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Should I still be upset over Boss shouting at me today?

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bengal38 · 14/01/2013 16:23

I work in a school kitchen and today the Boss shouted at me infront of the 2 Area Managers and my work colleagues for putting 5 spoons of meatballs instead of 5 meatballs in a childs plate.

I asked the Boss how many spoons of meatballs and she said to me 5 only. I then went to do the next childs plate and she told me it was too much and she meant 5 meatballs and not 5 spoons.

Later inside she shouted at me over it. I did apologise but she said that next time it happens she will scream at me and she then started touching her head saying to me "are you not aware of what I mean when I talk to you". I got the impression that she thought I was thick.

I was really upset but I did explain to her that I said to her how many spoons but she said that I should have known she meant 5 meatballs and not 5 spoons.

OP posts:
squeakytoy · 14/01/2013 16:47

Is the boss really "shouting" at you, or are you being over-sensitive and is it more true to say that you dont really cope very well with being told you are doing something wrong.

You have repeatedly posted threads where you say you have been shouted at for making mistakes that it seems you are not really fitting in well at this job and in this case it is relevant to mention on this thread about other threads you have started.

McNewPants2013 · 14/01/2013 16:47

totally unprofessinal shouting at you, even worse in front of other people.

annh · 14/01/2013 16:48

Bengal38, you are NOT new to this job and you have posted numerous times previously complaining about real or perceived slights. Surely this is not the first time that meatballs have appeared on the menu since you started work there?

fuckadoodlepoopoo · 14/01/2013 16:50

Maybe she's not usually the server!

NolittleBuddahsorTigerMomshere · 14/01/2013 16:51

Squeaky & MC Even for AIBU those replies are nasty. OP's had a bad day you could have at least offered her a Brew Wink

LoopsInHoops · 14/01/2013 16:53

Need to know how big 5 spoons is.

fuckadoodlepoopoo · 14/01/2013 16:58

Op. I had a quick look at your other threads, i hope you don't mind.

They sound like a awful bitchy lot!

Its hard to know though if some of its you being quite sensitive. On the face of it they do sound horrible.

hoodoo12345 · 14/01/2013 16:59

YANBU Noone deserves to be spoken to like a child, and over meatballs!

ExitPursuedByABear · 14/01/2013 17:00

So how many meatballs did each spoonful hold?

WorraLiberty · 14/01/2013 17:03

I have been there since May last year so I am still new to the job.

How so? Confused

ihearsounds · 14/01/2013 17:03

Even if not involved in the usual serving, unless wearing a blindfold the whole time, would be blatantly obvious it should have been 5 balls not spoons.. And no, you are no longer a new employee. I work with someone after 2 years still considers themselves new, and uses the new excuse for all the screw ups made. Been shown countless time how to do things, still screws up, and people out of frustration have shouted at her. Unprofessional, but sometimes you get frustrated.

nickelbabe · 14/01/2013 17:05

since May is not new to the job.

however, it doesn't matter how thick you might be, how many times you've asked a question, how slow you are, how useless you are, there is never any right for anyone to shout at you like that
whether you are on your own or in front of people.
it is never acceptable.

if this has happened even once, you should complain to her line manager.

annh · 14/01/2013 17:10

OP, please do come back this time and acknowledge the advice that you have been given on this and numerous other threads which you have started about your employment situation over the past months. I suspect part of the frustration people are expressing on this thread is because you have posted similar issues several times, been given some good advice (including from HR professionals) and then never let people know what you have done or even returned to the thread to acknowledge the advice.

HecatePropolos · 14/01/2013 17:11

since may 2012 in a school kitchen?

so 8 weeks or so before school holidays and what? 12-14 weeks of the new term?

So perhaps 20 or 22 weeks on the job? Almost half a year.

It's not really that new.

But still no excuse for humiliating you.

fuckadoodlepoopoo · 14/01/2013 17:11

Very true nickelbabe.

There is no excuse for the way they treat you op, although some on here seem to think is it acceptable seeing as you made a mistake Hmm

It makes those posters no better than the bullies you work with in my opinion.

DizzyZebra · 14/01/2013 17:15

I'd have fucking lamped her.

Pandemoniaa · 14/01/2013 17:20

From the number of threads you've started about this job, it sounds as if you are working in the wrong place. Admittedly, you appear to be struggling with the basic requirements but equally, you are not being treated appropriately. Are you in the union? Because I'd advise talking to a steward if you are.

RedToothbrush · 14/01/2013 17:21

You know you can be emotionally abused at work as well as home?

This I have found out the hard way.

Being shouted at in front of colleagues is a classic example. It could be classed as bullying, if its part of a pattern of behaviour.

Have a look at this tick list of work place abuse

I think you'll be ticking a few based on what you've said here.

You should start a diary of events and make a note of what is happening to you, so you can start to show a pattern of bullying, even if you don't want to complain about it now.

It will mean that if you do end up in a worse situation such as being fired, you will have a few extra options.

However if you have someone you can complain about this though, do so as it will only continue otherwise. Make this formal, so things can change for the better.

REPORT THE BASTARD (my version of Leave the bastard).

Valdeeves · 14/01/2013 17:21

I think you might be in the wrong job and I think your boss is not going to change.

KobayashiMaru · 14/01/2013 17:27

You've posted many times about small incidents with your work colleagues and bosses, about them looking at you funny and about you getting into trouble for doing things wrong at work. It does sound like you are incredibly sensitive, but if it actually is as you say, why haven't you taken any of the good advice given to you before by many different posters?

Viviennemary · 14/01/2013 17:29

Quite obviously she is the one who made the mistake and shouted at you to cover up. She was probably nervous. But I don't think the area managers will be too impressed by her management methods! And then taking you aside and talking to you like that is certainly not on. Not sure if I'd give her another chance or complain now. I'd probably give her another chance.

Valdeeves · 14/01/2013 17:30

Can you talk to personnel in private?

JuliaSqueezer · 14/01/2013 17:31

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bengal38 · 14/01/2013 17:32

Just because I have had a problem before at work and I posted on here for advice it doesn't mean that I haven't taken any good advice. Infact I have reported that previous incident and remember no-one's perfect. Do any of you not have any problems at work?

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squeakytoy · 14/01/2013 17:36

But OP, you havent had one problem before, you have had a multitude of them. All rather trivial and you rarely if ever seem to reply or update about what happened.. or even return to the thread!

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