to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

[alfrex]

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

Oh and OP, when you bake, if you take a knife and prod your cake with it you can see if it is baked enough ( when stuck in, it should come out clean )and when the edges start to go brown, take them out. Cook at a lower heat but longer time should sort out your baking problems.

Ask your home ec teacher when school opens back up tomorrow, they can explain it to you as well.

To fix the fan oven.

1. Get a phonebook
2. Find a repair man
3. Call him (or her, so as not to be sexist) Job done. How easy peasy is that?

OP you might not think the issue is about food waste but I find it really horrible that people just throw food away like this. It actually makes me feel a bit ill at how greedy we have become as a society that we think nothing of throwing away food because it isn't perfect.

YOu asked if you are being unreasonable; you really are. And the fact that despite everyone telling you this you still can't acknowledge it, makes me wonder if there is something else going on.

Mr.Alfrex, I feel your pain my friend I really do

I'm sorry op-everyone shouting 'you're mad' doesn't really help does it?

Your dh needs a discussion to sort out who does what and why it needs to be done.

Would you like to feel less bothered when stuff doesn't work out as you'd planned? Perhaps you could consider whether there is anything in your past which has made you feel you need to be perfect or failure/mistakes are unacceptable?

Most people feel that burnt cakes are funny/irritating rather than embarrassing (which suggests you feel there is some fault with you) and that's why you're receiving so many hurtful comments.

Do have a think about this because I think you're genuinely mixed up in your attitude towards stuff and I think you'd feel a lot better generally if you sorted some issues out.

I do sort of see where the OP is coming from in that I get embarrassed by cake failures too. That said, if DH or DS was happy to eat them I'd prefer that to wasting them. I also wouldn't give them to the birds as there are lots of cats here & I'd hate birds to get caught and brought in and disembowelled by my two

Other than that no I can't get the OP at all.

Sod the cakes.
Where do you live that has no birds?
I am scared of birds so would like to move there.

I also like cake.

In any form.

You don't say, Lee?

Very odd! I'd be more upset if DP ate the cakes that were destined for greater things, such as being a birthday cake, than for the bin!

This has the potential to go Classic.

Oh, am I being slow today?

This is a very entertaining thread, thanks for posting OP, only problem is that I want cake now, perfect/burnt/or otherwise!

Yabvu btw

Bin tray/In tray. Don't mess

I just don't like wastefulness. Before I'd mastered the way to make sandwich cakes rise, at least one would sink in the middle. The decent one would be underneath the sunken one and the butter icing would hide the dip by filling it with butter cream before the rest of the top was spread with it more liberally.

Just remember, OP (King Alfred), that this country is losing birds because of lack of habitat and lack of food. Okay so cake is not a proper food for them but at least it would give them something even if it's just energy.

Love it. Good work Alf.

He knows you only want him to eat your perfect cakes but he loves them so much he enjoys them even if they are less than amazing.

Take it as a compliment.

In future if it is that important to you just bin them straight away. You can put hot things in the oven.

If it is burning on the top but under cooked in the middle put tin foil on the top of the cake.

You said 'sometimes my cakes are beautiful...'

If you bake so many bad ones that you actually require a SYSTEM to deal with their disposal then perhaps baking really isn't for you and you should take up another hobby - like basket weaving? I hear that is nice and restful.

I bake a lot too, it's not difficult and if you are cocking up enough to need a disposal system what on earth are you doing wrong?

As for disrespectful behaviour - it is HUGELY disrespectful to whomever earns the money that pays for your baking ingredients for you to waste so much. It is also HUGELY disrespectful to tell an adult what they can and can't eat.

If he ate it and enjoyed it (and from the so called shovelling it sounds like he did) then that is what matters.

The point of baking is to make something that TASTES good. Looks are secondary.

Ok, I just got home after tough day. Made a and thought I would unwind with half an hours MNetting.

Just left the "I had baby after 11 months marriage and everyones laughing at me thread" feeling a bit scared. Then opened this one.
The world of MN has gone mad. I'm off to do some housework. I'm not risking looking at another one.