To expect DP to prioritise my birthday over nephew's christening?

[Winterbluesinmyhead]

This year, my birthday falls on a Sunday. When I saw DP's brother at Christmas, he mentioned two possible Sundays for his son's Christening, neither of which were the Sunday of my birthday. Today I get home and open an invite addressed to myself and DP announcing that the christening IS on my birthday.
Because I have to work the Friday and Saturday evenings of my birthday weekend, I'd said to DP that rather than having a big night out with him and friends on the Saturday as we usually do (I wouldn't expect people to come out on a Sunday night when they have work in the morning) I would just like to do something nice with him during the day. The christening is a long drive away and going to it would scupper any birthday plans of mine. I naturally assumed that DP would say we couldn't go, but instead he reckons there's no way he's missing his nephew's christening (even though he doesn't believe in God?!). While I wouldn't tell him not to go, I've told him that I'm not keen on going myself, to which he just said fine! I'm really smarting now. I understand that his nephew is important to him, but surely I should be important too? Since we had set aside the day to do something for my birthday first, AIBU to feel hurt about this?

[PomBearWithAnOFRS]

It's not about his birthday at all OP - he hates your family, doesn't want to go to a gathering, and fondly imagined this crock of shite about his birthday would have you rushing to agree not to go and to stay at home opening cans and possibly shagging all night instead.
If it wasn't his birthday he'd have come up with something else.
Go on your own and tell everyone who asks that he isn't with you because it's his birthday and he's sulking about being overshadowed by a baby and not getting a blow job/pissed up the night before. It's the truth so you can even tell the vicar in church

[PureQuintessence]

How many times do you reckon this baby is going to be Christened?

And how many birthdays have you had?

Grow up and get a grip.

WTF is it with whiney moany grown ups thinking their birthdays should take top priority over anything else.

[PureQuintessence]

I posted without reading all the thread and have just seen that Oh The Humanity has already said what I just said.

[PureQuintessence]

Your dp is a friggin immature nutcase who needs to go in search of His Plot!

Not sure where he lost it, or if he ever had it.

LTB.

[mrsjay]

did you lie down and stomp as well dont so silly grow up and go to his nephews christening theres a good girlie

[mrsjay]

is this a reverse it isn't it I should read on he is being an arsehole go to the christening without him

[MamaMumra]

Sorry to say YABU.

[showtunesgirl]

People, read threads before posting!!!

OP, your P is being a Prick with a capital P!

[MamaMumra]

[mrsjay]

but *showtunes it was soooo long

[MamaMumra]

Yeah DP... If you're reading this, don't be a dick!
Apologies for not reading the thread before I posted. YADNBU.

[showtunesgirl]

I must be weird or something then as I always read whole threads before posting.

[StuffezLaBouche]

I would bet my last penny this is NOT a reverse AIBU and the OP was just surprised to get so many YABUs and didn't fancy facing the "haterzz!"

[mrsjay]

I sometimes usually do depending how many pages it is

[MadBusLady]

So it really is just me and Stuntgirl who don't spend our birthdays in a hairshirt charging around with a clipboarded list of Other People to Satisfy?

(And the OP's DP, but he is possibly a bit of a knob.)

[DoodlesNoodles]

OP,

Oh dear, you can't win sometimes with MN. Damned if you do damned if you don't

I hope you enjoy the christening and your DP (darling pillock) enjoys this thread.

[DameFanny]

Ooh blackbagborderbinliner you just sent me on a trip down memory lane...

[dikkertjedap]

Just go to the Christening with or without your DH.

Your DH needs to grow up.

[LemonBreeland]

Why does he need to celebrate his birthday on the actual day. What is wrong with having a night out on the Friday? Or heaven forbid even another weekend.

He is completely pathetic.

[HeartsTrumpDiamonds]

Reverse, not reverse, man, woman, age, whatever - all irrelevant.

Christenings trump almost every other occasion. Weddings & funerals at the top of the list.

Am I allowed to use a gavel or have they fallen out of favour?

[Blu]

I am less surprised that a man is unwilling to go to a Christening, though. Sexist generaliser that I am

[fuckadoodlepoopoo]

Now I've confessed it was in fact him he's getting called an arse, idiot, etc, ie: worse than what posters put when they thought a woman (me) was the one getting stroppy...that's exactly why I reversed it!

I was just about to call you an arse as well op before i read that it was reverse.

[Snazzynewyear]

Given that usual plans are to go for a big Saturday night out with friends, it makes lots more sense to just do that but on the following weekend anyway!

[momb]

Well, he's not unreasonable to be a bit disappointed initially if he was expecting a special day for the two of you together. He is being unreasonable to not take a deep breath, slap a smile on and plan something for the following weekend instead.
It's a family commitment. You both need to go unless prevented by illness/fire/flood. If he's a DP rather than a BF then he can't not go either.

[PureQuintessence]

I guess he is just not that serious about you, if he thinks he does not have to go to your nephews Christening.