Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To want to rant about this?

70 replies

Jellykat · 11/01/2013 21:52

Aaaaaargh FFS!.. Some parents are shit!

So DS1 (15 tomorrow) has a friend (14) over to stay tonight, who has been throwing up for the last 2 hours, over EVERYTHING, ncluding a huge rug i now have to throw out because i can't wash it.

No, they haven't been drinking or smoking, he must have a bug.

Rant rant rant - his parents are staying with friends tonight, they have no mobile signal in the village where they're staying, the boy doesn't know the name of the friends, and they're not on FB..

What shit parents become totally uncontactable? I'm fucking furious, i've had a tough 3 days which included a mammogram for a suspicious lump, and starting a new job, now i've got nurse a sick teen who i've only met for 5 minutes.

His parents are crap, and i'm gonna tell them so tomorrow!
AIBU?

OP posts:
wannabedreams · 11/01/2013 21:55

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr (on your behalf)!!

TheEarlOfDoncaster1963 · 11/01/2013 21:55

Oh no - poor you, and him! They should've left a landline number for you at least. Hopefully the vomiting will subside once his stomach is empty. I hope you get a decent night's sleep!
Would definitely be a bit miffed with the parents.

lockets · 11/01/2013 21:56

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SpottyBagOfTumble · 11/01/2013 21:57

Oh no! That is crap! Poor boy, poor you and poor your ds! Is there any way to minimise damage?

PolterGoose · 11/01/2013 21:57

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

thatisall · 11/01/2013 21:57

That's ridiculous! They must've realised they had no signal when they got there? At that point they should've found another way for you to contact them : email facebook or something. Arseholes

Coconutty · 11/01/2013 21:58

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SoleSource · 11/01/2013 21:58

Irresponsible to not be contactable. Poor boy, poor DS and you jelly!!

I would mention the rug too...

Oh gosh this is all you need..xxx

Coconutty · 11/01/2013 21:59

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Original poster
Jellykat · 11/01/2013 22:03

I've never met the parents, as far as i'm aware they don't even know where he is, and have done this before, that is - buggered off for the night Hmm

Definitely haven't been drinking, i'd smell it on them, plus they came more or less back from school. I can tell when DS1s has had a can (birthday/ christmas etc only), it is obvious and he's very bad at lying!

OP posts:
WifeofPie · 11/01/2013 22:09

YANBU. I maybe wouldn't tell them that they are crap but defo. Let them know that you've been nursing their sick son, cleaning his bodily fluids off your rug while they've been living it up Wink.

Original poster
Jellykat · 11/01/2013 22:11

Aww Sole. have so much steam coming out of my ears i didn't see your name!
Smile

So it will be reasonable to give the parents some verbals tomorrow? (presuming the father isn't 6ft 3 or built like a brick shithouse..) or not?

How about give them the rug in a bin bag?

Rant rant rant rant rant bastards rant..
Aaaah thats better

OP posts:
InLoveWithDavidTennant · 11/01/2013 22:17

very irresponsible!

give them the rug tomorrow with some choice words so they can pay to get it clean themselves.

must be horrible for their dc... being in a strange place while ill. hope he stops being sick soon

Original poster
Jellykat · 11/01/2013 22:26

Hi DT!

He's supposed to get the bus home tomorrow, but i his parents can get off they're arses and pick him up.. (and the fermenting rug) hope they'll have really bad hangovers!

First wash of the night nearly complete..

OP posts:
IHeartKingThistle · 12/01/2013 00:04

Have you got hold of the twats?

Original poster
Jellykat · 12/01/2013 00:13

Nooo - they're staying at their friends overnight apparently, in another village.. no point in even driving there as DSs friend doesn't even know where their friends live.

Its going to be a long night! Am hoping he'll just sleep now..

OP posts:
LadyBeagleEyes · 12/01/2013 00:26

What could they do though, even if you could contact them?
If they're away they're possibly drinking and couldn't pick him up anyway.
Poor lad, it's not his fault. My teen ds often has a mate staying over, I'd look after them as I would my son if they got ill.

Original poster
Jellykat · 12/01/2013 00:40

I know its too late now but it would've been handy earlier, and i know its not his fault.
I'm just pissed off that they've gone off all night without leaving any contact details with their son whatsoever- should he or anyone else need to get hold of them.
Suppose something really awful happened? He's only 14!

and i'm tired and grumpy after my week

OP posts:
SoleSource · 12/01/2013 00:42

I agree. Anything could happen! He could be at deaths door or worse in hospital after jelly's cooking

If you allow him to.stay again, insist on two emergency contact numbers.

pingu2209 · 12/01/2013 00:43

Do you think they knew he was ill?

My friend did this to me. She went away for the weekend leaving me with her son. As she dropped him off she said that he had been a bit off colour but I'm sure he will be fine. Within an hour of him leaving he started to vomit. I tried to call her back but her phone was off. She said there was no signal on the train - for 5 hours! I don't think so!

I vowed never to look after her child again. Not that he was horrible, but that she had so wanted her weekend away that she was prepared to leave her ill boy (age 6).

oldebaglady · 12/01/2013 00:47

"What could they do though, even if you could contact them?"
say they couldn't leave where they were, they could still be sympathetic down the phone, stop drinking and go to sleep so they could drive to the OPs house early to pick the boy up and drive him home

DSM · 12/01/2013 00:50

They are hardly arseholes or shit parents.. I understand your frustration but I think you need to calm down.

They have a 14 year old who was staying at a friends, and they have gone somewhere there is no signal. It's not like they have gone somewhere and not bothered to take their phone, or intentionally switch it off.

Maybe a sleepover wasn't the best idea given your other stresses at the moment.

Where are they? I've been in the most remote parts of Scotland and even then you can pick up an intermittent signal every now and again. Send a text - chances are it'll pick up at some point. There aren't very many places where there is genuinely NO reception

ihearsounds · 12/01/2013 00:50

So the lad has a rep for buggering off for the night? Could be that he's done it again, parents are at home unaware of where he is.. Instead of giving you their number, given you a mates number who's either switched ot off or had it confiscated..

CoolaSchmoola · 12/01/2013 01:00

Their child is staying with people they don't know, they can't be contacted, their child doesn't know where they are, or who they are with, and they very possibly have NO idea where he is either...and even if they do they haven't checked he is actually there.

In the event of an emergency they are completely uncontactable, the Police would struggle to find them away from home with no name or address for where they are and no mobile signal to trace.

Illness aside IMO that is a definition of a SHIT PARENT.

I doubt anyone, teenage or otherwise, even those with a reputation for buggering off, would want to be away from home when this ill.

TinyDancingHoofer · 12/01/2013 01:00

To be fair, he is fourteen and if they are with friends they probably haven't checked email or tried to call him so they may not be aware they are uncactable. Though tis rather shit for you.

Swipe left for the next trending thread