To think that you are weak.....

[Saltycopporn]

If you smoke and won't give it up.

Surely other than being stupid that is the only reason to persist with such a vile habit.

I smoked myself until five years ago and I will admit that I found the thought of a life without cigarettes terrifying. I tried to convince myself and those around me that I enjoyed smoking when the truth was that due to being addicted I hated the feeling of not smoking. Five years down the line I feel just like you do after a cigarette all the time.

As a former addict I can say that although you don't think it's that bad you do smell. Those you say it's not that bad are being polite or they are used to it. When your kids are at school it is likely that people will know you smoke just by being near them.

Also do you want to meet your future grandchildren? I've just left the home of someone who will never meet his and it is heartbreaking. He used to say that it helped him relax but now he tells me that his throat was so dry and agonisingly painful that he hasn't slept since Monday afternoon.

I'm aware that in being contentious with this post but why else would you carry on knowing all of these reasons and more?

I lost a close family member 3 years ago due to cancer, it started behind his eye then travelled to his throat, lungs, liver, brain then into his bones, he underwent 4 years of treatment,

He was 39 years old, a fit, healthy adult who had never smoked in his life, He left behind 2 teenage girls and a 3 year old,

There is nothing he could have done to prevent this, I visitited him the day before he died in the hospise and he knew that was it, he said to me " If I knew this was the way for me then I would have enjoyed my life a bit more, I was always wary of smoking but I would have liked to have tried it, was scared I'd get addicted though"

He told me to enjoy my life as we never know what is around the corner.

Well Salty, you certainly got that

And so you can't now complain about any of it. Since you got exactly what you set out to get

Ok guys, I think she gets it now. Maybe we should lay off the onslaught? I think she understands that the post sounded judgemental. But I do agree that you did want to provoke a reaction salty and that is exactly what you've done :) But still, I think we made our point!

Lights up and blows smoke in Op's face.
We've all suffered or will suffer bereavement of some sort in our lives, I've lost a mum and a sister in the space of 3 years.
But to come on and castigate people because they smoke does not help your cause.
As an ex smoker you should realise that.
I have given up before unsuccessfully a couple of times, the longest was 18 months.
I didn't give a shit if other's smoked at the time, it was none of my business.

Sorry about your uncle but yabu. Have you given up ingesting anything else that has the potential to cause fatality?.

(wipes blood from nose and hugs hopeful) I guess I did ask for it.....

I like smoking. I gave up for 10 years then something terrible happenend and I thought fuck it. So I now smoke rollies for the grabd total of 3 quid a week. I enjoy each and every last puff.
And no, I dont want to live to be old.

I am not stupid for not being able to give up I was stupid to start in the first place a bit like you were OP well done for stopping but I guess you were just stupid as the rest of the smokers, It is hard for some to give up and some dont want to ,

Until I found out I was pg I smoked. I only gave up because I pg.

I am a young professional with a very stressful role. I found smoking a great stress relief and you want to know something else? I enjoyed it! I don't see whose business it is.

I am well aware of the dangers but I am sure the last time I checked, I lived in a democratic society.

There is nothing worse than someone who has given up smoking to spout such stupid shit.

I live alone, could never have children and am disabled so rarely leave the house therefore don't care if I smell of cigarettes.

I shall continue to smoke while I enjoy it and will laugh like a drain if you go back to smoking. I gave up once for ten years so it can happen.

I think it's pretty weak and stupid to wake up in the morning and think "I know what I will do today - I will tell random strangers online that they are weak and stupid!"

Do you feel like a bigger and better person now that you've made your public statement?

silver I'll let you know if I start again you sound like you need cheering up!

prima you can answer that question as well as I can

In fairness to the OP I do think that my smoking is a weakness. I have tried to give up a few times and not been strong enough so yes I am weak at stopping smoking. And this was after DDad and his two sisters dying within 18 months of each other of lung cancer. But I am strong in other things.

Salty, no, my post is directed at you, in response to something specific you wrote. It is not an indictment of 20% of the population of random Internet strangers

i am a smoker, and tried everything to give up and I agree smoking is my weakness.

Oh man. Twenty years it took me to give up. Why didn't you spread the word earlier op?

Bloody annoyed now. All those wasted weak and smelly years.

Oh, and thank you for your words of wisdom Op.
Because of you I'm giving up tomorrow.
or maybe not

prima you asked md how it feels to call someone weak and stupid one sentence after saying I am weak and stupid. Also in my op I asked if there were other reasons other than being weak or stupid to continue smoking. Therefore you are more qualified to answer your question than I am.

OP I think people have been a bit hard on you - maybe the wording in your post was a bit inflammatory but I do think you have a point.

I smoke - I gave up for about 6 months last year and unfortunately went back to it. I do think it was because I am weak. Or maybe not completely weak, but the nicotine addiction (even after 6 months) was stronger than my will power.

I want to quit again, this time for good. I know I stink. I hate that my DDs associate the smell of smoke with hugs from their mum. Of course I want to live to see my grandchildren.

You know Allen Carr's approach? Smoking is absolutely disgusting. Imagine a 5 year old child doing it - you recoil in horror don't you? It's vile. And yet nicotine is so addictive, your body tricks you into thinking you enjoy something so horrible. So you have to see it for what it is - a substance more addictive than heroin - and tackle the addiction, reminding yourself that you don't really enjoy sucking poison into your lungs.

inflammatory = pun not intended!

And yet here I am, about to leave work, and looking forward to my ciggie on the walk home.

I did Allen Carr, he just told me what I knew already.
Except over and over and over again, until I wanted to throw his book across the room in rage.
I'm glad it helped some people, I just thought "I fucking know that, and however many times you repeat it will not persuade me".
I know it's helped millions of people, but I don't think I'm weak there, I just can't stand being lectured and told what to do.

To think that you are weak.....

young Padawan learner.

No-one else expecting that?