to feel aggrieved with this mum or am I having a sense of humour failure?

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DS is 5 and did something very naughty at school today which caused damage. He and his friend have been severely reprimanded by the class and head teachers, plus the janitor. DS is very remorseful (to the extent that he offered to give the contents of his piggy bank to the head in order to pay for repairs!) and it has been taken seriously all round.

So I'm mightily pissed off that a mum from the class has posted on Facebook, tagging myself and the other boy's mum, gleefully tutting because shed heard all about it from her child. I will struggle to contain myself should her angel child step out of line in the future.

Trying to feel lighthearted about it but tbh I'm gutted, disappointed in DS and really cross that it's so fucking amusing.

My five year old is mischievous, he has also flooded toilets, I get parents in the playground delight in telling me what their kids have said he's done now. I also get the kids delight in telling me if he's been naughty as they come out if the door at the end of the day, before I've even seen him myself. It wears thin very quickly. I always reply along the lines of your reply op and make sure people know I'm not impressed. Most people I think just find his escapades amusing with the odd gloater thrown in. Unfortunatly its part and parcel of having a naughty child, people will talk, also my ds is never unkind to his classmates or naughty in that way just silly and mischievous which gets him in trouble but others see that as cute and funny I think. Grit your teeth it will pass. Your class may have a case of nits next week that will keep them all busy with gossip lol :)

What kungfu said - I definitely would not be putting I am sure you didn't mean any harm as that immediately lets the silly cow off. What she has done is pathetic and I would definitely be blocking her on FB and not talking to her anymore. Making fun of a child is just awful.

I don't feel that it's bullying. It's a one-off. It's bitchy but informative at least and now I know what she's like.

I'm thinking about what to say if I see her this morning. If I've got the balls I was planning something like "That was a brave thing to post to all your friends on facebook" then when she at me "I wish I was so confident my children would never do anything wrong". I really want to make the point that I thought little of it (because I'm such a wimp I'd laugh it off usually but this has made me angry) but I don't want an argument, and I don't want to give her the opportunity to backtrack because I haven't got the opportunity to undo what she's talked about.

Does that make sense?

If it comes up in conversation at the school gates, could you say say that's its all been dealt with between the parents, teachers and children, as appropriate.

YANBU. It would be normal (although still passive aggressive and bitchy!) to just post something like "OMG somebody flooded the loos at school" or similar but to actually tag you? WEIRD.

I guess so. I don't mind having a laugh about it, I really don't. It's the gloating on facebook that annoyed me.

I have a friend who has a fairly naughty DS, if my DS or any other my friends DCs are involved in an incident with her DS then she always seems to put it on facebook and making sure others are not necessarily named but it is always implied, she does it in RL not just on FB. I think that is bad enough but even she wouldn't have the nerve to tag us.

The brave comment is a good one, she is a bit of a twat. Hope it went well!

Anyway...this is exactly the reason that I do not friend school parents on FB.

She's also an idiot for assuming a 5 yr old has given her an accurate account of what happened. Has anyone responded on FB to her comment?

Did you see her? I would have just given her the raised eye brow treatment. Stupid cow that she is.

MamaTJ - fair enough if it's not so serious that you are spitting tacs over it!

MrsMelons - nice to see you have calmed down :)

I'm still stuck on the fact that anyone over 10 finds it remotely interesting?! Now I know fb is full of crap, but really?? A couple of kids flooding the school toilets - hardly a headliner is it?! She really is pathetic.

Is it possible she just genuinely thought it was funny? And is not intending to belittle your child?

Poor judgement on her part (it's not her call to post about it), but not spiteful.

Link this thread to the comments on her fb page then namechange
Actually the school would take it very seriously as the children are minors. Last year a couple of parents posted some pictures of the end of year do for year 6's with other children on not just their own. One parent got quite upset that a picture of her DD was on other peoples fb page without her permission and ended up getting it sorted through the school. That was something posted up with good intentions. This is just plain nasty and would probably come under the school's bullying policy.

Flobba you have no idea how seriously I considered that course of action!

I told her she was brave to post that about someone else's child and before I could say much else she said she hadn't meant to offend me. I was telling my CM about it and other mum said she hadn't realised how serious it was. Then I'm ashamed to say I blanked her and went home.

Next time I see her I'll apologise for being bolshy but I'm she she'd have felt the same way if her child had been involved. Poor DS has another lunch date with the head today!

flobba presumably though she didn't name the OPs son?

She did, real. She named both of the DC involved.

Don't apologise to her!!

Chipping I am being a bit stupid - have I missed something - what did I say that wasn't calm my memory is cleary awful. Sorry if I was rude!

No, don't you dare apologise! Doing that will make you look like you were in the wrong to pull her up on it.

Well, I'm sure there was no malice in her actions, but it was thoughtless. If she'd made a joke at the school gates I'd have been fine about it.

Three other mums were lovely to me today, saying they felt really sorry for us and being reassuring (they have older DC). So it's heartening that some people are kind. I feel much better now - I'll still make my peace with FB mum but I'll explain and justify my crossness, don't worry!

And thank you all for your kind posts, I didn't know if I was being a neurotic PFBish loon :)

You've done nothing to make peace about.

Don't "make peace" with her. It should be the other way round. It will make her feel justified in what she did.

Oh you are so not being unreasonable.

TBH I would be half tempted later on this evening to put on your status that you "find it quite sad when people plaster their entire lives over Facebook" but then I'm petty like that!