lovely sleepover but parent hasn't turned up to collect kid

[bringnbuy]

really hacked off. dd had two friends over for a sleepover. i picked them up from school, took them to pizza express for supper even though couldn't afford it really but thought it would be nicer than me cooking for them (as wimpy wasn't open due to snow), up for hours having a lovely time. invite clearly said COLLECT 10:30am, other kid was just picked up, a bit late but fine. no sign of other mum, over an hour late. i sent a plite text hour hour ago, no response. dh is hiding upstairs as had enough, you know how it is, after a while you have had enough of kids arsing around/watching kids tv etc. we have to go out which is why my invite clearly said 10:30, really pissed off, the mum might not turn up for hours, i asked her dd who said 'this afternoon', perhaps she thinks we are a useful creche

I love how the OP is the one in the wrong here!

I frickin' HATE when parents are late collecting kids. Obviously, never have that kid over again.

Have you done it yet? Just say what Ru said. You'll feel better once it's done as YANBU.

Who is saying OP is in the wrong?

You have to go round there - maybe her mobile network is down due to snow? Maybe she over slept/ has a hangover? Maybe she misread the collection time?

Good for you :). She's probably just forgotten that it was supposed to be 10.30 [benefit of the doubt emoticon].

just phone (the number is programmed in my mobile, used it before to get confirmation if her kid was coming or not, i had to chase her, she never rsvd..) and the number said it did not exist. so she has changed her number. i asked her dd if she knew her landline number, she said they didn't have one. now i am worrying what if her mother had lost the invite and thus didn't have my address? i said i would leave it an hour or so and then we should go for a walk to her house to see if they are in incase my thought was right. could be (more likely) they are just airhead/laid back types who didn't read the invite properly and just assumed it was an all day invite for saturday too. having a fucking shit saturday, bored and pissed off

Ambrosia no one is saying the OP is in the wrong. But saying 'never have the child over again' seems a bit melodramatic when OP could just call and ask the parent to pick her kid up. And sitting waiting for said parent to arrive without calling is not going to help either.

Maybe the mum read it as 1.30? Clutching at straws though.... If I had a phone call from where my child was staying I would answer or call back straight away, and would have left a landline number too, just In case...

Oh dear bring. Why not just walk the kid home now? At least they'd be out of your hair and you could get on with your day.

I'd not have the child again if the parents are so slapdash that they haven't even provided a contact number that is actually in use.

What if their child had been ill? Or if there had been an accident.

I'd be just like you OP with the reluctance to phone

However - i'd not be leaving it another hour before walking her round there. If you're right about the parents possibly not knowing your address then i'd be worried they were worried IYKWIM?

Take her home now, don't hang around. Then go and do something fun.

How far away is their house? You could go for a walk now and then drop her stuff off as you go out later

I think you are doing the right thing, walk there and see if she's in!

I would definately say something to her parents.

I would also be putting coats on and walking her home.

Why leave it an hour? Take her home now.
Seriously, why are you so worried about putting the other mother out? You have things to do and the sleepover is finished.

I have never known a sleepover invite to include all day the next day as well, unless specifically stated.

No one assumes that their child will be looked after all the next day too.

Just take the child home, guaranteed they're there, in their PJ's. If they seem surprised say we are heading out, we're late really !!!

And who lets their kid go to someone else's house but doesn't make sure the other mum has full contact details ??

just take the kid home, all this I'll wait an hour crap - don't be wet, be assertive, come on, just do it. Channel your inner diva. Go on.

you're right, i will take her home. bet there's noone in though. i don't want it to look like i am sick of their kid (she is a lovely kid, more than welcome) i just don't like bad manners. i am over sensitive which is pathetic really as i am not the one who has been rude but feel awkward like i am dumping their daughter on their doorstep. bit like lending someone some money but them not giving it back so YOU have to chase it up which is embarassing

What a nightmare...

Take her home and dont have siad child again, shame but parents cant use you as free babysitting!

*said

But you are sick of their kid and rightly so.

I'll bet their home after having a lovely lie in as you had their kid.

right, i will go now, you are right, yes, still bricking it although i am over due and hormones are RIPE. long walk in the snow though, too scary to drive as quite small streets......i'll report back :-D

I think that they have either
1 lost the invite and assumed you will be dropping off
2 expecting the child to make their own way home if its not far away
3 overslept.

I don't think there is a big drama behind this, just a misunderstanding.