - all the other comments are hillarious!

weegiemum · 21/01/2013 16:55

Sat week my dh ate banana cake that had gone a bit mouldy!

He cut off the mouldy bit and ate it with a cuppa.

I luff him - he even loves my furry baking!

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Dawndonna · 21/01/2013 16:56

I pointed out that the children knew better than to behave like this and asked him why he felt he could not wait for me to put out cakes that were worth eating. He was standing over the bin shovelling them into his mouth, I found it disrespectful.
The cakes were condemned
There are no birds

You have some really serious issues, lady!

bringnbuy · 21/01/2013 16:57

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MurderOfGoths · 21/01/2013 16:58

Hecate I thought they meant it was a regular poster who was having a laugh. There's no way it's a real thread! Surely?

RubyGates · 21/01/2013 16:58

You are the Belle Dame Sans Merci and I calim my UK5pounds.

Ah, what can ail thee, wretched wight,
Alone and palely loitering;
The sedge is wither'd from the lake,
And no birds sing.

Ah, what can ail thee, wretched wight,
So haggard and so woe-begone?
The squirrel's granary is full,
And the harvest's done.

I see a lily on thy brow,
With anguish moist and fever dew;
And on thy cheek a fading rose
Fast withereth too.

I met a lady in the meads
Full beautiful, a faery's child;
Her hair was long, her foot was light,
And her eyes were wild.

I set her on my pacing steed,
And nothing else saw all day long;
For sideways would she lean, and sing
A faery's song.

I made a garland for her head,
And bracelets too, and fragrant zone;
She look'd at me as she did love,
And made sweet moan.

She found me roots of relish sweet,
And honey wild, and manna dew;
And sure in language strange she said,
I love thee true.

She took me to her elfin grot,
And there she gaz'd and sighed deep,
And there I shut her wild sad eyes--
So kiss'd to sleep.

And there we slumber'd on the moss,
And there I dream'd, ah woe betide,
The latest dream I ever dream'd
On the cold hill side.

I saw pale kings, and princes too,
Pale warriors, death-pale were they all;
Who cry'd--"La belle Dame sans merci
Hath thee in thrall!"

I saw their starv'd lips in the gloam
With horrid warning gaped wide,
And I awoke, and found me here
On the cold hill side.

And this is why I sojourn here
Alone and palely loitering,
Though the sedge is wither'd from the lake,
And no birds sing.

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 21/01/2013 17:00

TSC - mate - not a single thing. Really, not one tiny thing! But you have missed some hillarious posts from other people.

MN say this is a regular poster... I wish people wouldn't name change to be barking, I much prefer to know who they are Grin

twentythirteen · 21/01/2013 17:00

Maybe it's already been said, just wanted to say perfectionism is a trait that can be worked on. Give your OH an apologetic hug and have a think about how you can work on that, maybe make an imperfect cake on purpose and let him enjoy it.

Tee2072 · 21/01/2013 17:01

A regular poster who I hope is having a laugh.

And you can send all your unwanted cake to me:

Tee
My House
Belfast
My postcode

Thanks!

LynetteScavo · 21/01/2013 17:02

I really don't care if the DH ate burnt cakes or not.

I want to know where there are no birds.

Reaa · 21/01/2013 17:02

Wow, so this really is a real post!

HeadFairy · 21/01/2013 17:03

OP, ignore the insults, this is the funniest thread I've read in a while :o

Can I suggest a fourth option for your cakes.. any that aren't up to your exacting standards you can forward to me :o

This thread is even odder than the fast baby one. Is there something in the air today or has all the snow caused some kind of snow madness?

ArtsMumma · 21/01/2013 17:03

I think you should cordon off any imperfect produce to keep this insane man away from anything other than your best work. Also, disallow him any cake until he has done his jobs. Men fix things, women bake perfect cakes. How incredibly embarrassing of him to do this to you!!! Hmm

alfrex · 21/01/2013 17:05

Wow a lot has gone on while I was making the dinner! Who reported me? Why? I have done nothing wrong and I stand by my posts.

Just to be clear, dh knew perfectly well that if the cakes were sitting in their bun tray next to the bin then they were "condemned" (why is that so funny? They are destined for the bin) he also knew that the bin needed emptying so he should have been doing that so I could throw away urnt food and rubbish, not stood there gobbling down the evidence

and yuou all dictate what your husbands eat, assuming you cook their dinner!

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complexnumber · 21/01/2013 17:06

'I want to know where there are no birds. '

Where the streets have no shame?

Alternatively in some sort of bizarre antithesis of a Hitchcock film.

squeakytoy · 21/01/2013 17:07

weird.. utterly stark raving bonkers...

I cant actually think of anything else to say... Confused

SolomanDaisy · 21/01/2013 17:07

Aren't other people's lives strange? I can't imagine wrecking so many cakes that I need an obvious system to deal with them. Nor can I imagine going to put my carefully prepared cakes in the oven, thinking 'hmm, I wonder if the fan will work this time. Never mind, I can always chuck them out'. But apparently someone does do this.

lurkedtoolong · 21/01/2013 17:07

So not a troll or apparently a regular MNer going stir-crazy and mocking us all..

Alfrex, love, you need to calm down a bit. I get that you want everything to be perfect but it life and cakes don't always work out that way. Cut off the burnt bits, slather the soggy middles in custard, feed the birds (if you put out the cupcakes they will come).

Are there underlying tensions? Do you feel DH doesn't respect the work you put into the house and raising your DC? You seem to be focusing on your condemned cupcakes - a very, very insignificant event.

Either that or you are just a fucking nutjob.

DreamingofSummer · 21/01/2013 17:08

Do the comdemned cakes get to eat a hearty meal?

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