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Jellykat · 11/01/2013 21:52

Aaaaaargh FFS!.. Some parents are shit!

So DS1 (15 tomorrow) has a friend (14) over to stay tonight, who has been throwing up for the last 2 hours, over EVERYTHING, ncluding a huge rug i now have to throw out because i can't wash it.

No, they haven't been drinking or smoking, he must have a bug.

Rant rant rant - his parents are staying with friends tonight, they have no mobile signal in the village where they're staying, the boy doesn't know the name of the friends, and they're not on FB..

What shit parents become totally uncontactable? I'm fucking furious, i've had a tough 3 days which included a mammogram for a suspicious lump, and starting a new job, now i've got nurse a sick teen who i've only met for 5 minutes.

His parents are crap, and i'm gonna tell them so tomorrow!
AIBU?

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fatcuntroller · 12/01/2013 14:15

As a completely unhelpful aside, why is a 14 year old throwing up over everything? Even 4yo dd can aim at the loo/a bucket!

I would be highly pissed off in your situation and also feel sorry for the poor boy. I would absolutely mention the ruined rug to the parents.

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Jellykat · 12/01/2013 17:42

Sooo, i didn't get a chance to say anything, DS and friend hastily caught bus into town this morning, they parents didnt pick the lad up.. DS and friend asked me not to ring the parents, the friend doesn't want a huge row from them, and i felt sorry for him, poor bugger.

Still washing (chucked the rug of doom - i guess its a good excuse to get a new one) its amazing though how much vom can be splashed around by a 14 year old, but at least it wasn't the dreaded norovirus!

DSM - If you think by stating how, and why, i know what normally happens in this situation, i'm being 'smug', i couldn't give a monkeys....
I could ask where i've said i've never made a mistake, or called the parents arseholes.. but am not really bothered by your misquoting and presumptions.
C'est la vie.. < shrugs >

Happy Birthday to my DS2! Smile

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kerstina · 12/01/2013 21:18

Just wondering how you knew for definite it was not the noroviruse as that was the first thing I thought it was when first read your thread?

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Jellykat · 12/01/2013 21:57

I'm thinking it wasn't because he stopped throwing up at midnightish (so it lasted @5 hours), he only had a problem from the top half of his body, and seemed ok this morning.. sounds like something he ate maybe?

The NV was the first thing that crossed my mind when he started i must admit, as DS and i have so far escaped any real lurgy.

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BabsAndTheRu · 12/01/2013 22:01

Yeah, definitely could be the norovirus. It does tend to give you no warning hence the throwing up on the rug and not getting to loo on time. You'll soon know in the next 24-48hrs if the rest of you come down with it. That's all you need. YANBU and I'm quite shocked about the amount of people that posted that you were, its not acceptable for a child to be unable to contact their parents. What really selfish people and poor boy. Hope you all keep well over next few days.

littlewhitebag · 12/01/2013 22:02

Lets be honest. The parents would not be expecting DS to be ill and it is not their fault they are staying somewhere with no reception. I took DD1 and friends away to Centre Parcs once and one of the girls got a vomiting bug. I treated her like she was mine - with love and tenderness - and got her home to her parents eventually. This is life - it happens.

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Jellykat · 12/01/2013 22:08

Ah thank you Babs Smile

littlewhitebag So when you took DS friends away, presumably the parents knew where she was, and you had a contact number should you need it? (or at least the child did).. its a bit different i'd say.

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littlewhitebag · 12/01/2013 22:13

I actually have no idea. I didn't speak to the parents of the girl. She spoke to them herself i think. What i am saying is that she was with me so i assumed care of her. If my child became ill when with friends i would hope her parents would care for her even if i was uncontactable for whatever reasons. In the olden days pre mobiles that is what happened.

DeepRedBetty · 12/01/2013 22:14

This is exactly the reason why I have never had a child to sleep over without meeting and speaking to the parents first. At least one of the regulars has a major allergy, I've had two come down with the sort of nasty cold that you wonder if it might not be 'flu (they were both off school for the entire following week), and there was the night that two of them broke the ground rules about leaving the house after dark without asking, which ended with a parent being asked to come and take them away.

edam · 12/01/2013 22:16

eek, Jelly, that sounds horrid. Poor you. Glad it's over but how miserable while it lasted. Hope mammogram gives you reassuring results. And happy birthday to ds2!

Parents were being irresponsible not leaving contact details with their ds - they should have given him the landline for where they were staying.

SquinkiesRule · 12/01/2013 22:25

Does he have grandparent who live near? I know if mine were sick and I wasn't in contact range my kids would feel better if ill over at grandmas house.

dikkertjedap · 12/01/2013 22:25

They might all have gone to the pub (parents and their friends). Can you locate the pub in the village and give them a call, ask if the parents of X are there by any chance?

Poor boy (he must feel dreadful and embarrassed), your poor son and poor you. Not the type of weekend you need.

dikkertjedap · 12/01/2013 22:26

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SquinkiesRule · 12/01/2013 22:27

Missed the bit above about him have gone home. Why would he get a row for being ill?

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Jellykat · 12/01/2013 22:39

littlewhitebag but the girl had some form of number to contact her parents should either of you need to, no?
Pre mobiles, ordinary phones existed, no?
Still a different situation i'd say, lets leave it at that.

Thank you Betty and edam Smile

I don't know why exactly Squinkie, its just what he and DS said, a bit odd.. Confused

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MusicalEndorphins · 13/01/2013 12:04

Maybe his parents don't know he was at your place, maybe they were home all along but he was upset with them or something? Just speculating about the "huge row" comment.

Buddhastic · 13/01/2013 12:14

I think they are shit parents if they didn't leave a number for their fifteen year old to get in contact with them in an emergency.

3littlefrogs · 13/01/2013 12:37

Buddhastic - do you have a 15 yr old boy?

It is perfectly possible the parents didn't know anything about the sleepover, particularly if it wasn't arranged in advance IYSWIM.

There may be a completely different scene going on in the parents' home.

Buddhastic · 13/01/2013 13:58

I have a 15 year old daughter and yes whilst I agree there might be a different story at the parents end what I said was 'if'. So to clarify if they knew that their son was going on a sleepover and did go off for the night not leaving a contact number then they are shit.

lljkk · 13/01/2013 14:10

You are a saint, Jellykat.
Enjoy the new job & your new rug. :)

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