For thinking MIL is BU for not using her Tesco points for us anymore

[elizaregina]

Big on going Probs with PILS, they have one of our clubcards - they spend alot at tesco and with thier points and ours we were able to take DD to some fab places last year there is no way we could afford to without them - for instance - lego land, warwick castle etc, etc...

They seem to use the card depending on if we are in or out of favour, It has been explained to them in detail how much you get in value for points etc...and how it goes on days out for DD.

AIBU for thinking MIL not using her card when she is upset with us is petty beyond belief, and only affects the DD she is supposed to love, and its a way of doing something great at no cost to them and also hardly any effort save scanning the card at checkout! BTW i dont think they would benefit from the points themselves at all - as quite well off.

You aren't supposed to have people outwith your household collect points for you anyway. They can cancel your points and card if they catch on to what you are doing (and I believe they do random checks into usage).

There could be any number of reasons they haven't collected points, maybe they got their own card (whether you think they need it or not they are still entitled to reap the benefits of what they spend) they might have changed supermarket, they might have lost the card.

I think you clearly have issues with them and are just looking for any reason to be pissed off with them tbh and giving it the whole 'Its DD thats missing out' is pretty mean of you. By your own admittance they want to pay for things for her and you don't allow it so even if they are being difficult how is you denying her treats offered by them any different?

I check points coming up to the end of a collection period - which is nigh.

Points are down - my " worker bees" are not pulling thier weight - had a quick look at points collection...oh yes - x hasnt been going....

we can afford to take her out to other cheaper places occasionally - but lego land at full price no way- alot of other places also perhaps one outing - with points you can do loads....

Yes I do have massive issues with them - but whatever MIl thinks of me - IF she has stopped usage because of me - what about DH and DD?

Its a small token they can do for us at no skin off them really - if I have GC and I fall out with the parents and I am well off - they are skint - swipping a card every now and then is not something i would withold....

Miss - its the attitude can imagine them berating us to people also that we wont allowe them to pay for x y and z - but look at thier attitude over a club card - i dont trust them - which is one reason not to invlove them further...it would be horrific if we got dd installed in vasious things then they decided on a whim to pull funding.

anyway - points taken - greensleeves hit nail on head earlier however - i feel quite liberated that people think this is one occasion where I am BU and not her!!!!!!

YANBU. Your MIL sounds petty.

I think your getting a rather hard time Op. for what it's worth I don't think YABU

I also think your MIL sounds petty, YANBU

So you really are not sat outside various Tesco's wearing a disguise with your super zoom specs on making sure your relatives are using your cards and no-one elses...

oh I am disappointed.....

Dunno where you live but check out for fun things that are cheaper or free. My kids would love Lego Land but we cannot afford it ( and our parents don't shop at loyalty card supermarkets). And we still have lots of places we go to.

In all honesty Lockets I dont know but after a while you do get to know patterns - I know she does the rounds of various places and whats her haunts....by now - a spend from her would have shown up.....

She did recently stalk us at the school gates - maybe I should don my DD's merida wig and stalk her back....

I have points from
ourselves
my mum - given to me we are saving them for a holiday
my exh - I buy them at face value as he only spends them in tescos - I spend them on my mum
dhs mum - again we have to give her the money
my best friend - buy them at face value as she just uses them in Tescos

In the past eyar we have been on holiday twice (alfresco £50 offers) with them.

Tescos points actually make a big difference to our life and allow us to do things we couildnt afford otherwise.

I don't see why you need to go to Legoland et al to have fun? We live in the west country and to look at the surface there's naff all to do, but we can do lots of little things every weekend, which makes a huge difference overall. Legoland isn't that great IMO (admittedly I last went when I was 13)

Well Pancakeflipper I think a whole new take on " day out" has been born for my family....

We will all have great fun - being Carrie in Homeland getting " eyes " on the card - which one is she using....it is her own or is it .....ours.....

incidentally if you all shopped somewhere cheaper you could afford these trips out by paying yourselves out of the money you'd save

Op at least you sound quite fun, and are taking it on the chin. Seriously, could you join national trust or something as a fall back (75 quid a year for all 6 of us) - castles, albeit no lego.

YABU. Just be grateful for what points they do give you and let the rest go.

You could have a lovely family outing. Take a box of lego - find a field and make your own Lego land.

Then charge your PIL's to visit....

YABU- and you both sound incredibly petty!

Maybe instead of days out, you need to spend more time in the company of PILs to improve your relationship with each other? [evil]