to think sex ed encourages earlier sex?

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Not saying get rid of it, but seems to me a big part of me hanging on til I was 20 was a result of fear, not of pregnancy, but just the unknown. I had no idea what a man's bits looked like, and trust me, in my imagination they were scary (for some reason I thought the testicles were a clamp that grabbed you!)

Not sure that level of ignorance was great, but does familiarity breed more pressure on girls?

I would rather know what to expect then not. Than go into it not having a clue what was right and what was wrong.

"men's bits" are ugly though tbh

Yabu, but not sure if serious!

I would rather have been aware, knowledgeable, confident and safe, to be honest; and I would rather all girls and boys are.

Yes of course we should keep our children ignorant, then they won't know if they are being abused and how wrong it is, they will end up getting pregnant/fathering children and get stds because they won't know what the hell contraception is, they will end up talking amongst themselves and making things up.... I don't know why we didn't think of denying them knowledge before

I had sex at 14 because I thought I was in love and it seemed like just part of the relationship steps you take. Sex ed didn't make me make that decision, the factor may friends had all done it days/weeks into the relationship made me think that after a year it was acceptable for us too probably played a big role. Plus curiosity and a belief that I was untouchable, bigger and tougher than I really was

I don't think fear of sex is a good thing.

Would rather girls were going into it knowing what to expect and how to protect themselves than avoiding relationships because they are clueless about sex and then getting pressured into something they don't understand.

You are not only unreasonable but also clearly uninformed.

I hope you won't be passing these odd ideas onto your own children.

You are being a loon.
Education, education

All off the evidence suggests the opposite

Ha! Yes, let's tell girls that testicles are a big terrifying clamp. Let's tell boys that the vagina does in fact have teeth. Let's make sex a horrifying prospect that is shameful and secret and never done just for the sheer fun of it.

That'll solve the problems in society today.

Good one, OP, you had me going there for a second.

"Too Frit To Fuck"

Michael Gove might buy that strap line off you.

Yup YABVU to think that in the face of all of the evidence to the contrary.

This is one of those cases where you don't need to get all political about the means and methods...ANYTHING that means less underage sex is a good thing...and education means less underage sex.

Google 'teenage pregnancy rates in holland'. Throws up lots of interesting stuff including www.independent.co.uk/extras/big-question/the-big-question-why-are-teenage-pregnancy-rates-so-high-and-what-can-be-done-about-it-1623828.html

This has got to be a wind up, surely?
The point of sex education is to combat fear and ignorance. To allows young men and women to make informed decisions about their own bodies and feelings. Not to encourage them to hop along to it!

Being as informed as possible about every major aspect of life has got to be a good thing.

YABU

Various European countries are far more open about sex than the UK. They have lower teen pregnancy rates and lower std rates.

YABU, I'm pretty sure studies have shown just the opposite - ignorance leads to tons more teenage pregnancies, among other issues. Cba to look for link

Oh and not talking to teenagers about sex won't stop them doing it!

Linerunner . How scarily right you are!

OP, honestly, just think for a minute.

Fear and ignorance are not good things. I find it absolutely ludicrous that at age 20 you were totally uninformed about basic human biology - how on earth did that happen? Did you not go to school?

It seems obvious to me that a naive girl is much more open to pressure and abuse than a girl who is fully informed and able to talk about what she thinks and feels. OP if you had happened to meet someone you really liked when you were 17 and he had decided to "inform" you about sex, you would have believed him, right? And he could have told you anything, that standing up having sex would mean you wouldn't get pregnant, that doing it up the bum was the best way to do it, etc etc. How on earth could that have been a good thing? Keeping people of any age in the dark about something that could have such a massive impact on their life is totally indefensible in my view.

Doesn't the UK have the highest teen pregnancy rate in Europe? I don't think sex ed is causing it. Im pretty sure lack of education about condoms is more likely!

People like you are exactly the reason we need sex-ed in schools.

YABU

Ill informed on so many levels.

Why not tell them that every time you even so much as think about sex a kitten dies?

As for sex education at school? The idea that watching a Betamax video of two rabbits screwing and a middle aged Yorkshirewoman pointing at a badly rendered line drawing of a cock and balls made me any more or less randy is absurd.

Ignorance is a dangerous thing. Knowledge is power. And perhaps if more parents got over themselves to talk properly and openly to their own children about sex as something natural and to be enjoyed, and what precautions should be taken for health, then maybe sex ed in schools would be less of a necessity.