lovely sleepover but parent hasn't turned up to collect kid

[bringnbuy]

really hacked off. dd had two friends over for a sleepover. i picked them up from school, took them to pizza express for supper even though couldn't afford it really but thought it would be nicer than me cooking for them (as wimpy wasn't open due to snow), up for hours having a lovely time. invite clearly said COLLECT 10:30am, other kid was just picked up, a bit late but fine. no sign of other mum, over an hour late. i sent a plite text hour hour ago, no response. dh is hiding upstairs as had enough, you know how it is, after a while you have had enough of kids arsing around/watching kids tv etc. we have to go out which is why my invite clearly said 10:30, really pissed off, the mum might not turn up for hours, i asked her dd who said 'this afternoon', perhaps she thinks we are a useful creche

[Nancy66]

Blueberry - Oh I know it was totally deliberate - especially as she dropped them off 40 minutes early when we were still decorating the hall and laying out the food!

She had form for it and the sad thing is that now her kids tend to not get invited places.

[thebody]

Inept don't you get the kid to call her mom on her mobile? Surely she would answer her own dd.

How old are they?

[zipzap]

Does the girl know her mum's mobile number - you said you asked about the landline number but didn't mention mobile. It might be that you've got a digit wrong or transposed.

Or do you know any other mums that might have the right number? Worth a try especially if it's going to be quite a long walk - and double length for you unless they will drive you home.

Also - what are you going to do if you get there and the parents aren't there?

[DeafLeopard]

YY that's the thing, if a parent has form for being a piss taker, it is the DCs that lose out as invitations are not forthcoming

[DeafLeopard]

Zip - OP rang the mobile and it came up as non existant

[Lafaminute]

Misunderstanding??? If the child is lovely then chances are her parents spend time making sure she has manners etc. Why would anyone deliberately leave their beloved child to overstay a welcome. I can imagine the childs parents are unaware of a pick up time and will be mortified to realise that they are putting op out. Hopefully.

[BlueberryHill]

Nancy and Deaf, that is the really sad thing, the kids lose out and don't know why. That is just shocking Nancy.

[wonderstuff]

Awful that mother hasn't left you a contact number! Hope they are in and it isn't to icy a journey. Poor kid, can't be nice to have your parents forget to collect you.

[MissMarplesMaid]

hmmm

I'm afraid I have come across this a few time. Parents take advantage, drop children off early and take advantage of the free time. They then lose track of time. My guess is that they have gone shopping.

[Nanny0gg]

And the poor kid probably now realises that they're not really wanted any more...

[MsIngaFewmarbles]

That is awful. I would send DH. You need to be careful if you are heavily pg and it's a long walk in snow/ice ; (

[zipzap]

DL - I thought op rang the mobile number she had plugged in her phone. I've occasionally made mistakes putting numbers in my phone - so was wondering if she had asked the girl if she knew what her mum's number was - she might know it or be able to say that it had or hadn't changed or say it starts 07790 not 07990 or whatever and see if they can work out the right number if the OP's version of the number is obviously wrong.

She should also ask the girl if she knows any numbers for people that would know her mum - grand parents, other friends etc and see if she could track her down. Also is there a dad in all this that could be called?

And could OP's dh walk the girl back if they decide to do that? Sounds like the girls parents are lying low hoping they get extra child free time and avoid the nasty journey in the snow to get her!

[EggRules]

Could be an overdue period?

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

oh crikey OP, you say you are hormonal and overdue, and going to walk. The non-collecting parents are doubly toerags in that case - not collecting child and WHAT IF YOU WENT INTO LABOUR?

Gits.

I do rather hope that your DH has gone and left you with feet up/cup of tea.

[bringnbuy]

trudged through the snow, quite a long walk carrying a large sleeping bag and a large bag of clothes/'stuff'. got there, thank the lord her mum was in. when she opened the door she said 'oh, i was going to text you later to see when i should come and get her'. i said i had brought her back because she was supposed to have been collected at 10:30 and because it was two hours later i was concerned that she had lost the bit of paper with my address on'. she said she hadn't looked at the pick up time on the invite. go figure . now to a nice coffee and some good tv :)

[MiconiumHappens]

Also if OP is overdue - what if she had gone into labour? The sleeperoverer would have ended up somewhere completely different as the would have been unable to contact her parents I hope this is just shoddy parenting and the parent are ok - all seems very odd! OP hope you're ok

[minibmw2010]

Well done for pointing out the 10.30 time, did she apologise? Did you mention you didn't have her correct mobile?

[WildThong]

So she didn't 'see' the collect time or your text to her?
Aye right

[MiconiumHappens]

OMG it's nearly 1300! OP if you feel pissed off about this then it's rightly so.

Feet up

[PuffPants]

Nancy66, what did the mum of twins say when she finally came for them?!

[wonderstuff]

How rude! Glad she was in and that you pointed out the pick up time.
Hope you can have a nice chilled rest of the day.

[KhallDrogo]

How would you let your kids go to someone's for a sleep over, and those parental not have contact details/ don't know where they live

What I'd there had been an emergency

I think the other parents have run away and OP now has a new foster dd

[bringnbuy]

blimey mrsm, that's a bit over the top isn't it (CBT treatment because i am not naturally confrontational). next you'll be suggesting i take some prozac..... i am a successful working women who regularly deals with some seriously heavy situations. for some reason i find some parenting situations uncomfortable. even when the mother opened the door and i was seen from her point of view standing there with her dd and as dumping her daughter on her. i am sensitive but i don't think this is necessarily a bad thing. perhaps if more people in this world were a bit more sensitive towards other peoples feelings this world might be a nicer place to live :)

[Nancy66]

Puffpants - she'd gone into the west end shopping and lost track of time and the tubes weren't running properly and she didn't have our number. blah blah.

You don't go into the west end - 40 mins there and 40 mins back from where we are - if you have to pick your kids up in 2 hours time.

Plus, once we got her number, we called her over and over and she never answered her phone once. 'never heard it ring' apparently - even though we must have called her 20 times over two hours.