To expect DP to prioritise my birthday over nephew's christening?

[Winterbluesinmyhead]

This year, my birthday falls on a Sunday. When I saw DP's brother at Christmas, he mentioned two possible Sundays for his son's Christening, neither of which were the Sunday of my birthday. Today I get home and open an invite addressed to myself and DP announcing that the christening IS on my birthday.
Because I have to work the Friday and Saturday evenings of my birthday weekend, I'd said to DP that rather than having a big night out with him and friends on the Saturday as we usually do (I wouldn't expect people to come out on a Sunday night when they have work in the morning) I would just like to do something nice with him during the day. The christening is a long drive away and going to it would scupper any birthday plans of mine. I naturally assumed that DP would say we couldn't go, but instead he reckons there's no way he's missing his nephew's christening (even though he doesn't believe in God?!). While I wouldn't tell him not to go, I've told him that I'm not keen on going myself, to which he just said fine! I'm really smarting now. I understand that his nephew is important to him, but surely I should be important too? Since we had set aside the day to do something for my birthday first, AIBU to feel hurt about this?

[LittleChimneyDroppings]

Of course you are unreasonable. You can celebrate your birthday the weekend before or after. Why wouldn't you do that? You sound very childish and entitled.

[secretscwirrels]

OP is sulking in the corner now.

[LittleChimneyDroppings]

X post.

[Deux]

YABU. What makes you so special? Good grief, get a grip.

If it was your brother's baby getting christened and your DP's birthday, what would you expect him to do?

[secretscwirrels]

oops x post

[TheYamiOfYawn]

This has to be a reverse AIBU, surely.

How can that possibly be reasonable?

[OurPlanetNeptune]

What a stupid excuse for a reverse IABU. They are flipping crap. YABU for simply not being upfront.

[MadBusLady]

I hope he's ready for tons more people to come on, not read your 2nd post, and rant long into the night...

[QOD]

I totally understand, it's a big thing becoming 13


Ffs

[LadyHarrietdeSpook]

YABU totally insane.

Unfortunately, I don't think it's a reverse AIBU, there are plenty of adults out there who are this extraordinarily self absorbed and immature.

My own mother caused mayhem on the day of her grand-daughter's christening - it was US Mother's Day, dontcha know, and the day never 'stopped' being about DD and about her instead. She actually tore a strip off of us after hosting a party for 60 people and spending four hours driving home.

Please don't behave this way. Please. Unless you really enjoy creating unhappiness and animosity amongst family members.

[MadBusLady]

Am now that I called him princessy.

[MammaTJ]

So, OP, it is your nephew and your DPs birthday?

[Winterbluesinmyhead]

Yes, it is my nephew and my DPs birthday.

[catwisd]

so who's birthday is it and who is getting christened?

[catwisd]

sorry, it was answered already. how old is your DP?

[Winterbluesinmyhead]

35!

[FeltOverlooked]

YABU and also mean and petty and immature.

[Softlysoftly]

Wow don't make him a DH

[MadBusLady]

Ooh. Is he 35 now or going to be 35?

I'm 34, I consider 35 to be a bit of a big one. That may just be me.

[bedmonster]

Dammit! Late to the party as per usual. And I had a witty retort too! Will save it for another time!
But yes, HIBU.

[Winterbluesinmyhead]

He's going to be 35.

[FeltOverlooked]

Sorry, your DP is being unreasonable, mean, petty and immature.

[KnightBusRider]

Your DP needs to grow the hell up, frankly. What an idiot.

[mercibucket]

Yup, time to trade up I think, op

[StillSmilingAfterAllTheseYears]

Aw, MadBusLady is on the dp's side, so it's not unanimous!