to feel aggrieved with this mum or am I having a sense of humour failure?

[poachedeggs]

DS is 5 and did something very naughty at school today which caused damage. He and his friend have been severely reprimanded by the class and head teachers, plus the janitor. DS is very remorseful (to the extent that he offered to give the contents of his piggy bank to the head in order to pay for repairs!) and it has been taken seriously all round.

So I'm mightily pissed off that a mum from the class has posted on Facebook, tagging myself and the other boy's mum, gleefully tutting because shed heard all about it from her child. I will struggle to contain myself should her angel child step out of line in the future.

Trying to feel lighthearted about it but tbh I'm gutted, disappointed in DS and really cross that it's so fucking amusing.

Boojum - he was missing for a month?

Didn't you notice?

my dd used to be naughty at school and my neighbour who worked as a dinner lady couldn't wait to tell me when she saw me. he own dd was a year older and has not turned out to week - perhaps it would have been better if she had concentrated on her own parenting rather than on what my dd was up to all the time

What an utter bitch

I'm afraid I would feel the need to publicly humiliate her....but then I have too many hormones just now

I'd probably make a passive aggressive status update about nosey bitches who feel the need to talk about things that don't involve them - then tag her in it.

Cow.

Yanbu at all. What a fucking cow!!

Ooh i would be so.itching to say something to her.

What does the other mum who was tagged think about it?

No Yanbu, she is completely out of order. Why on earth did she think it was appropriate to talk about someone else's child on fbook? How horrible.

I would be very cross as it is not her news to broadcast. I would of written that on there too.

To be honest when I first read your OP I though that it does sound as though she might have just misjudged the situation - the fact that she has tagged you suggests that she thinks you are all having a little chuckle about it together, rather than laughing about it behind your back. It is the kind of thing that could be considered amusing (and if you think you might look back on this is the future and laugh, then you can see where she's coming from). But you know her best, so only you can judge whether she might have found it equally funny had it been her son. I know my friends will often gleefully post about the naughty things their kids have done, even when the children themselves are actually in quite a lot of trouble, just because it shows how silly/inventive/away with the fairies their kids are despite supposedly knowing better (as Boojum has demonstrated!).

yes dojo, and had it been her son, no problem for her to do it.
trouble is that not only it is not her story to tell, but it involves a couple of 5 year olds in what looks like a name & shame situation!

I'm happy to go on about my children's naughty or lovely deeds, but wouldn't tell you about their cousins' or friends' misbehaviour, coz I'd consider the feelings of the child, who's actually very sorry!

even if it is a funny story I'd probably leave the names out, you never know if the child or the parent wouldn't be embarrassed about what happened even decades later!

Personally I would speak to the school about that. I'm sure they would take it seriously.

I wouldn't speak to the school about it - some of you will be wanting 'the school' to sort out arguements between you and your DH next!

Poachedeggs - you haven't had a sense of humour failure, she was just being... well, pathetic. Is her life really, really so dull that she needed to post this on facebook?

I really don't see how it's funny? Let alone something to waste your time posting on facebook?!

It's a non event really to anyone other than those directly involved - well, anyone over 10 who has a brain cell.

No Chipping this is very different to fussing about an argument. It is a breach of privacy and if this were my DC whose name and deeds were being bandied about on public forums, I would be beyond talking to the woman in question.

Remember that this is an age where we are all "journalists" and what we say online can have far reaching consequences. Hence some recent issues where people have been prosecuted for what they have said online.

I am 'friends' on FB, for the reasons you have stated, with the mother of my DDs bully.

Much as I would love to say on there about how nasty J is and what is her mother doing about it, I never would. That is a situation that directly affects me.

The toilets flooding (however did they manage that?) has nothing to do with her. I would be having firm words in the morning.

Oh how common of her!

Does she live in a trailer?

MrsMushroom but it doesn't have anything to do with the school, the school haven't told other parents about it. You can't stop children telling their parents about things that happen at school.

No-one is going to prosecute some twat for repeating what a child has said about another child flooding a toilet

MamaTJ - how come you are still friends with her on facebook, I would have to defriend her (but I make life much simpler, I don't do fb!)

Kids flood toilets all the time, usually by stuffing lots of paper down them - or their packed lunch that has been lovingly made for them

Within a few days of ds1 starting school I was called in to see the teacher. He had "sharpened" all the classroom pencils down to 1" stubs. If he was left unsupervised for that length of time I think they got of lightly.

Hs's 17 now and has turned out well so I wouldn't worry too much.

chipping most schools take online bullying VERY seriously and this malicious gossip...because that is what it is....is a form of bullying.

CJ

It is not online bullying FGS. It is one mother talking out of turn. Do get a grip.

Chipping, she is a bit ineefective but trying is why I am still friends with her. It is her daughter doing the bullying, not her.

I would hate to think of someone defriending me because of anything my DC did.

Tagging:- www.facebook.com/about/tagging

chipping I have a grip...calm down.

Online bullying, like any bullying is designed to make the victim feel shame or persecution...and fear.

Gossiping, sniggering about and in this case spreading the news of a child's actions are bullying imo.

I just checked the definition of Cyber bullying and posting gossip about another person is indeed a part of it.