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Should I still be upset over Boss shouting at me today?

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bengal38 · 14/01/2013 16:23

I work in a school kitchen and today the Boss shouted at me infront of the 2 Area Managers and my work colleagues for putting 5 spoons of meatballs instead of 5 meatballs in a childs plate.

I asked the Boss how many spoons of meatballs and she said to me 5 only. I then went to do the next childs plate and she told me it was too much and she meant 5 meatballs and not 5 spoons.

Later inside she shouted at me over it. I did apologise but she said that next time it happens she will scream at me and she then started touching her head saying to me "are you not aware of what I mean when I talk to you". I got the impression that she thought I was thick.

I was really upset but I did explain to her that I said to her how many spoons but she said that I should have known she meant 5 meatballs and not 5 spoons.

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WorraLiberty · 14/01/2013 17:36

I hadn't noticed you until now OP but after what people have said, I ran your NN through search and most of your posts are work related...so I can kind of see where they're coming from, can't you?

KobayashiMaru · 14/01/2013 17:36

To be fair, it wasn't A problem, it was rather a lot of them. So what happened when you reported the previous incident?

nickelbabe · 14/01/2013 17:38

bengal - I did a search on you, and you have had problems loads of times.

You really don't sound happy in your workplace - you can't really go on like this, you must do something about it.

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bengal38 · 14/01/2013 17:39

I reported the previous incident to the Boss and it has sorted itself out now.

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giveitago · 14/01/2013 17:39

"Well, really you should have known that 5 spoonfuls of meatballs would be far too much for a small child's school dinner."

What? The op was following her employers instructions. Employers instructions were incorrect. Employers are idiots and the employee who was just doing what she was told was shouted at.

What bit of this is the employees fault.

itspeanuts · 14/01/2013 17:39

I personally would look for another job. The problem is there are very few employment rights anymore unless you're incredibly thick-skinned and able to fight this head on.

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bengal38 · 14/01/2013 17:42

To be honest I am the sort of person that doesn't like confrontations of any kind. I like to be able to get on with everybody. When you are in a position where you get shouted at you don't think to yourself I am going to leave the job, complain and scream/shout to get my own way. You just carry on and hope that in time things will work themselves out.

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bengal38 · 14/01/2013 17:43

I also would like it if everyone could stick to the post I have posted rather than point out my previous posts.

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squeakytoy · 14/01/2013 17:44

kitchens are stressful places to work, people have to be quick, and competent. It is not the type of environment for someone who is easily offended or cant keep up the pace.

7 months of working in a kitchen is not being new to the job.. especially when you have done it before

squeakytoy · 14/01/2013 17:47

but your previous posts are absolutely relevant to get a background of the situation that has possibly led to your supervisor getting frustrated with you..

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bengal38 · 14/01/2013 17:48

To squeakytoy
Thanks for your comment. I totally understand what you are saying. But wouldn't anyone be offended at being shouted at over petty things like "meatballs". I do keep up my pace in the kitchen. This is not about me being too slow in the kitchen - my post is about being shouted at over meatballs.

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annh · 14/01/2013 17:49

Bengal, which previous incident did you report? There have been a number of them. And how did it sort itself out? Was any action taken or was it just ignored? I didn't search for your previous threads because I posted some of them and recognised you as soon as I opened this one. However, I have had a look now and can see that you do seem to have similar issues with misunderstandings or feeling wronged outside of work as well. Is this always an issue for you? Or do you feel that people take advantage of your good intentions?

ClippedPhoenix · 14/01/2013 17:49

I'd react very badly to anyone shouting at me in the workplace boss or not. I'd report her for bulling.

KobayashiMaru · 14/01/2013 17:50

Were you really shouted at though? Like as in actual shouting?

NuclearStandoff · 14/01/2013 17:50

You have been there since May and this is the first time that meatballs have been on the menu?

HecatePropolos · 14/01/2013 17:50

You weren't shouted at over meatballs.

you were shouted at because this person is a bully.

The meatballs were just today's excuse.

Thistledew · 14/01/2013 17:50

Your boss should not have shouted at you.

But 5 spoons of meatballs rather than 5 meatballs??!

It is logical to assume that you must be able to get more than one meatball on the spoon otherwise 5 spoonfuls would have meant 5 meatballs.

This means you served up a portion of at least 10 meatballs! Double the intended portion size.

If I had an employee who served up a portion double the normal size after having been in the job for 9 months I would assume that s/he was deliberately misconstruing my instructions in order to be arsey. Did common sense not kick in to let you know you may have misunderstood? I could see why an employer might think you either were being deliberately obtuse or that you didn't care enough about the job to apply any thought to it at all.

I would hope that as an employer I would have refrained from shouting at you but I probably would have felt like doing so.

itspeanuts · 14/01/2013 17:51

So you be pro-active. Go to your boss and point out that you didn't appreciate being shouted at. Do you think you need extra training?

XBenedict · 14/01/2013 17:52

Totally unacceptable way to talk to someone. She asked a question and did as she was told. Why shout? I have never shouted (in anger) at a colleague in my life.

Arthurfowlersallotment · 14/01/2013 17:52

I think you should endeavour to find another job. It isn't going to get easier.

annh · 14/01/2013 17:57

You weren't shouted at because of meatballs. You were shouted at because the manager felt that you had not listened to her answer and more importantly, you failed to apply any common sense. Unless you were using a dessert spoon to serve up, 5 serving spoons of meatballs must have been a huge portion and obviously too much. The manager was definitely wrong to shout at you but I suspect reacted unprofessionally to yet another low-level issue, one of many which have been going on for months.

cumfy · 14/01/2013 18:10

I really, really, want to know how many meatballs this child got and how big the spoon was.

Please tell.

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bengal38 · 14/01/2013 18:13

The spoon was a ladle type spoon but a small one. The child must have got about 8 meatballs instead of 5 so he got 3 extra meatballs.

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OneHandFlapping · 14/01/2013 18:18

It certainly sounds like a hostile environment to work in.

Can you look for somewhere more congenial?

SoWhatIfImWorkingClass · 14/01/2013 18:22

That's unnaceeptable behaviour on her part :( I feel really sorry for you. I would have been going over and over it in my head for days if that happened to me.

I bet you felt robbed of your dignity and felt humiliated. Some managers have absolutely no grasp in how to get their point across whilst still maintaining the respect from their staff. If I was you my respect for her as a manager would be a big fat zero.

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